As a mother, do you really understand your child?Do post-00s really have to rely on their mothers for everything?Do you think they really accept the care you care about your children?After reading the discussion of the following three post-00s girls on their mothers, you can roughly understand the true thoughts of the post-00s.
Lily is 20 years old and a junior in college. Her family is a family of four, and she has an older sister who is 25 years old and has been working for two or three years. During the summer vacation, Lily and her sister lived at home, and it was inevitable that they would be nagged by their mother if they stayed at home for a long time. Lily's most common nagging is that her sister is looking for a partner, and her mother always urges her sister to go out to talk about friends, find a boy for a date, and talk about getting married and having children early in two years!When my mother talked about it, she was able to talk about it alone for hours without stopping, until her sister slammed the door and left.
Looking at her sister's current situation, Lily can think of what she looks like when her sister is so old, and it is estimated that she will be urged to marry by her mother every day. Lily's mother, who was forty-six years old, married early when she was young, and belonged to a generation of early marriage and early childbearing. Therefore, her concept is that she should get married and have children at the age of 25.
Her mother is also a square dance enthusiast and loves to dance with a focus on health. Lily said that the first thing her mother said when she came back from dancing at 9 p.m. was to urge the sisters to take a shower. "Which of you is going to wash first?"It's past nine o'clock, hurry up and take a shower one by one!"It makes Lily's hair stand on end, and if she doesn't wash it, her mother will keep calling until they go into the bathroom.
Does Lily think that the bath thing has to be stuck before ten o'clock?She couldn't understand her mother's request, knowing that she was still showering at 12 o'clock in the dormitory when she went to college. She didn't like her mother urging her to take a bath, and she even felt a little forced. You can't do something as small as bathing in your own house. Although she felt uncomfortable, she couldn't refute it, and once she angered her mother, she would cry and quarrel with Lily for a long time.
Sometimes mothers feel that they are caring for their children, but invisibly that kind of care becomesA sense of bondage, a sense of oppression, and I don't know it。Use your decades of life experience to control your child to live the way you want to live, you knowChildren are independent individuals, they have their own ideas and their own way of life.
Tao Tao is 21 years old, just graduated from college, her job is to tutor middle school students, and there are currently seven regular students, tutoring for 300 yuan an hour. They also have a family of four, and in addition to their parents, there is a younger brother who is 8 years younger than her and has just entered the first year of junior high school. Her parents rarely disciplined her, and according to her, she was raised in the free-range as a child. But her mother has a kind of expectation for her younger brother to "hope that her son will become a dragon", and she is very strict with discipline. In addition to letting his younger brother do homework, his mother also arranged a lot Xi of training questions for him, and according to his mother's idea, it was better for his younger brother not to have anything else to do besides studying.
If her mother only attaches more importance to her younger brother, she has no opinion, but in her opinion, she was kidnapped by her mother's morality. What's going on?
Taotao's younger brother is not very good at Xi, and he loves to play games. In order to supervise her younger brother's Xi, her mother accompanied her to do her homework until 11:30 p.m. every day, and got up again at 5 a.m. to go to work.
Tao Tao saw her mother working so hard and persuaded her mother to take it easy, she was afraid that her mother would get up early and be greedy for darkness, which would not be good for her health. But these concerns are superfluous for the mother, and the mother not only did not appreciate it, but also scolded Taotao.
Mother blamed Tao Tao for not knowing how to teach her own brother as a tutor for others, and blamed Tao Tao for not fulfilling her responsibilities as a sister. Tao Tao quarreled with her mother about this, and she didn't speak to her mother for several days.
Tao Tao originally felt sorry for her mother and didn't want her to work so hard. Looking at the almost 50-year-old mother's head with more gray hair, I felt very uncomfortable. But her mother didn't understand herself, and blamed herself in a vicious tone, so she was even more sad and aggrieved.
Taotao's job as a tutor is not easy, and she has to get up before 7 o'clock every morning to go to the students' homes to teach them. In my free time, I also have to read books and Xi. Tao Tao also tutored her younger brother to learn Xi, but later her younger brother was greedy for games and stopped learning, and she didn't bother to teach anymore. You can still earn money by tutoring others, but tutoring your younger brother is not only a waste of time, but she doesn't learn when she teaches him, and her mother blames her in turn if she doesn't learn well. Why bother with thankless?
For this reason, she no longer knows how to communicate with her stubborn and persistent mother. Taotao's mother is very strong, she wants them to do everything according to her, strive for perfection, and hope that her younger brother can listen to her study well and Xi to get into a good high school. But adolescence meets menopause, and the younger brother wants to rebel against his mother's control. The ideological concept is different, Tao Tao is powerless to change her mother, but she just feels caught between them and breathless.
Yueyue is 21 years old and still looking for a job just after graduating from college. They are a family of five, and her grandparents live with her. Because she is an only child, her mother and her family pay high attention to her, and what she can't stand the most is her mother's nagging.
When Yueyue was reading books and looking at her mobile phone at home, her mother would always ask her over and over again if she wanted to eat thisDo you want to eat that?Yueyue said that she didn't eat it, and she still said she didn't eat it when she asked again. The mother would come over with an apple and hand it to Yueyue, "Here you are, eat an apple." Yueyue could only shout impatiently, "Don't eat, don't eat, I won't eat anything, you can eat if you want, don't worry about me!."”
Her mother would say something many times at a time, and she wouldn't stop until she said she was angry. In Yueyue's opinion, she has grown up, and she will take whatever she wants to eat, and her mother seems to feed her like a child who has not grown up.
She felt that her family's love for her was already too sweet, and her mother had nothing else to do except revolve around her all day long. She couldn't accept her mother's love anymore, and even wanted to resist and push her mother away and break free from the shackles of love.
The post-00s generation grew up in honey, and they felt too much doting. They have been well protected since they were children, and they have never suffered any setbacks, and the reason why they want to break free from their mother's care is that they want to be independent. They need a space and time to solve things on their own, and they need to grow themselves.
The mother is afraid that her children will suffer because she has lived a hard life and does not want her children to suffer the same hardship again. In fact, thinking about it the other way, it is the hardships that I have endured that have made me who I am now. If the mother arranges everything for the child now, and the child obeys the mother in everything, then in the future they will only become another you, and will not develop more broadly.
Let it go!Let the post-00s children soar on their own, and give them more opportunities to create and innovate!They are far stronger and more confident than we think, believing that they can solve all the things they are going to experience in life on their own.
Don't be a mother who "stifles" the post-zeros, be their strong backing, and support and encourage them a lot.
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