Read The Dream of the Covered Bridge to know what love is, what marriage is, and what happiness is

Mondo Entertainment Updated on 2024-01-31

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What I will interpret to you today is a classic that has touched more than 50 million readers around the world"The Dream of the Covered Bridge".

Love is the experience of our life, just to remind us to cherish the life in front of us more.

In 1992, such a book topped the New York Times bestseller list when it was released, and in the following three years, it was on the bestseller list for 164 consecutive weeks. The movie of the same name adapted from it has made countless crazy men and women addicted to it, and once set off a "divorce" boom in the United States. It is the famous work "Dream of the Covered Bridge" by the American writer Waller. **With the theme of extramarital affairs, it can cause a strong response around the world, just because it hits the pain points of most married people. The book tells the story of Francesca, the farmer's wife, and Robert, the photographer, from meeting and knowing each other to falling in love. When I first read this book, I thought it was an emotional tragedy that I couldn't love. Now it seems that its deep practical significance has been discovered"Not all love can enter into marriage, and not all love can last in marriage. ”Reading "The Dream of the Covered Bridge", perhaps, you can understand the true meaning of love and marriage.

Love is ideal: easy to miss, but also hard to get

The Peony Pavilion wrote: "I don't know what to do, and I go deep." Francesca's love came so suddenly. Back in 1965, husband Richard and his two children took the award-winning calf to a four-day Illinois State Fair. This gave Francesca a rare opportunity to enjoy some solitary time. At this moment, she is sitting on the swing on the front porch, drinking iced tea, and looking into the distance in a daze casually. At that moment, a dilapidated truck drove into the yard, and a man pulled up at the door, and she instinctively got up to look. It turned out that the man couldn't find the Romans Bridge, so he came to ask for directions. When they first met, the two felt an electric current sweeping through their bodies. Francesca, who has always been reserved, offered to show him the way, and she also took the "Camel brand" cigarettes he handed him proficiently.

During the trip, Francesca learns that the man's name is Robert, a photographer for National Geographic magazine. Because of his long years of traveling, his marriage lit up a red light, and his wife divorced him nine years ago. After the shoot, as a token of appreciation, Robert gave Francesca a bouquet of wildflowers. She couldn't hide the throbbing in her heart, so she mustered up the courage to invite Robert to dinner at home. The two went from the initial formal greetings to the later conversations, and after the separation, Francesca was a little stunned. So, she drove overnight to the Rothman Bridge, pinned a note to the bridge, and said: When the white moth spreads its wings, if you still want to have dinner, you can come over tonight, whenever you are done. The next day, Robert happily showed up for the appointment. Francesca changed from her usual raunchy appearance, but carefully dressed herself, shaved her hair, sprayed perfume, and wore a pink dress. The whole person is like a girl who has tasted love for the first time, immersed in joy and passion. They hugged and danced with the ancient **, the two hearts got closer and closer, and finally told each other their heartfelt feelings, and they were haunted by death overnight.

Sometimes, under the fast-paced life and pressure, people have no patience to find a loved oneOr after experiencing all kinds of deception and hurt feelings, you can no longer believe in love. But I never thought that in the wilderness of endless time, I would always meet someone who was destined. You will be moved by the appearance of someone, you will become amorous by the arrival of a certain relationship, and you will be difficult to control yourself at a certain moment. People are always greedy. Once the relationship sprouts, it is eager to stay for a long time;Once true love is met, it is longing to join hands with white heads.

Marriage is sanity: in addition to love, there is more responsibilityIn just four days of dating, Robert understood Francesca's sorrow and helplessness in marriage. As a young man, Francesca was an innocent and romantic Italian girl, yearning for romantic love and the prosperity of a modern city. When she was teaching at a private secondary school, she had a relationship with an art professor, but she had no choice but to break up because of her parents' opposition. The harsh reality makes her realize that her options are limited, so when she meets Richard, who is dressed in a military uniform and has earnest eyes, she decides to marry him at a café. Only because Richard promised her: treat her well and a wonderful America full of hope. However, married life was not as wonderful as Francesca imagined.

