What prevents us from having the courage to take a step forward when we meet true love?In the urban emotional TV series "Ode to Joy", Andy, a high-IQ returnee, has a successful career, she is excellent, self-disciplined, both beautiful and powerful, and her life is also easy, which is admired by countless working women.What makes love always disappear in the wind in the hesitation?What makes two people who love each other always avoid each other?
What is holding us back from moving forward for love?
However, she has always been single in appearance.
She was an orphan since she was a child, and she never experienced the warmth of her family, and the lack of emotion in her heart made her have the crux of "fear of intimacy".
Andy's singleness, in the book "How to Hug a Hedgehog 2", is summarized as an "immersive single" mode.
How to Hug a Hedgehog 2 Whoever You Are Is Meets Whom is a companion story to How to Hug a Hedgehog: Personality Recognition, Acceptance, and Giving in Love and Marriage.
From a psychological perspective, the book unveils the mystery of love, and understands our current state from the perspective of both sexes, helping us better understand ourselves and improve the quality of love.
Love is not a charcoal in the snow, but the icing on the cake;Love is to achieve a better self through love.
The book summarizes nine types of single patterns:
1. Chiconi single.
Project all the fantasies of love on your first love. Thinking that first love is an eternal beauty or eternal pain in the heart, there is not enough confidence to get another relationship.
2. Confused singleness.
They don't know what kind of people they will attract, they are at a loss, and they may never meet love, so they quietly close the door of their hearts.
3. Miss-style singleness.
The best times are always the old times, and the best lovers are always the ex. They are always in a state of self-comparison and suffering from gains and losses.
4. Tangled singleness.
Always looking for the optimal solution in an emotional relationship. Seems to be independent but insecure, expecting to find the missing part of himself in his lover, but always getting what he wants.
5. Immersive single.
With a clear self-knowledge and independent personality, they love to live a single life, and never suffer from gains and losses, for them, love is the icing on the cake, not a necessity of life.
6. Narcissistic singleness.
Compared with others, they love themselves more, have a strong sense of psychological superiority and superiority in love, and often unconsciously belittle others.
7. Suspended single.
This kind of single person seems to have no standards for lovers, but in fact, they have a set of guidelines in their hearts, they are looking for it, but they can't find their fate.
8. Social phobia single.
Although such singles envy sweet love, they end up missing out on good fate because of their lack of courage.
9. Virtual singles.
Virtual singles are people who live in ivory towers, they become dependent on their idols, but they ignore the people around them.
For each single mode group, the author has carried out a personality portrait, analyzed their psychological state and social limitations, and how to break through, both worldview and method, for people who encounter problems in romantic relationships, provides a good reference resource.
With the development of society, science and technology economy, more and more young people's concepts have changed, they hope that the other half is a person who matches their hearts and spirits, and if they do not meet the right person, they would rather choose to give up.
Although they also look forward to love, they are afraid that the relationship that they put in time and energy to manage may not turn out as they want, so they do not have the courage to accept another person "in order to avoid the result and avoid everything from starting".
In fact, love sometimes requires the courage to take risks.
Even if we don't know where our fate in life will eventually go, and we don't know how many breakups or encounters we will face, but in this process, you will gain a beautiful life experience, where there is a lot of love, happiness, care, companionship, and strength from another person.
Single life is good, but if you can take the first step bravely, you will find that two people are happier and more free to talk and laugh than to look at the scenery alone.
I hope that there will be years to look back on, and to share the white head with deep affection".