In the emotional world, the interaction between men and women is always full of subtlety and complexity. Especially in the war of love, where there is no gunpowder, the two sides often test and verify each other's intentions through various ways. For men, in the face of the woman they love, they are often willing to give everything and meet all the requirements of the other party. However, sometimes, it is precisely the "rejection" of men at certain critical moments that can make women even more inseparable from them. It's not a strategy, it's a wisdom.
1. Refuse unconditional accommodation.
When a woman makes some unreasonable demands, if the man blindly accommodates, although it may make the woman feel satisfied in the short term, but in the long run, this unconditional accommodation will make the woman feel that the man is unprincipled and lacks charm.
Li Qiang and his girlfriend Xiaofang have been together for three years. During this time, Li Qiang was almost responsive to Xiaofang's requests, and no matter what she asked, he would try his best to meet them. However, this accommodation did not make Xiaofang cherish Li Qiang more, but made her feel that he lacked assertiveness, and finally chose to leave. And if Li Qiang can stick to his principles at some critical moments and refuse to accommodate unconditionally, maybe their relationship will go in a different direction.
2. Refuse to be overprotective.
Men usually have an instinct to protect the woman they love, but excessive protection can deprive women of the opportunity to grow and make them feel constrained. Letting go at the right time and letting women face challenges on their own is the best support for them.
Wang Lei took good care of his girlfriend Xiaoyu and almost did not let her suffer any grievances and injuries. However, this over-protection makes Xiaoyu feel unable to breathe, and she longs for her own space and freedom. In the end, Xiaoyu chose to leave Wang Lei and look for a man who could let her grow up freely. If Wang Lei can refuse to be overprotective in a timely manner and give Xiaoyu more trust and freedom, their relationship may be more stable.
3. Refuse endless bickering.
Quarrels are inevitable between couples, but endless quarrels only consume each other's feelings. When a woman is emotional, if a man can stay calm and refuse meaningless quarrels, but solve problems with a rational and tolerant attitude, it will make women feel at ease and trusted.
Zhao Gang and his girlfriend Xiaoli often quarrel over some trivial matters. Every time they argued, Zhao Gang always tried to solve the problem by reasoning, while Xiaoli hoped that he would be able to follow his wishes. However, this endless bickering gradually wears out their feelings. If Zhao Gang can refuse to quarrel at a critical moment and face Xiaoli's emotions with a more tolerant and understanding attitude, their relationship may have a better outcome.
Fourth, refuse to compromise without a bottom line.
In love, compromise is essential. However, bottomless compromise can make men lose their self and dignity. When facing women's requirements, men should be clear about their bottom line and have the courage to express it, so as to win the respect and love of women.
Zhang Wei constantly compromised his principles and bottom line in order to cater to his girlfriend Xiaomeng. He gave up the job he originally loved, changed his living habits, and even chose to endure in silence for Xiaomeng's willfulness and unreasonableness. However, this bottomless compromise did not make Xiaomeng cherish Zhang Wei more, but made her feel that he was weak and bulliable, and finally chose to leave him. If Zhang Wei can stick to his bottom line and have the courage to refuse those unreasonable demands, maybe their relationship will have a different ending.
5. Reject irresponsible promises.
Men tend to make various promises in love to show their love for women. However, irresponsible promises can bring hurt and disappointment to women. Men should be cautious about their promises and do what they say they will do, so that they can win the trust and dependence of women.
Li Ming once made many beautiful promises to his girlfriend Xiaoting, such as taking her on a trip, buying her a house, and so on. However, these promises were just empty promises, and Li Ming never really fulfilled any of them. This irresponsible behavior made Xiaoting lose trust and confidence in Li Ming, and finally chose to leave him. If Li Ming can take his promise seriously and do what he says, maybe their relationship will have a better future.
This is not a paradox, but an emotional intelligence. In love, both men and women need to understand and respect each other in order to build a healthy and strong relationship. And this "rejection" of men is not indifference and ruthlessness, but a manifestation of maturity and responsibility, which can make women feel the love and charm of men more deeply, so that they can be more inseparable from them. "Love is not a possession, but a free offering. Only on the basis of mutual respect and understanding can love be long and fulfilling.