Richard didn't like her work, so she had to quit her job and become a housewife;They respect each other as if they were guests, but they don't have a common language, and Richard pays more attention to the calves than to her;After dinner, Richard chooses to watch TV, but Francesca is bored with TV, so she usually hides in the kitchen and reads;Compared with Robert's heart-to-heart fit, she felt a deep loneliness in this marriage. But even so, on the day her husband and children returned home, when Robert offered to go to the end of the world together, she sensibly refused. Because, she doesn't want to embarrass her husband and don't want her children to be slandered by gossip. There is a scene in it that is heartbreaking. One day, she and her husband went into the city to shop as usual. She saw Robert's old truck at a glance. At that moment, as long as you get out of the car, you can rush to her love. However, the responsibility froze her in her seat, and all the struggles eventually turned into silent whimpering. As a spectator, I can only sigh deeply: the biggest regret in the world is to meet the right person at the wrong time.

Obviously attracted to each other, but because of the dislocation of love, they can't get close to each other;obviously love each other, but there are already ties around them, and they missed the opportunity to promise each other in this life;obviously couldn't bear to part, but because of the heavy responsibility, he lost the qualification to bravely pursue love. After all, in addition to love, life also has family, future, and relatives ......Any love that tramples on responsibility will not be able to achieve happiness in the end. Instead of being haunted by guilt for the rest of your life, it is better to hide this love deep in your heart. Just as Qin Guan said: "When the golden wind and jade dew meet, they will win countless in the world." "Some people have met and are already destined;Some love, encountered, is lucky. Cherishing the people around you, love and hate, is the best way to live this life.

Happiness is acceptance: letting go of life's regretsAfter saying goodbye, Francesca kept her duties as a wife and mother. Robert also understood and respected her decision, and for the next seventeen years, he never bothered her life again. It wasn't until Richard's death that Francesca tried to contact Robert by phone, but there was no news. Sadly, it wasn't long before she waited for the news of Robert's death. On his deathbed, Robert commissioned a lawyer to scatter his ashes on the Rothman Bridge and send his belongings to Francesca. Francesca examined the contents of the box, which contained a long letter, three Nikon cameras, a necklace with her name engraved on it, and a note she had written. The long letter was a thousand pages long, and between the lines it carried Robert's thoughts and love for many years. For the next five years, looking through the relics became her annual birthday ritual.

That night, she would light a "Camel" cigarette a year, take a sip of brandy, and start reading Robert's letters. This past has been carefully treasured by her, and after her death, her children learned the story of her and Robert from her suicide note. They complied with Francesca's last wish and scattered the ashes around Robert. Before she died, she gave her living life to her family, and after death, she was finally able to leave her soul to Robert without hindrance. Reading this, I really feel the weight of this sentence: "Such a precise love is only once in a lifetime." To this day, many readers still lament their ending, thinking that if Francesca and Robert had gone away, their love would have no regrets. Perhaps, they have also wavered, but they have stumbled through half of their lives, and they already understand:Regret is the normal state of life. We can't decide who we meet, or who we stay. There are many things that cannot be changed, so we have to try to accept themSince it is irretrievable, we must learn to let go. I have read such a sentence: "Life is like this, either you get it, you learn it." Therefore, the people and things that come to you are here to fulfill you, and every encounter and every regret is meaningful. ”At any time, it is possible to embrace happiness with the courage to accept everything.

Write at the endSome people ask, how to face regret in a relationship?In my opinion, this sentence in the book is the best answer: "The dreams that have been have been beautiful dreams have not come true, but I am glad that I once had them." "Waller's brilliance lies in the fact that he depicts love, but not just at the level of romance and beauty, but also provokes people to think about reality through stories. In marriage, in the face of belated love and family responsibilities, how to choose?In the book, Francesca chose the latter, and Robert chose to fulfill, and they exchanged four days of love for half a lifetime of missing each other;Outside the book, do you and I also need to wake up early and reflect on the shortcomings in the marriage and our own shortcomings? Don't let the rough life completely wear out the brilliance of love and make the days boring. True love is a lifetime of tribulation, and responsibility is the cornerstone of life.

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