Some parents do not do pure education in education, patiently communicate with their children, inspire them how to reflect on their mistakes, but like to use yelling to educate, use roaring to express their emotions, and then this will let in"Roar education"Middle-aged children, appear 3"Fatal"Shortcomings, parents should not care.
In order to facilitate parents to more deeply understand the harm brought to children by yelling education, you can take a look at this case and understand the harm of yelling education to children.
Neighbor Lili was very well-behaved and obedient when she was a student ten years ago, but because of the failure of her parents' business, she was often mixed with angry or more extreme emotions when educating her, which had a subtle effect on her under the long-term negative education.
Nowadays, Lili is the same as parents when educating children, and likes to use high-decibel yelling to make children obey their own opinions, and then because she likes to yell education, Lili is often called in private"Tigress. "
Of course, Lili is very aggrieved, she was actually very gentle in the past, and she doesn't like to use yelling instead of education like this, but because of the relationship between being influenced by her parents, Lili's personality has also become irritable at every turn, and she likes to use it like her parents"Roar education"To educate children.
Actually, that's it"Roar education"If parents use such a negative education method for a long time, then the child will form three fatal shortcomings, so parents should be cautious.
Children who grow up in "roaring education" have 3 "fatal" shortcomings, parents don't care, now let's talk about these 3 "fatal" shortcomings.
1. The personality is easy to become irritable
To put it simply, in the process of getting along for a long time, the behavior and personality between parents and children will be passed on to each other. The parents' violent temper will also be passed on to the child invisibly, and then he will also become a character who fights violence with violence. When children encounter problems in the future, it is difficult for them to solve them calmly, but to take the same measures as their parents.
2. Lack of security
In a child's heart, parents are the people he relies on and trusts the mostIf parents often yell at their children, it will cause a lot of damage to the child's heartIn the child's view, the most important person in his heart treats himself like this, not to mention other people, so he will have a fear and a sense of insecurity over time.
3. The child becomes rebellious
In addition to becoming cautious, children may also become more rebellious and do not listen to their parents.
Because in their hearts, they feel that everything they say is wrong, that they can't do anything right, that their parents won't like it, and then they may deliberately do things that their parents don't like.
Because at the beginning, they were also dissatisfied in their hearts, thinking that they had not done anything wrong, and they were scolded by their parents for being innocent, so they simply did something wrong, and their parents didn't think it was right to do it anyway, so many children's mentality became more and more extreme, and finally rebelled against their parents.
American research found that if teachers give more praise than reprimand, children will have 30% more attention Xi and better grades.
Praise and recognition are important ways to cultivate children's self-esteem and confidence, but many parents feedback: "I also want to change, but the child is disobedient, and I can't help it as soon as my temper comes up." ”
Definitely,Parents are not saints and can have emotionsWe have to accept this and think about how not to let emotions hurt the parent-child relationship.
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