In the world of emotions, complex and chaotic emotional entanglements are often confusing. Especially when the marriage ** is an affair, many women will feel deeply hurt and incomprehensible. And those men who choose to have an affair but not divorce, what do they really think in their hearts?Do they still love their wives?Today, let's come to this topic and try to find out the truth behind the complex psychology of these men.
Li Qiang and his wife have been married for ten years and have always been regarded as a model couple. However, there is an undercurrent under the quiet life. Li Qiang met a passionate woman on a business trip, and the two sparked emotions. But Li Qiang did not file for divorce because of this, but chose to maintain the status quo and maintain a relationship with two women at the same time.
In the hearts of men who are having affairs but not divorcing, they may experience the following five psychology:
Guilt and self-blame: Li Qiang is well aware that his actions have caused harm to his wife, and every time he faces her, he feels guilty and blames himself. But the guilt wasn't strong enough for him to end the affair or file for divorce.
Contradictions and struggles: He loves two women at the same time, one is the wife with whom he spends his life, and the other is the lover who brings him new excitement. He oscillates between the two, not wanting to give up his family or lose the passion of an extramarital affair.
Luck psychology: Li Qiang felt that he could skillfully cover up this extramarital affair and not let his wife find out. He was hoping to maintain a delicate balance between the two women.
Fear of the unknown: Li Qiang is afraid of the life changes and social pressures he may face after the divorce. The unknown future has led him to choose to maintain the status quo, albeit full of deception and unease.
Self-satisfaction: In an extramarital affair, Li Qiang found a long-lost passion and freshness. This allows him to satisfy his emotional needs to a certain extent, but it also weakens his motivation to change the status quo.
These psychology reveal the complex inner world of men who are having an affair in marriage but not divorce. As Shakespeare said, "Love does not look at what is in front of you, but only looks down on all living beings and all things in the world." "In the world of emotions, there is no right or wrong, only truth and falsehood. We need to understand the psychology of these men, but also see the harm and responsibility behind their actions.
However, we must also be clear that the act of having an affair itself is a betrayal of the marriage and a harm to the partner, regardless of the reason and psychology. When marital problems arise, it's healthy to communicate openly and solve problems together, rather than having an affair to escape or satisfy your emotional needs.
For those men who are lost in marriage, perhaps a quote from "Love in the Time of Cholera" can remind them: "True love needs to wait, anyone can say they love you, but not everyone can wait for you." "Marriage is a lifelong commitment and responsibility, and when the passion recedes, what really sustains us is the loyalty to our partner and the sense of responsibility to the family.
Conclusion: The world of emotions is complex, and each person's experience and psychology are unique. We can't simply tell whether a man is still in love with his wife if he is having an affair without divorce, because love itself is a multidimensional concept. But what we can be sure of is that true love requires courage, responsibility, and honesty. May everyone who is lost in the emotional world find their own direction and bravely face their inner and emotional choices.