When I was young, I was always in a hurry, and I was always fast. It was only in middle age that I slowly understood that if everything is "slow", things can often be handled more appropriately and suffer less. When I was young, "fast" was my faith, and I woke up when I got older, and "slow" was wisdom. Slow down and calm down, in order to better cope with the wind and rain of life. Half a beat slower, three points slow, is the best rhythm after the age of forty. 01The opening is half a beat slowerAs the old saying goes: you can't be rich for three generations. But there is a family in China, which has been inherited for thousands of years and has gone through several dynasties, creating a miracle of three saints and 35 prime ministers. It is "Langya Wang's family". Among the family mottos that have been handed down to the world, the first one is:Speak slowly。If you speak too quickly, you are prone to make mistakes and end up hurting others and yourself. Speaking slowly and half a beat, it is to save face for others, and it is also to leave room for yourself. When the writer Li Xiaolai was working at New Oriental in his early years, he was approached by a principal in Beijing who wanted him to help build a corpus for the school. The two chatted very closely, and seeing that the negotiation had been completed, the principal asked, "Then look, laugh, what kind of support do you need?"Unexpectedly, Li Xiaolai said without thinking: "Actually, this matter doesn't cost much, mainly because it is time-consuming and laborious, so I hope this is not a matter of changing the principal and disappearing......."As soon as the words fell, the headmaster's face changed. Li Xiaolai immediately regretted it. In fact, he wanted to express: "This thing is a slow job, and you have to keep doing it ......."But he said it too quickly and too quickly, didn't pay attention to the wording, offended people, and finally the corpus was gone. There is a saying in "The Book of Rites": If the water is deep, the flow will be slow, and if the language is late, people will be expensive. When I was young, I always felt that speaking quickly was straightforward and sincere. But when you experience the world, you will find that those words that blurt out without thinking about it are the most likely to hurt people. If you don't have any shelter from your family, your family will be chilled;If you don't have a shelter from the outside world, you will suffer from your life. In the second half of life, speak slower and speak more slowly, so as not to push yourself into a situation of isolation and helplessness. 
Move half a beat slowlyWe often say, "The sky is unpredictable, and people have good and bad luck." "In the adult world, there are always accidents and accidents that cannot be dealt with. The more anxious you are, the more flustered your actions will be, and the easier it will be to mess things up. Only by being able to think quietly and execute slowly can we solve the troubles in life in an orderly manner. During the reign of Emperor Wenzong of the Tang Dynasty, Pei Du was appointed as the Zhongshu Decree and was in charge of the Great Seal of the Xiangguo. Unexpectedly, the second official seal was stolen, and the staff knew to report the matter to Pei Du. You know, losing the seal is a big sin. If you can't find it, you are likely to face extinction. If you are an ordinary person, you may immediately order the arrest of the thief. But Pei Du was unusual, he thought for a moment before he said to his staff: "You step back first, don't make a noise, someone will naturally return the official seal tomorrow." Then go about your business. The staff was puzzled, but it was not yet the next day, and the official seal really "returned". At this time, the staff was even more confused, and asked Pei Du the reason, and Pei Du explained: The prime minister's official seal is not trivial, and some officials dare to steal the official seal, it must be for the purpose of forging documents, and the original will definitely be returned as soon as possible after use. If a search is ordered immediately, the official will most likely destroy the seal for self-preservation, and then he will never be able to find it again. In the "Zhaode New Edition", it is said: "The image of the water is bright, and the heart is quiet, and the wisdom is born." "At a certain age, life is always troublesome and troublesome, and accidents change after accidents. The more anxious you are to deal with things, the more likely you are to be led by the nose. Steady yourself and think first. With half a beat of our minds and half a beat of our actions slow, we can calmly cope with all the challenges of life. 
