In interpersonal communication, the relationship between good friends can be said to be very precious. And when you visit each other's homes, you will find an interesting phenomenon: the better the relationship, the more you can't go empty-handed. This is not to say that you have to bring a gift every time you go to a good friend's house, but to pay attention to maintaining a certain amount of etiquette and dedication among friends. Frequent contact will expose each other's shortcomings and test your relationship. Therefore, in order to maintain each other's comfort, it is necessary to maintain a proper sense of distance and a subtle change in the psychology of giving to each other. One of the most important factors is whether you bring a small gift with you when you visit.
It's just a superficial behavior, but it can sort out the discomfort of a friend being busy, spending extra time and energy because of you. Of course, the frequency of bringing gifts should be controlled on a case-by-case basis. For example, if you go to a friend's house 5 times, you can go empty-handed 2 times and buy something 3 times. Believing in a true friend does not generate any emotions because of this. But if you don't bring anything with you every time and it takes up a lot of the other person's time, your friends will definitely be upset. Therefore, in such a situation, you need to learn to play the role of a friend who knows how to give, and you can't go empty-handed all the time.
The relationship between people, except for family affection, few people can really think about you without considering the relationship of interests. In order to maintain a relationship, you need to be deliberate. Empathy is a very important principle, you should put yourself in the other person's shoes, if you are the other person, how you want the other person to treat you, and then you have to learn to play that role so that you can maintain a relationship. This applies not only to friendship in general, but also to those special friendships. I once had a colleague who had known her best friend for more than 10 years, but then they had a falling out when they lived together. On the surface, the two are still friends when they chat on WeChat, but in fact, the two get along with each other in a discordant manner. At first, her best friend came back from out of town and stayed with her temporarily, doing something that she couldn't get used to.
For example, she always mops the floor alone, and her girlfriend never does it; She's aloneCooking, girlfriends won'tCooking, but never take the initiative to buy groceries, only enjoy. These little things pile up bit by bit and eventually lead to the breakdown of the relationship between the two people. This example shows us that empathy is very important when it comes to interests. You need to think about how you want the other person to treat you if you were the other person, and then you have to learn to treat the other person. In this way, your relationship can be maintained.
The contact between relatives is natural and direct, because their relationship does not require much worry and dedication. But among friends, the sophistication of human feelings is much more subtle. So every time I went to a friend's house for dinner, my mom would always tell me to buy something and not to go empty-handed. At first, I didn't think it was a formality. But as time went on, I gradually began to realize that it was a form of respect and importance for friendships. I've been through a similar situation myself, so I understand the importance of this kind of dedication.
Recently, I have a very good friend and we have a very close relationship. Every time she comes to my house, she brings some specialties from her place of work. Although I didn't really like it, it made me even more welcoming to her arrival. This also made me understand a truth, that is, "take other people's hands short, eat other people's soft mouths". When we lived together, I would get up every morning and mop the floor and come back from work grocery shopping. We take turnsCookingBut she obviously did a little more than me. Because we're all giving, and she's doing more than me, I've never had any resentment.
Before she moved out, she transferred me half of the rent. Although I shirked it, she insisted on giving it to me. In the end, I only took half of her transfer, and asked her to take back the other half. This incident made me realize that she is a friend worth dating. We stayed close ever since, and she often called me to her house for dinner. She cooks very well and likes itCooking, saying that one person can't finish eating. Every time I went to her house for dinner, I would buy some fruit or bring a carton of milk. Sometimes it's a bag of pastries, sometimes it's a little snack. Everyone knew it, she didn't tell me not to buy it, and she didn't tell me to buy it. But she'll take out everything I bought and we'll share it together. She would come to my house for dinner, and she would buy the same things as I bought.
Overall, bringing a small gift to a friend's house is a sign of respect and value for friendship. This small gesture can make the other person feel that you care about and cherish them, and at the same time, it can also balance the giving and gaining between each other. When visiting friends, you can choose small but delicate gifts, such as flowers, pastries, drinks, etc., or choose the right gift according to the person's tastes and hobbies. The important thing is that this gift is not for showing off or comparing, but is genuine and meaningful. In this way, we can better maintain and strengthen our relationships with our friends, making our friendships stronger and more durable. At the same time, we must also understand that gifts are only a superficial way, and more importantly, the heart and attitude. When interacting with friends, we should treat each other with our hearts, care for and respect them, and only then can we truly build a deep friendship.