Wen Yu Pian.
If you match the paranoid personality with the Enneagram, then they must be the sixth personality of the Enneagram - the skeptic.
They are suspicious, logical, but stubborn.
Because they doubt everything, skeptics will not slack off on the loyalty between you, even if they are two people who love each other the most.
Sadly, skeptics generally have a hard time getting their way.
Because "negative self-fulfilling prophecies" will prompt people with paranoid personalities to carefully look for evidence of "infidelity" at the center of "doubt", and not let go of any clues, as if they are participating in the "anticipation of the future" of "creating infidelity", so that the "prediction" and "doubt" of their disloyalty will become the reality of the future.
For example, a husband with a paranoid personality has a wife who loves him very much, but he never believes that such love will happen to him, he does not believe that his wife will be loyal to him for the rest of his life, so he often pays attention to his wife's whereabouts and friends, once he finds any clues, he is more worried and afraid, and then the "supervision" of his wife becomes more severe.
The helpless wife cooperates with her husband's supervision at first, but over time, she also resents her husband's distrust, which will slowly eat away at the wife's feelings for her husband, and the wife may be more inclined to the outside world to give her understanding and support.
And this just makes the paranoid husband more determined and convinced: My wife really doesn't love me so much!She really wants to leave me!
Paranoid personalities can also have "delusions of victimization" and "delusions of love".
"Delusion of victimization" is like what is written in "Diary of a Madman", always feeling that others are going to harm themselves.
Nervous and worried all day, many things have to be checked over and over again to see if they are safe and reliable;
He does not let down his guard against those closest to him, as if he is always defending himself.
They are always frowning, cautious, and have a very uneasy life.
"Delusional love" is a bit like another popular term in psychology, "sexual brain".
It is a little bit of kindness and consideration to you, and you feel that the other person is interesting to you.
In the end, it even developed to the point that there was no substantive interaction between you at all, and you built a solid love in your own world.
It's like the "love" that an avid fan has for a certain star
"Create" a false object in the mind, and then frantically compensate for the lack of emotions in one's heart.
Even if the other party clearly rejects them, they will make up all kinds of reasons to continue to pursue the ideal and perfect love in their hearts.
If a person with a paranoid personality finds that things are not what they imagined, they will immediately collapse, and the original love and extreme love will immediately become very hate, extreme hatred, and they will want to destroy you and "die together" with you.
That's why many fans will do a lot of crazy things after being snubbed and rejected by their favorite celebrities, such as slander and slander, in an attempt to ruin the other party's reputation.
In the workplace, the more powerful a person is, the more likely he is to have paranoid personality traits.
On the one hand, they need good employees who can take charge of themselves, and on the other hand, they are always suspicious of whether the other party will have two hearts for them.
So on the one hand, he rewarded him, and on the other hand, he suppressed him, so that he could not get ahead one day.
If you have this paranoid personality around you, it is best to keep a proper distance from him, respect him, and don't be too curious about his private affairs.
Because no matter how much you invest in such a person, you can only end up with "ignition", especially intimate relationships.