Feelings are like a game with uncertain results, the first person may not be able to grasp the initiative in managing the relationship, but the person who enters the game later only has the ability to "manipulate" the other party.
Initiative is a kind of self-exposure in an emotional game relationship, the more eager you are to throw your cards, the easier it is to lose your sense of proportion, so that the other party has a better initiative to control the relationship.
Really intelligent people, both men and women, are subjected to **, but not first.
1.You are not volunteering your time.
Time is fair for everyone 24 hours a day.
It is no exaggeration to say that the frequency of a person's time use is invested in **, which means that his heart is in**.
Always want to be with someone, even if you don't need to say anything, the powerful power of time has already completely exposed the heart.
is like Qu Xiao's gauze in "Ode to Joy", she fell in love with Zhao Qiping at first sight, put down the things in her hand and came to the hospital for a while, took the initiative to become Zhao Qiping's patient, and also took the initiative to care about each other's lives.
One after another, before Qu Xuan could say what he was thinking, he had already been seen through by Zhao Qiping.
In this regard, Zhao Qiping has become a person that Qu Xiaosha can't grasp, and she is chasing him for everything.
A truly intelligent person will express his love in moderation, measure it before giving, see the possibility of reaping it after he puts it in, and will continue instead of delivering it all himself.
Second, they will not take the initiative to express their affection.
Love starts with confession, however, if you can't grasp the sense of confession, you are likely to fall and fail, because not in all relationships, you can gain two feelings, if the premise of the confession is to hope that the other party can accept it, rather than a hasty confession, it is best to arouse the other party's favor.
Like when I was in college, a girl in my dorm had a crush on a boy in the next class.
In fact, my roommate is very good-looking, has a high emotional intelligence, and has a lot of people around him. If she and the boy she likes express her love directly, she may not be accepted by the boy.
However, the roommate still chose the corner, first creating all kinds of encounters, brushing up the sense of presence in the boy's life, and then ringing with the boy's brothers, and finally accompanying the boy in a suitable identity.
Over time, love is also an effective law of love, and soon, the girl was favored by the boy, and the other party came to a sincere confession, and the two were willing to be together.
Being overactive is an emotional adventure and a boldness in dealing with relationships.
Really smart people know what works and how to put a long line and catch a big fish.
3. Will not take the initiative to please the other party.
Zhang Ailing once said: When you fall in love with someone, you will be very humble, humble to the soil, until bright flowers bloom from the soil.
Yes, if you fall in love with someone, you will become humble, afraid that you will not have the opportunity to get him, and you are even more afraid of losing him after you get it. In order to keep someone, many girls will take the initiative to please each other, thinking that as long as everything goes as the other person wants, they can maintain a stable relationship.
In fact, the person who truly loves you does not need your please.
He who does not love you, your flattery, is humble, it is his deeds.
Sometimes, the more you take the initiative to beg for love emotionally, the more you can't get love, because what attracts you is that the other party takes the initiative to approach after you shine, rather than begging for mercy when you lose your mind.
In love, the favored person is never afraid.
Because I know I'm loved, I know I want to be loved, it's like the days flow, so I know I should cherish it, but I don't know how.