The "law of the poor" that is difficult to get rid of is obviously from an ordinary family, but he raises his children as a rich second generation
Some people are born in old thatched huts, while others are born with golden spoons and children who grow up in different family environments, and the future benefits of parenting expenses are obviously different.
There is an old proverb that says, "No matter how hard you are, you can't be bitter for your child", and many elders put this concept into practical action, which has evolved into "It is better to eat the last meal yourself than to let the child suffer a little." ”
At the level of household income, we can clearly see that the income of Chinese families is not very equal. Some families have an annual income of more than 10 million yuan and are extremely wealthy families, while there are also poor families with an annual income of less than 10,000 yuan. Surprisingly, students from families of all income brackets did not spend as much in school as the family income gap. Are they lying about their family income?No, but some families with average economic conditions have to raise their children as the rich second generation, which can be described as the misfortune of ordinary families.
The "law of the poor" that is difficult to get rid of, obviously the conditions are average, but the children are raised as the second generation of the rich!Liu Ying was born into a poor family, and the family only relied on her father's meager salary to make ends meet. When she was in college, her parents did their best to provide for her living expenses every month in order to ensure that she could concentrate on her studies and not be affected by financial problems.
Liu Ying was a freshman, and her initial living expenses were 1,500 yuan. However, she found that the living expenses of her dormitory classmates were 3,500 yuan, so she took the initiative to ask her family to increase the living expenses, and her parents thought that she needed to adapt to the university just after entering college, so they supported her according to the standard of 3,500 yuan throughout the year.
In her sophomore year, Liu Ying's parents were deteriorating and tried to advise her to reduce her living expenses, and tried to make her consider working part-time to subsidize her living expenses. However, Liu Ying is used to the life of the "rich second generation" and can't stand the idea of lowering the cost of living at all.
There are examples of this in poor families, and it is even more common in well-off and middle-class families, which is the misfortune of ordinary families, and it is the "law of the poor" that is difficult to escape. Parents wanted to provide their children with a better education and life, but unexpectedly brought negative effects.
Why do parents raise their children as rich second generations?Parents should not misunderstand the meaning of "enrichment". The main reason is that they are too doting, they can't bear to let their children suffer a little, and they are worried that their children will be despised by their classmates during the education stage. However, parents ignore the benefits of cultivating their children's "hard-working" qualities.
At the same time, parents sigh because of their sense of self-blame, lamenting that they can't give their children a better standard of living, so they try to make up for it, and some will even say "Mom and Dad are sorry for you", and gradually the child really thinks that the little money earned by Mom and Dad is wrong.
There are also some parents who do think that "enrichment" is the most correct way to educate. They believe that students can only be prosperous and develop in an ideological environment of economic affluence. As a result, they have made plans that are seriously beyond their financial means, such as traveling abroad, buying high-end brands, etc. However, once you use too much force, it is easy to cultivate students with poor consumption concepts.
The author believes that parents should not misunderstand the meaning of "wealth". True enrichment is not about how much "money" is given to students, but about providing rich life experiences. The economy may bring some benefits, but what students need more is often the right homeschooling.
What are the effects of the wrong "enrichment" on students?How should parents be truly "wealthy"?If it is barely enough to let students live a life accustomed to the rich second generation, what is more serious is that students who have received this wrong home education will have their mental development affected, so they are easily isolated when they get along with family, friends, classmates and colleagues.
Parents use too much "money" to enrich students, so that students feel that "no money" may be looked down upon by others, and develop the bad habit of "reaching out to ask", which is harming students, and may even lead them to become gnawing old people, even if they do not develop the habit of giant babies, they will also be "damaged".
Because they have developed a lot of bad habits, it is difficult for these students to make up for the shortcomings of years of home education even if they have received higher education, and it is difficult for them to control their consumption expenses even if their income is not enough to spend.
Parents should enrich their students through proper family education, including providing high-quality companionship, and sometimes even the companionship of one parent is special for students. It also includes preparing highly nutritious books for students to expand their horizons in the books.
In addition, by setting an example for students, students can face their family's financial situation with more optimism. At the same time, it cultivates students' correct three views, so that students can understand that what they want to get needs to be obtained with their hands.
Author's message: Blindly treating children as rich second generations is the opposite of family education, and it is also the misfortune of ordinary families. It is hoped that all parents can "think far-reaching for their children", so that students can have the courage to accept their own family situation and encourage them to change the status quo through hard work.
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