How should children make up for the deformity of their parents' "sideways" marriage?
Da Liu leaned on the wardrobe, squatting on the ground of his bedroom, staring blankly at the two sick old men lying on the bed, he frowned, full of bitterness, and didn't know what to do.
Originally, there was only one old man in the family who was sick in bed, and he was still able to take care of it, but now that he is well, two old people are sick at the same time, and the old man who could have helped him now also needs to take care of himself. The two of them drank medicine for a while, and it was convenient for a while, and they made themselves anxious all day long, and they couldn't cope with it at all.
My wife went to the city to serve her daughter-in-law's confinement, and she had just gone for seven or eight days, at least she had to come back after the full moon, and even after the full moon, she had to help bring her grandson, and the day of going home was far away. Now the family is left alone, taking care of these two fathers, in addition to eating and taking medicine on time every day, they also have to take feces and urine.
I wrote it right, and you read it right, the two fathers lying on the bed are Da Liu's two fathers, and they are not his father-in-law and father-in-law, both of them are fathers who have raised him since childhood. Seeing this, are you very confused, how can a person have two fathers, you listen to me and tell you slowly.
Da Liu is in his early fifties this year, grew up in the countryside since he was a child, and since he can remember, he has found that his family is not the same as other people's families, other people's families are a pair of parents and several children, and his own family has an uncle in addition to his parents, sister and himself. And he has the same surname as his father and sister, and his uncle himself has a surname, and his uncle sleeps on the same kang with his family every day.
My father and mother were both farmers and worked in the fields every day. And my uncle is a private teacher, who works as a teacher in the town's primary school, and rides his bicycle to work in the town every morning and comes back in the evening.
When he was a child, Da Liu was very proud, because other children's children were in tattered clothes and ate chaff vegetables, but he could wear white shirts, flared leg pants, yellow rubber shoes, and sometimes he could eat rare hibiscus cakes and trough cakes.
At that time, how many friends followed Da Liu's ass and drooled, in order to be able to get a bite of delicious food from him, they obeyed Da Liu's words, and let them do whatever they wanted.
Of course, these clothes and food were bought by my uncle from the town, and my father and mother were reluctant to buy these things for themselves. Da Liu has the impression that the black bag that his uncle carries on the front of the bicycle is like a treasure chest, and there are always all kinds of things he wants in it.
Da Liu continues to grow up in such a sense of superiority.
Until one day, Da Liu went to the neighbor's house to play with his good friend Ergou, and showed off his new clothes with Ergou, which made Ergou cry to his parents. Seeing that Ergou was crying darkly, his snot was all over his face, and Da Liu was complacent there.
Seeing the second dog crying, the father of the second dog who couldn't bear it anymore scolded: "Look at your unproductive appearance, learn everything with a mongrel, want to wear new clothes, and let your mother find you a side cover." ”
As soon as the second dog's father finished speaking, the broom pimple in the second dog's hand was thrown over his head. The second dog father turned around and went out of the door angrily, and Da Liu was also kicked out of the house by the second dog lady.
Da Liu knew that the words mongrel and sidewear that came out of the mouth of the second dog father were not good words, and it was very likely that he was talking about himself, but he didn't quite understand what they meant. Da Liu didn't dare to ask his father and uncle, so he secretly asked his sister.
My sister was four years older than him, and she was already in the fifth grade at that time, so she had long understood the meaning of these words, and she had heard others talk about her own family in the village, so she told Da Liu what she understood, and pretended to understand him very well: "Others say that uncle is pulling a side trick in our house, and they also say that you are uncle's seed." ”
After hearing his sister's explanation, Da Liu was very sad, but he didn't expect that the uncle he had always been proud of turned out to be his own shame and the topic of others mocking him behind his back. When he got home, he asked his mother why his uncle was playing a side suit in his house.
Da Liu Niang was suddenly furious, and asked who he said, Da Liu told his mother as it was, but his sister was beaten by his mother, and then Da Liu Niang stood in her yard and scolded the courtyard wall of Ergou's house for a whole afternoon.
Da Liu's father sat on the kang and watched his wife scolding in the yard, smoking dry tobacco without saying a word, until Uncle Da Liu came back from work, and persuaded Da Liu Niang to go back to the house.
Since then, Da Liu has become hostile to his uncle, and no longer goes to the streets with him, does not wear the clothes he bought, and does not eat what he bought. His father ignored him, and his mother only scolded him for not being good or bad, but his uncle didn't care about him, and still cared for him.
After all, Da Liu is still a child, and he can't help the ** of new clothes, toys and snacks, and after a while, everything is business as usual again, but he has a deep imprint in his heart, and people say that he is a mongrel.
