In the workplace, there is a type of girl who often shows a submissive attitude, they are afraid to express their thoughts and feelings, and they do not dare to refuse the demands of others.
This phenomenon may stem from their original family or upbringing, which makes them form a forbearant and retreating character. Even if they are wronged, they often choose to remain silent because they don't want to cause trouble.
While these women often have a strong capacity for empathy, their ability to deal with problems is relatively poor.
They are often seen as good people, but this image is not conducive to their success in the workplace.
I used to be such a submissive girl, very inferior, unassertive, and very aggrieved.
However, I don't want this kind of life, I want to change myself. I began to learn to express my thoughts and feelings, to stop wronging myself to please others, and to stop changing myself for the sake of other people's opinions.
Maintain self-confidence, self-esteem and independence, speak generously and act openly. This not only makes us more confident and attractive, but also makes us more successful and happy.
Gradually, I found that when I became confident and independent, my life became better.
I'm no longer afraid to say no to others because I know I'm worthy, and I'm no longer worried about what others think because I know I deserve to be respected.
I also began to learn to pursue my dreams and stop letting other people's expectations dictate me. I want to be a charismatic and aura person, a real and happy person.
However, for some people, it is not easy to maintain self-confidence and independence because they have some psychological barriers within them. They may be accustomed to humility and submissiveness, afraid to express their thoughts and feelings, and afraid to refuse the demands of others.
In order to overcome these psychological barriers, we need to realize psychologically that our personality is equal to that of our leaders.
We should respect our hearts and not be too wronged by ourselves. We should learn to express our thoughts and feelings, but also learn to refuse other people's requests so that we can remain confident and independent.
In addition, there are ways to increase our self-confidence and independence.
Learn some communication skills and improve your presentation skills;Learn some time management skills to improve your productivity;Learn some self-management skills and improve your self-discipline.
When the leader arranges things and work, if you have any questions or do not understand something, you should ask questions in time.
The purpose of asking questions is to better understand the requirements and intent of the job in order to do the job better.
If you don't ask questions and just do what you understand, there is a high chance of misunderstandings or deviations, leading to mistakes in your work.
Asking questions not only helps you do your job better, but it also demonstrates your motivation and intellectual curiosity and makes a good impression on your leadership.
Therefore,If you have any questions or don't understand something, don't hesitate or delay and ask questions to your leader or colleagues in a timely manner.
Also, when asking questions, pay attention to the style and attitude.
Respect the time and knowledge of your leaders and colleagues, ask questions in clear and concise language, and don't waste the time of others.
At the same time, it is also important to think about and prepare the questions well and avoid asking questions that are meaningless or of low quality.
Of course, there are times when we may hear some people's comments and criticisms that may make us feel frustrated or lost.
However, we should not pay too much attention to what others say, but focus on doing our own thing.
First of all, we need to make it clear that everyone has their own values and standards, and different people may have different views and evaluations of the same thing. Therefore, other people's comments and criticisms do not necessarily represent the truth of the facts, nor do they necessarily reflect our true abilities and values.
Second, we need to recognize that the workplace is a competitive place, and sometimes we may be the target of attack or criticism from others. However, we should not hold back or give up because of this, but stick to our beliefs and goals, and constantly strive to improve our abilities and qualities.
Finally, we must learn to protect ourselves from letting other people's comments and criticisms affect our emotions and mentality. There are ways to reduce stress and negative emotions. At the same time, we should also learn to absorb useful suggestions and opinions from others' discussions and criticisms, and constantly improve our own abilities and qualities.
I know it's not easy to change myself, but I believe that with perseverance, I can become the person I want to be.
If you also want to change yourself and become a confident, independent, charismatic and aura person, then start now.
Don't be afraid to fail, don't be afraid to say no, don't be afraid to be yourself.
Believe in yourself, stick to yourself, and you will surely be able to become a true and happy person.