In the emotional world, the trust and tacit understanding between husband and wife are the bonds that maintain the relationship, but even if the relationship is good, there are some things that must not be "borrowed". Once the line is crossed, even the strongest emotional fortress can collapse.
1. Test the other party with trust.
Trust is the cornerstone of marriage, but temptation destroys it. When one partner begins to suspect the other and uses temptation to verify trust, the relationship has already been buried.
Li Ping and Wang Gang have been married for many years, and their relationship has always been very good. But recently, in order to test Wang Gang's loyalty, Li Ping lied that he was on a business trip, but in fact, he secretly observed Wang Gang's every move. This act of distrust eventually left Wang Gang feeling hurt and angry, and the relationship between the two became rift as a result.
2. Borrow money to test feelings.
Money is the litmus test of feelings, but borrowing money can become the poison of feelings. When money is linked to feelings, it is easy to misunderstand and contradict people.
Zhang Qiang and Zhao Yan are college lovers and got married after graduation. Zhang Qiang has a successful career, while Zhao Yan chooses to become a full-time wife. Once, Zhao Yan's younger brother was in urgent need of money, and she borrowed a large amount of money from Zhang Qiang without telling him. When Zhang Qiang found out, the two quarreled because of this, and there was a serious crisis in their relationship.
3. Take the time to ignore each other.
Time is the most precious gift, but when one partner takes the time to pursue personal success while ignoring the other, the relationship will gradually cool down.
Chen Feng and Sun Li are both career-oriented people, and both of them are busy with work after marriage. In order to be promoted, Chen Feng often worked overtime until late at night, ignoring Sun Li's feelings and needs. The long-term neglect made Sun Li feel lonely and disappointed, and the relationship between the two gradually cracked.
Fourth, hurt the other party with emotions.
Emotions are a double-edged sword, both enhancing feelings and hurting the other person. When one party vents their frustration through emotions, it is easy for the other party to feel hurt and helpless.
Liu Yang and Wang Fang are a typical loving couple, but Liu Yang has a bad problem - emotional instability. Whenever he was in a bad mood, he would lose his temper with Wang Fang. In the long run, Wang Fang felt that she could not bear this emotional burden, and the relationship between the two was in trouble.
5. Concealing the other party by secret.
Secrets are the ** killers of marriage. When one party withholds a secret in order to protect himself, the relationship is no longer honest and genuine.
Zhou Ming and Chen Ting have been married for many years and have a deep relationship. But Zhou Ming has a secret - he once had a brief marriage history and a child in other places. He kept this secret until Chen Ting inadvertently discovered the truth. This concealment made Chen Ting feel deceived and betrayed, and the relationship between the two fell into crisis.
To sum up, no matter how good the relationship between husband and wife is, don't "borrow" these 5 things. Trust, money, time, emotions, and secrets are all sensitive and vulnerable elements in a marriage. Once it is not handled properly, "borrowing" something that should not be "borrowed" may lead to a marriage crisis or even lead to the breakdown of the marriage. Therefore, in married life, we should always be vigilant, respect each other, be honest with each other, and jointly maintain this hard-won relationship. "Love is not about finding common ground, it's about learning to respect differences. "May every couple go through every stage of life together on the basis of mutual respect and understanding, and create their own happiness and bright future.