People will only understand in middle age that there is no point in breaking off relations between brothers and sisters
In the field of biology, there exists a term known as "self-cutting".
When encountering a strong opponent, animals will actively cut off damaged parts of their limbs to save themselves.
For example, crabs can cut off their feet on their own.
When we marvel at the wisdom of crabs, we should also reflect on ourselves and what is the reason behind the "brotherhood".
Crabs cut off their feet as an instinct, and "siblings" are selfish.
Mencius once said: "The reason why people are different from beasts is that the common people go to them, and the gentlemen remain." ”
Human beings are considered superior because we are aware that we are upright individuals who are willing to pursue the way of a gentleman and respect benevolence and morality. Therefore, when we reach adulthood, we should clearly understand that there is no point in breaking ties with our siblings.
The severance of friendship between siblings can make the hearts of parents become cold.
As the saying goes: "Raising a child knows how hard it is for a mother, and raising a daughter knows how to thank a mother." ”
When we were young, we only knew how to ask for it, but we never understood how hard it was for our parents. Parents are often seen as a mountain and a river.
As we grew older, we also became parents, and when we left the extended family, we truly realized how difficult it is to be good parents.
Many people blame the partiality of their parents, which directly leads to the severance of relations between siblings. Actually, this is not the case, because parents are not saints, they only treat their children according to their own subjective ideas, and they lack a standard ruler to measure their behavior.
For example, parents give their daughter a skirt and a suit to their son, the two are different, but their value is equal. We only see the superficial differences, but ignore the substantive equality.
Bi Shumin wrote in "Filial Piety is Priceless": "There are some things that we can't understand when we are young. And when we understand, we are no longer young. There are things in the world that can be made up, and some things that can never be made up. ”
The love of parents is priceless, and so is the filial piety of children. If we only care about the love of our parents, but forget how to express filial piety, it is a great disrespect to our parents, and we will surely leave regrets.
As parents, they certainly don't want their children to break off their friendship with each other, because their children are their "heart".
Whether siblings break off friendship or not, life depends on themselves after all.
once wrote an article "Self-improvement and self-reliance, life does not depend on brothers and sisters".
Reader "Wandering Clouds" left a message: Not to mention brothers and sisters, even parents can't be completely dependent. Before getting married, she often sent money to her brother and even bought clothes for him. However, now that my brother is living a prosperous life, he has no sense of returning. She asked herself, maybe she took her feelings too seriously.
There's a famous saying that says, "Everything you do may only move you and not others." ”
Everyone has their own path in life and their own small family. If the entanglement is too deep, it will hinder each other's progress.
In fact, many people leave their hometowns in middle age and rarely see their siblings throughout the year. The changes in the hometown and the distribution of family property are no longer important.
However, some people are so focused on their family property that they refuse to give up for a vegetable plot. Even if they don't have time to run it, they refuse to give it to their siblings to farm, even if they leave the vegetable plot abandoned.
On the other hand, what's the point of fighting for family property if everyone can rely on themselves?
Life is like a breath, if you can swallow it, your heart will be more relaxed, and it will become irrelevant to whether you break off your siblings or not.
If family members break off their friendships, it is not beneficial for all parties.
A grandmother once told the story of two adult brothers who inherited the old house left by their parents and lived in half separately. Since there was a house in the middle that could not be divided, there were constant quarrels.
The younger brother was angry and went out to work for half a year. When he returned, he was shocked to see that his brother had demolished half of his house and sold all the bricks and wood. Said embarrassedly: "Brother, I have bought a house in the city, and I want to hand over the whole house to you." ”
The elder brother stood silent for a long time.
In human nature, there is a bad mentality: if you can't get it, you won't allow others to get it. Brothers and sisters are like siblings, if they have to be divided into pieces, like breaking their fingers and discarding their palms, how can they bear it?
It doesn't matter if your loved ones help you or not, or if they can help you, after all, you still have a "right hand". Time is not over, if one day everyone wakes up, the beauty will return.
As a person, there should be a way out, and do not dig your own grave.
It's really difficult to really break off relations between brothers and sisters, and they only provide laughter for outsiders.
Even if you cut off contact with everyone, you can't change the fact of blood and genes. No one can jump out of a crack in a stone like Sun Wukong.
If a large family is torn into countless pieces, even if you occupy the majority, it is just a joke in the eyes of onlookers.
In the Shandong Bangzi opera "The Story of the Wall", Carpenter Zhang pulled his two sons alone and helped them marry their daughters-in-law. However, when Carpenter Zhang had difficulty moving, his two sons were unwilling to take care of him.
It was reluctantly agreed that the two families would take turns to take care of them, alternating monthly. However, on the 31st, prevarication and entanglement were endless. After all, it seems unfair for my father to eat three more meals.
Carpenter Zhang's friend Wang Yinjiang said to his two sons: "Don't despise your old father, he has property." ”
So, the two sons scrambled to take care of Carpenter Zhang. Their argument is laughable.
As the saying goes: "The bystanders are clear, but the authorities are confused." ”
What you may think of as a big thing is just a trivial matter in the eyes of others;The stumbling blocks you have set are nothing but walls to stand on their own.
To put it bluntly, just for the sake of temporary face, but it has lost its roots. Sibling feud will lead to resentment of parents, property fights, mutual lashing, etc., and alienation from each other, like a burlesque on stage.
It is necessary to understand that life is beautiful because of love, and the world is harmonious because of gratitude.
Since you can't choose to be born and can't get rid of blood ties, you learn to be grateful and don't care about gains and losses.
Caigen Tan" said: "Ethics comes from nature, and virtue should be grateful." ”
Brotherhood is human nature, which can be measured by a non-balance and accurately measured by a ruler.
People's hearts are as vast as a ruler and as deep as the sea.
May you and I not get too entangled in meaningless things.