Slow half a beat for friendsThe poet Bai Juyi said: It is difficult to walk, not in the mountains or in the water, but only in the repetition of human feelings. In middle age, we have long since faded away from the innocence of the previous year, and gradually understood: if people intersect too quickly, they may break off friendship faster. Only by entering a relationship can we test each other's sincerity and sincerity. In 1931, 50-year-old Lu Xun was connected by his friend Feng Xuefeng, and began to exchange letters with 32-year-old Qu Qiubai. Qu Qiubai is proficient in Russian and English, and has a solid literary foundation, and Lu Xun admires him very much. Qu Qiubai has also admired Lu Xun for a long time. But even so, the two did not see each other immediately, or even exchange addresses. All their exchanges are still passed on through their friend Feng Xuefeng, or passed on orally, or delivered by letter to ......In this way, the two slowly talked about ideals from literature, and from ideals to life. It wasn't until a year later, when the two were fully familiar with each other and fully recognized, that they met for the first time in Shanghai. "I talked about everything and talked about it, for fear that time would pass too quickly. On the occasion of parting, Lu Xun wrote a couplet: It is enough to have a confidant in life, and the world should treat it with the same heart. The two have also achieved a lifelong friendship. As the old saying goes: time will see people's hearts. Heart-to-heart communication should be slow, and friendship can last for a long time. After all, it is impossible for any of us to understand the whole of a person from a look or a word. Making friends is slow and half-beat, which is screening and respect. Leaving enough time for each other, getting along with each other, and getting to know each other is the most mature concept of middle-aged people's friendship. 
The reaction is half a beat slowerHalf a life has passed, and looking at it, each of us has been misunderstood, ridiculed, and suppressed. If you react too quickly and sensitively, every word of others will become a burden to your heart. Be dull and slow to the words of others, so that the voices of the outside world will not hurt you in the slightest. Just like Mo Yan, he began to teach himself calligraphy at the age of 50. At first, he was not skilled, and his writing was like an enlarged version of pen letters, which attracted boos from the outside world. Someone ridiculed him for tossing so much when he was old, so he pretended to be. Someone read his words and shook their heads again and again: Don't bother with energy, it's better to enjoy life if you have this strength. But in the face of the cynicism of others, he was "slow to react" and never defended a word. He believes that as long as a person insists on doing one thing, he can always make a name for himself in the end. In order to seek a breakthrough, he switched to writing with his left hand, and when he was tired of writing, he switched back to his right hand, alternating between his two hands to practice calligraphy. Xi After more than ten years of repeated practice, his calligraphy has made great progress and has been praised by professionals. The philosopher Schopenhauer said: One of the most peculiar weaknesses of human nature is that it cares about what others think of itself. After middle age, our energy is very limited. The more you care about other people's evaluations, the more irritable you will be, and the more tired your life will be. Learn to block out the sounds of the outside world and maintain a certain degree of dullness, so that you can be calm and focus on your life. 
Life is half a beat slowerIn the second half of your life, don't push yourself too hard. Life is not a 100-meter sprint, but a marathon full of variables. Slow down and half a beat, so that you have time to stop and rest, so that you can move forward better. When Mr. Jin Yong founded "Ming Pao" in his early years, he wrote editorials during the day and ** at night, and often didn't even take care of eating. Such a high-intensity life made him fall ill and tortured deeply. Only then did he understand: "People can't be very nervous all the time, they must be like the rhythm of "The Andante Like a Song", there are fast and slow. So, he began to slow down his pace. When you have time, you can get together with friends, chat, or go out for a walk or travel.
His body and mind have been recuperated, and he has accumulated more strength to better complete his creation.
Just as Mr. Jin Yong described himself: "My temperament is very slow, everything I do is slow, and in the end I do it well, optimistic and open-minded." ”
Liang Shiqiu said firstWhen people have free time, they are most like a person.
When people reach middle age, their energy and physical strength are not as good as before.
We can't rush everything and slow down the pace of life, so that we can free up time to replenish our energy and walk the road ahead.
In "Old Things in the South of the City", there is such a passage:
To learn from the camel, calm down, see that it is never in a hurry, walk slowly, chew slowly, will always come, will always eat. ”
Middle-aged life is full of troubles.
If the pace of life is too fast, you may as well learn to take a camel and do everything slowly.
Only by not being impetuous, not being impatient, not being slow or slow, can life go on better.
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