My name is Li Yang, I am 30 years old and I have been working for 5 years. I work as a programmer in a foreign company, although the work pressure is relatively high, but the salary is okay, and now the annual salary is about 300,000 yuan. My wife's name is Yangmei, two years younger than me, she is very beautiful and cute, and her personality is also very gentle and virtuous. We started through the engagement, and after dating for more than a year, we got married three years ago. The relationship has always been very good, and now it is still in the sweet period, and there will be occasional small awkwardness, but they can be adjusted quickly. My mother-in-law's name is Cao Suzhen, a typical mother-in-law, who likes to point fingers at the affairs of our husband and wife, and we have no choice but to listen to her. I also have a brother-in-law named Zhang Li, who is 5 years younger than me, and he has just graduated and worked for a short time, so his income is not high.
Husband, you're back!Yang Mei came out of the kitchen with a smile and stepped forward to give me a hug. "Well, I finished my work early today, so I didn't have to work overtime, so I came back directly. I also happily hugged bayberry. "It's just right, it's time to start the meal, and today I made your favorite braised pork. Yang Mei smiled sweetly, then turned around and went back to the kitchen. I was about to go to the room to put down my things, but my mother-in-law's voice suddenly interjected: "Hey, Yangyang, look at the second brother Li, who is a few years younger than you, has bought a house a few days ago and is about to get married." You make so much money, why are you still living here with me?”
I stood still, stunned. Buying a house is a plan that I have discussed with Yangmei, and I originally thought that as the head of the family, through my hard work, I can already support my wife and lay the foundation for a better future. I didn't expect my mother-in-law's words to shatter my pride. I knew she had good intentions, but saying that I couldn't do it openly like this, and comparing myself to others, hit my self-esteem a lot.
I tried to calm down and didn't reply to my mother-in-law on the spot. As an elderly person, she looks at things from a different perspective, and I need to be considerate. Besides, buying a house is indeed my plan and Yangmei's plan, but it was temporarily delayed by other expenses. I sat at the dinner table and ate in silence, thinking about this question repeatedly. The money is really not enough, it seems that you can only work overtime to make money and save money. I understand my mother-in-law's anxiety, but Yangmei and I are living well now, so we don't need to be in a hurry. I made up my mind to work hard to build up the balance for a while longer, and when I bought the house, we could move out and start living independently. As long as there is a plan, according to our current income, at least one more year, it should be realized.
On Sunday, I was working in my room when I suddenly heard the doorbell ring. I went out to take a look, it was my brother-in-law Zhang Li. "Hello uncle!He greeted me with a smile and sat down at the table. "You're here?It's rare to have a break today, so we just had lunch together. I said with a smile. "Okay!Zhang Limei said with a smile. At this time, the mother-in-law also came over and said to Zhang Zhang with a smile: "It's just in time, just about to eat, my uncle went to call my aunt to come to dinner together!."I was about to call Yangmei, but my mother-in-law grabbed me and looked at me with a serious face: "Ayang, I'll say it one last time, you have to buy a house and move out as soon as possible!"You're such a big man, and you're still living with me, how unbelievable!My smile froze on my face. Why did she say such things in front of tension?
At this moment, I didn't expect Zhang Zhang to suddenly stand up, with an angry face: "Auntie, I can't listen to it anymore!."Uncle, he works hard outside and can already support the family, how can you say that he can't?Buying a house is people's own business, and they need to save money, what's wrong with that?"I was very surprised, I didn't expect Zhang Li to speak for me. The mother-in-law looked puzzled: "Isn't it good for him?"It's a man's responsibility to start a family, and it's not appropriate for him to live with me when he's such a big man, right?"He earns only that money every month, and he needs to save money to buy a house, right?"What's wrong with that?Zhang Li's face turned red as he spoke, and his tone became excited, "When I first worked, my salary was not more than half of my uncle's, why do you have to say that he can't?"After speaking, he slammed his chopsticks and turned around to leave. I hurriedly grabbed him: "Zhang Li, don't get excited, sit down and talk." Zhang Li shook off my hand and walked away without looking back. Now I finally realized that my mother-in-law was really too much this time.
I turned around and looked at my mother-in-law seriously: "Mom, I've been planning to buy a house, and it will take time." With the money I earn now, it's normal for me to need to save for a while to buy a house. You don't have the right to sarcastically mock me like that, and you can't force me in this way. ”
The mother-in-law looked surprised, she stammered and couldn't speak. I took a deep breath to calm down and continued, "Mom, I understand your thoughts, but life must be planned and paced, and you can't rush it. I'm going to work hard to buy the house as planned, and we'll move out when the time comes. But until then, please don't say that about me again. It's good to live like this now. ”
After dinner, I sat alone on the balcony and smoked, still thinking about the dispute with my mother-in-law during the day. At this time, the mother-in-law came over with tea and an apologetic face.
Yangyang, it's Auntie, it's wrong, don't be angry. "My mother-in-law put the tea in front of me with an apologetic tone.
I looked up at her and didn't speak.
Auntie was just anxious to see you have your own home as soon as possible, but maybe the way was wrong, and it pressed on you instead. The mother-in-law sighed, "You and Meimei have such a good relationship, Auntie is very pleased." When it comes to buying a house, you can just have your own plans, and I shouldn't always meddle. ”
I could tell that her apology was heartfelt. The thought that she had always been nice to us, only occasionally going too far in this matter, softened my mentality.
Mom, I understand that you mean well, but in a way that makes me uncomfortable. I'll do my best, don't worry too much. I gave her a reassuring smile.
The mother-in-law nodded, and there was apology in her eyes: "Auntie is old, she looks at the problem from the wrong angle, and she is not considerate enough of your young people's thoughts." It's me who is not good, don't you mind, take your time. ”
I got up and gave my mother-in-law a hug to show that I had forgiven her. As a typical Chinese mother-in-law, I can understand her thoughts, but it may be too strong for young people.
Mom, it's a good idea that you can care so much about us, I understand it. It's just that there are a lot of uncertainties in life, and buying a house also requires a process, as long as you can understand it. I said mildly.
The mother-in-law nodded: "I'm getting old, and I really can't understand what you young people think." But as long as you are happy, I am happy as a mother. ”
Don't keep saying that you're old, look at the body is still so tough, the waist is still so straight, **old?I jokingly said it, making my mother-in-law laugh too.
Okay, okay, I was wrong. Don't mind my old words in the future, we just get along. My mother-in-law smiled and patted my hands.
I nodded: "Of course I understand your kindness. It's good for us to live in harmony as a family, and don't worry too much about anything else. ”
The mother-in-law smiled, her gaze softened. I know that our relationship is finally back on track. Between relatives, a little more understanding and a little more tolerance, life will be much easier.
After the argument with my mother-in-law that day, I was alone and thought deeply. In addition to being a qualified male lead, I still have a lot to be improved. I can't always think about myself and ignore the thoughts of my parents' generation. They were born in another era, and it is true that they look at things from different angles, but these are only different positions, and they do not represent who is right and who is wrong. I need to learn to be understanding and considerate from the perspective of others.
After all, relatives are the people closest to them. No matter how many things go wrong in my life, I should learn to communicate with my family and cherish this relationship. Life is not easy, and the relationship I have accumulated with my family is what supports me to go on. I decided that no matter what happens in the future, I will communicate more with my family and cherish their care, so that we can care for each other and tide over difficulties together as a family.