By the time Da Liu was in junior high school, his uncle had stopped teaching due to his low level of education, and was assigned to the logistics of the club, and the two of them went to a school.
On the first day when my uncle took Da Liu to report on a bicycle, many of the faculty and staff who met him greeted him and said, "You are here to report with your son?"Your son looks like you. Uncle agreed happily with a smile on his face.
Some faculty members who knew the details looked at Da Liu and his uncle and smiled silently.
Da Liu went to school in the club for a year, then dropped out of school and went home, because the classmates in the class said that the logistics teacher was not his uncle but his own father, and asked him why he didn't have his uncle's surname. Da Liu had a fight with others, and he never went back again.
Da Liu's family structure has not changed because of his dropout of school, and his father, mother, and uncle still sleep on a kang bunk.
My sister got married, Da Liu and the three elders slept on a kang in a bunk, feeling awkward, and always felt that I couldn't raise my head when I went out, so I went to work outside.
Within a few years, the private teachers in the countryside were turned into regulars, and Uncle Liu was lucky to become a staffed teacher.
Seeing that Uncle Da Liu became a regular worker, many rural women wanted to marry him, and many matchmakers avoided Da Liu's parents and privately asked him to find a woman to marry, not to pull a dry boat here for a lifetime, but he refused.
Da Liu worked outside for a few years and didn't make any money, so his parents asked him to come back and start a family. After Da Liu came back, his parents told him a daughter-in-law, and the woman's bride price and the money for building a house were all paid by his uncle.
Da Liu looked at his kind father and his uncle who loved him, and his feelings were more complicated. It is difficult to evaluate the choices made by my parents at that time, and I dare not ask them to change this lifestyle. While Da Liu hesitated, he also understood that his current life benefited from the care of his two fathers. It is precisely because of their care that my life is relatively easy.
After thinking about it as an adult, Da Liu accepted all this.
In the year of Da Liu's death, aside from everyone and Da Liu, she told the reason at that time, when she married into the Liu family, the family couldn't eat enough, couldn't dress warmly, and the life was miserable.
Seeing this situation, in order to keep the family alive, Da Liu's grandmother asked her son to discuss the matter of finding someone to pull the side, and Da Liu's father squatted on the ground and smoked dry tobacco all night. The next night, Uncle Liu moved into Da Liu's house. With the help of Uncle Da Liu, the situation of Da Liu's family gradually improved, and Da Liu was born after a few years.
On her deathbed, Da Liu asked her son to be filial to his father and uncle, and to give them a pension to the end, and Da Liu tearfully agreed.
Although Da Liu Niang was embarrassed to directly say whose kind Da Liu was, this has long been an open secret.
After the death of Da Liu Niang, Da Liu's father and uncle still lived in the same family, and the two usually took care of each other and became two singles.
Uncle Liu retired more than ten years ago and now has a pension of more than 6,000 per month. Da Liu's two sons bought a house in the city, and the old man gave each 100,000 yuan. On weekdays, the family's expenses are basically dependent on my uncle's pension.
Da Liu's father and uncle have helped him take care of his two sons since he was a child, and the sons have long been accustomed to their existence, and they are very close to them, usually calling them grandfather and second grandfather, and buy two copies of the same thing every time, one for each person.
The year before last, the hollow village was renovated, and Da Liu moved to a new house built in the town, and together with his father's indicators, Da Liu divided a 75-square-meter house. My uncle and his family are not the same hukou, and the town asked my uncle to go to a nursing home, but he didn't go, paid 30,000 yuan, and also divided a 50-square-meter building.
In order to take care of them conveniently, Da Liu let his father and uncle live with him, and his uncle's house is usually idle, and his sons live there when they come back.
In the year when he moved into the building, Da Liu's father had a cerebral thrombosis and collapsed on the bed, Da Liu and his wife took care of him.
At the beginning of the year, Uncle Liu kept saying that his eyes were cloudy and he couldn't see clearly, and then it became more and more serious, and Da Liu thought he was a cataract, so he took him to the city for a check-up. Who knew that the doctor said that it was not a cataract, it was fundus hemorrhage, with fundus macular degeneration, fundus bleeding can be absorbed, but the lesion body cannot be **, and the final result can only be blindness. The hospital prescribed some medicine, and Da Liu took his uncle home.
Now that he is over half a hundred years old, in addition to taking care of his grandson with his wife, he also has to take care of these two bedridden old people. I have the intention of sending one of them to a nursing home to reduce my burden, but I don't know who to send away, and whoever is sent away will cause the jokes of relatives and neighbors.
Da Liu, who was full of sorrow, was anxious to find a foolproof solution at this time, so that he could face the pension problem of his two fathers, and hoped that someone could give him support.