Hello!The countdown to the start of school has begun, and your little cutie is about to step through the doors of kindergarten and start her first social journey. And every year in the beginning of the school season, it will trigger a large or small "September crying tide".
Some cuties have psychological anxiety because they don't adapt to the new environment or are unwilling to contact the new environment and new groups. Don't worry, let's take a look at the "New Student Admission Guide" first!
Learn about separation anxiety
1.What is separation anxiety?
The so-called separation anxiety refers to the anxiety, anxiety and other emotions and behaviors that children show when they enter the kindergarten and the separation between their caregivers, and almost every child will face a separation anxiety when entering the kindergarten. School-age children leave their parents and families and enter the game and life of kindergarten, which is a transition from family life to collective life, and the living environment, activity mode, and behavioral rules have changed. These sudden changes can make children feel insecure, followed by psychological fear, prone to mood swings, crying, illness, etc., and some children need a long time to get rid of this situation.
2.What causes separation anxiety?
Temporary absence of security needs:
The essence of the problems in the process of adapting to the kindergarten is the temporary lack of basic needs, especially safety needs. Children have been living with their fathers and mothers at home, and when they first entered the kindergarten, they were suddenly separated from their relatives, facing strange teachers, children and the surrounding environment from morning to night, coupled with the relative unfreedom of activities and the constraints of a series of collective life rules, children will have a great sense of insecurity both physically and psychologically, and will feel that their safety is threatened, some children behave very restrainedly, and some children will cry and make a fuss.
Transition from dependence to self-care:
In current family life, dependence is mostly a result of parental care, which causes children to lack a certain degree of self-care ability and cannot take care of their most basic daily life, such as eating, washing, wearing ** clothes, going to the toilet, etc. After entering the kindergarten, because the children in the class need to be taken care of, the teacher cannot take care of every child comprehensively, and many times the children have to face the daily life of the kindergarten alone. If the child does not have a certain self-care ability, he will be frustrated in the group life of the kindergarten and will not want to go to the kindergarten.
3.Manifestations of separation anxiety
Reluctant to socialize with teachers and strange children, avoid groups, shrink in corners, or cling to only one teacher.
It is manifested as crying, hitting, biting, throwing things, grabbing toys, etc.
For example, when I go home, I tell my parents, "The teacher (child) hit me. ", "No toys", "No food", etc.
It takes a while to adapt to the new environment, which may be the case for children with weak self-care skills, and parents only need to bring a few extra sets of clothes and pants.
Resistance is greater, easy to cry at night, and reluctant to go to kindergarten in the morning.
Due to the new environment, the child's mood swings are greater, coupled with crying and nervousness, physical energy consumption is also greater, and metabolic disorders occur, which in turn cause physical sensitivity and easy illness in a certain stage.
Tips for getting into the park
Adjust your Xi habits
In order for your child to enter the kindergarten smoothly, please make the following preparations in advance to prepare for the arrival of the new semester in the best possible condition.
Eating Xi habits
Maintain your child's good Xi of eating regularly and independently. Before the start of school, it is recommended that children eat some light food at home, which can not only ensure the normal consumption of physical activities, but also facilitate digestion and absorption.
Hygiene Xi
Good hygiene Xi habits help children's health, parents remind children to maintain good hygiene Xi habits at home, such as washing dirty hands in time, washing hands before meals, rinsing and wiping mouths after meals, etc.
Take care of yourself
In order to allow children to adapt to group life as soon as possible after school starts, parents should "let go" as soon as possible, so that children can independently complete things such as eating, brushing teeth, and wearing ** objects.
Emotional foreshadowing
At the beginning of group life, children will feel uncomfortable in many ways, so they will show it emotionally, for which we recommend the following:
Parents show positive emotions and like the kindergarten teachers and this can have a positive impact on the child.
Insist on sending children to the kindergarten to prevent children from not coming to the kindergarten due to excuses, which will cause difficulties in entering the kindergarten and affect the children's emotions.
Give positive encouragement to the children's happy emotions to ensure that the children can come to the kindergarten happily.
If parents find that their children have obvious resistance to going to kindergarten, they should give more positive and positive emotional counseling, and do not blindly blame their children, causing more fierce resistance to their children.
Talk to your children every day about the kindergarten teachers and children. (e.g., what interesting story did the teacher tell today?)What good things did you eat in kindergarten today?Which kid in the class became good friends?
What parents need to do
Say "goodbye" to your child happily
Parents should leave as soon as possible after dropping off their children into the kindergarten and handing them over to the teacher. Don't hear your child crying and look back at him, or even take him home.
Otherwise, if the child has this "experience", he will only cry more when he enters the kindergarten the next day.
Insist on sending your child to kindergarten
It takes a process for a child to adapt to a new environment. Parents should not deny their child to kindergarten because he is crying. The second to fourth day is usually the time when the child cries the most, and parents should leave in time once they have handed their child over to the teacher.
Parents, please "rest assured".
The child should drink water and urinate and urinate
When you first enter the kindergarten, the teacher will remind you from time to time. After a while, after the condition is stable, there is a regular time to drink water and go to the toilet. However, children are still free to go if they ask for it. For younger children, the teacher will help them with drinking water and going to the toilet until the child is able to complete it independently.
Problems with napping in children
The teacher will not force the child who has just entered the kindergarten to take a nap, but use a step-by-step way to guide the child to take a nap, such as first echoing the child's "waiting for the mother" request, please be quiet and accompany the child to sit down on the edge of the bed, and wait for the child to sleep, and then persuade him to sleep on the bed.
Problems with the child's eating
During meals, the teacher will take special care of the new children, teach them to use a spoon to eat, and feed the individual with weak abilities.
In order to arouse the child's appetite, the meals in the kindergarten are all colorful, fragrant and flavorful. When serving rice, use small amounts and many times as a rule.
What to do if your child has an argument with a child in kindergarten
It is normal for children to have arguments (including quarrels and even fights) between them. Due to the child's weak physical strength, these disputes generally do not cause physical injury, and the teacher will resolve the dispute immediately, so parents can try to rest assured. Parents should be reminded that children will forget about the disputes between them and will soon play together, parents must not get involved in disputes, complicate things, and do not directly scare other people's children.
Picture book recommendation
Introduction to picture books
I Love Kindergarten tells the story of the little protagonist Leon entering the kindergarten, the crying and anxiety of the children on the first day, and at the same time records the colorful daily life of the kindergarten. Parents know that their children go to kindergarten and have a daily life in kindergarten. After reading the picture book, the child will learn to be as brave and strong as the protagonist of the story, Leon, and actively adapt.
Send it to your parents
All the love in this world is the love of owning, but the love of parents is the love of letting go, when you enter the park, you can't help wiping away from your tears, and even, as he grows up, you will usher in parting again and again.
But when they grow and the eagle strikes through the sky, you will sigh: they have not gone far.
It's about being the eternal pride of your heart.
Kindergarten, a new starting point in children's life, will be with you, not afraid of wind and rain, side by side.