Everybody, about the recent bitThe 36-year-old sister is trying to get pregnantI have some views that I would like to share with you. Here's the thing: "36 years old, unemployed for 5 months, preparing for a pregnancy, trying to do IVF, the first time it didn't work, it cost 20,000 yuan, and the second time is about to be carried out." No house, no car, 1 million deposits, my husband's monthly salary is 20,000, I don't have a job and I have to spend money, now I don't even want to order takeaway, all kinds of daily money-saving operations, he never cooks, I do it and I'm annoyed, the days without income are really enough, but it's really difficult to find a job and worry about getting pregnant soon. I don't know how to solve it?”
Originally, the company was gone, and the husband was left in the family to make money. As a result, a child is not easy, alreadyTried the tube twice, it cost 20,000 yuan the first time, and this time it is estimated that it will cost more. I thought about it, it would cost fifty or sixty thousand yuan just for this matter, plus the cost of living, how long would it takeThe 1 million yuan deposit must not be finished。Besides, I don't understandMy husband's monthly salary is 20,000 yuan, and I still think that my wife has no job every day, and she is frugal, and she knows how to consume all day long, and she doesn't cook or wash clothes
Having said that, it's not easy to have a baby, let alone have itI'm 36 years old, how low is the success rate, and seeing how low her husband's attitude is, she is also very depressed, not allowed to order takeout, and asks her to cook by herself every day.
I understand that the cost of living is indeed high right now, but this is also too much to ask. The woman has already borne a huge burden of childbirth, and if her husband cannot give support and encouragement, it will be difficult for her to maintain a happy mental state. I wonder if this wife can't conceive a baby at this time, and she worries about giving birth to a baby at home every day, and the pressure is not big enoughI have to worry about making ends meet every day, this is simply to add insult to injury.
My advice is that the couple needs to communicate well and rebuild a relationship of mutual understanding and support。Having a child is a matter for the husband and wife, not a unilateral wife. The husband should also be actively involved in sharing household chores with his wife and taking care of his wife's physical and mental health. If the husband is always selfish, the pressure on the wife will increaseIt is not conducive to conception and childbirth. I understand that my husband may also be under pressure at work now, but this time is more important than ever for family unity.
If the economy is really worried, the husband can appropriately reduce some unnecessary consumption. But you can't just don't give takeout because of this, and push it all on the woman. It is advisable to give the woman appropriate living expenses, which she can use reasonably according to her own situation, and she can also feel financial independence and respect.
The most important thing for family harmony is to be accommodating and caring for each other. This is the woman's second IVF, and she hopes that through the joint efforts of both parties, she can successfully realize her wish for childbirth. Finally, I wish the couple can re-establish a relationship of mutual support and respect and work together to overcome the current difficulties.
Home is a place of love, once there is a reason to implant ideas, will not be happy, everything has the laws and categories that it can exist, and there will be contradictions if this category is violated, the reason is not to prepare, the excuse is not to prepare, people live is a result, you calm down and think, what do you want, is it a living feeling or a living result?What do you think?
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