Chat is the foundation of mutual understanding between people. For boys, how to chat with girls is even more knowledge. Because, after chatting, you can easily catch up with the goddess of love;If you don't talk well, no matter how good you are in other aspects, it's for nothing, and girls will say that you don't feel it. Today, we're going to talk about which chat styles are the most offensive to girls and how to avoid them.
1. Avoid chatterbox
When many boys and girls chat, they will be excited to read each other's news, thinking that this is showing their good impression of each other. However, when the other party sees your seven or eight lines of news, they really don't have the patience to read it carefully. This is essentially a matter of need. If you give her too much information, she will feel that you are asking for emotional value and indirectly put pressure on her. Pay attention to the early contact process, to show value and provide emotional value, rather than asking for value. Also, if the other party sends you a text, don't reply with a voice message of tens of seconds. From a woman's point of view, such a man does not even have the most basic emotional intelligence, the first impression is not good, and it is difficult to change his opinion of you in the future.
2. Pay attention to the chat time
When some guys talk to women, they can talk whenever they want, regardless of time or place. However, if your concern is sent at the wrong time, then it will also cause the other party to be disgusted. When chatting, you must understand the life time of the girl. You have to understand her needs in order to understand her and understand her. For example, when she goes to work, when she takes a nap, and when she gets up. If you send a message when she is busy or resting, she will not think that you are missing her, but will only think that you are a busy person, not doing your job, and having time at any time. You will even feel that you are bored, so you will find her to relieve your boredom. So, even if you like a woman and think about her again, don't show it too obviously at the beginning. If you want to chat with the other party, you should also make sure that the other party has time and does not disturb the other party's rest.
3. Avoid serial chats
When the two first met, they must have had a lot of curious questions because of their unfamiliarity and lack of understanding of each other. However, questions such as "you are working in **", "how old are you", "what do your parents do", "how much do you pay" should never be asked. Asking the other party like this is actually a sign of extremely low emotional intelligence and very impoliteness. This kind of question will only make the woman think that you are here to check the household registration. Even if you want to know, you should ask in a tactful way that the other party can accept after you are familiar with it. If you don't know what to talk about, ask them about their interests and hobbies, and tell us about your own experiences. Before flirting with girls, let's first understand each other's interests. If you can prescribe the right medicine on the basis of understanding, and then try to cater to the other person's preferences as much as possible, and strive to be consistent with the other person's interests, this will often get twice the result with half the effort. Only if the other person feels that they are the same kind of person as you and have a common topic will they be interested in chatting with you.
Fourth, don't be a warm male chatter
Many boys think that caring for a girl can win the other person's heart, but this is not the case. You are neither a girlfriend nor a mother, but you want to position yourself as a mother-like role, and give all kinds of advice and care to girls, which will only make people feel disgusted, and will only be used as a spare tire by girls in the end. What a girl needs is a boy who can provide her with a good mood and good survival value, not a nanny role and does not understand her needs. So please remember that the above four ways of chatting are the most disgusting for women, and they are taboos in chatting, don't do it again!