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In the early days of my focus on marriage and family counseling, I was able to understand some of the requirements of the profession, but I was still confused about some of the requirements as considerations.
But now, after 8 years in the industry, I can finally understand the meaning.
The research practice of marriage and family is an important branch of psychology.
In addition to the basic knowledge of psychology, marriage and family counseling, and social work;The requirements for age and marriage and pregnancy are to hope that the counselor can have a first-hand experience and can better integrate into the consultation.
Of course, the understanding of laws, customs, and religion can only be obtained by case practice. This strange experience also taught the counselor about a different marital status.
The influence of customs and Xi on counseling
A visitor in early 2019, from ethnic minorities in the Southwest;Although I have traveled many times and come into contact with the locals, I have heard about the local customs, but I have not learned more about them.
After graduating from junior high school, at the age of 17, under the arrangement of her parents, she put on a wedding dress and entered into marriage, looking forward to a happy life after marriage.
Ji's in-laws live by herding, and at home, she has three husbands, who are three brothers.
At the beginning, it was only the eldest son of the family who was going to marry, and that was also the future "head" of this family. Now the fact is that after she registered with her "target husband", several others became her men together.
In **, every family is the eldest brother as the parent, and he has the final say in everything in the family, no matter how capable the other boys are, they can only be the children's uncles, except for the endless work, they have no status.
After marriage, Ji had to take on most of the household chores, and although all three husbands worked hard, they had little income and life was still stretched.
And balancing the relationship between various husbands is a necessary skill for local women, and if they don't do it well, they will even be looked down upon.
But the eldest brother has a hot temper, and sometimes the housework is not done well, or he will punch and kick Ji when he drinks.
After a few years of marriage, taking care of the family, managing livestock, taking care of finances, and taking care of her husband's food and clothing, Ji has long since lost her face, and her hands are full of calluses.
Ji later went to work in a nearby provincial town despite his family's obstruction, and in the two or three years after leaving, it was the youngest uncle who kept the most contact with the family.
Ji came to me after seeing some of our articles, "Which of them do you like the most?".If so, which one would you most like to live alone with?Gee doesn't have any idea of what to answer about these selective questions.
Talking to a woman who lives under polyandry is not destined to be easy.
Ji's appeal is to dissolve the marriage and live with his youngest uncle.
However, the first appeal is more related to customs and regulations, while the second demand, even if it is achieved, there will be many tests in the future family relationship.
Since it does not involve the claim of property division, with the assistance of colleagues, Ji's divorce procedures were completed in about two weeks, and Ji posted the divorce certificate on the circle of friends and said that "I feel like I have seen the sunshine".
The influence of religious beliefs on counseling
"Nine Sugars" Before the consultation begins, the client's consultation registration will have a "counseling contraindications" item, similar to the history of drug allergies during a hospital visit.
The content includes religious beliefs, events, people, etc., and although there are some people or matters that are the main reasons for the client's consultation, some topics may also be off-limits for the client.
In 2021, a visitor from Canada was my first complaint since marriage counselling, and it was also the reason why she helped "Nine Sugars" to have a "counseling taboo" in the counseling registration.
The Chinese culture and family environment have led most people to know more about Buddhism, although there will be some words related to Buddhism in daily life, but it can be called a belief at all.
In the middle of the consultation, the client's relationship and personal progress have improved. After an afternoon consultation, I emailed some courseware materials to her, hoping to consolidate and practice Xi.
The next morning, the supervisor informed me that my consultation had been complained.
The reason for the complaint lies in my courseware, which involves the reincarnation of life and death and the visitor's belief that there is no death and only eternal happiness is in conflict, which is disrespectful to her religious beliefs.
In regular cases, we also use religious beliefs as a supplement to counseling. For example, some religious beliefs can provide certain spiritual support and comfort for psychological counseling, strengthen the individual's inner strength and self-healing ability, and this religious belief support may have a positive impact on psychological problems.
But the visitor's complaint must indicate that she felt offended and apologized at the first time, which was a disagreement in the cultural context.
Fortunately, the previous counseling worked well, the client calmed down, and the counseling continued as normal.
This also motivates us to be cautious in all of our consultations and courseware about religion, case studies, and other content, and to understand the taboos and sensitive topics of the client before the consultation begins.
Approximately 80% of the results of psychological research** are non-reproducible. Reproducibility testing is a fundamental criterion for scientific research.
In the professional field, about 80% of psychological research results are unreliable. The real value of psychoanalysis lies in the practical techniques of psychological counseling that have been summarized in its long-term practice, which are difficult for the public to obtain.
In the multiple relationship counseling of marriage, family and love, different relationships and different times will have different directions, and there is no one method or theory that can solve most of the problems.
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