"Character determines fate, maybe it's true!”
The more I grow, the more I realize that character is a very magical and important thing.
Understanding personality can not only allow us to "see" our true selves and find growth points;It can also help us harvest happiness and harmony in parent-child relationships, intimate relationships, financial relationships, workplace relationships, etc
How do you understand your own personality and that of others?The book "Instinctive Character" by Pei Yujing, the founder of the nine-pointed star nine-type personality system, is worth a look!
In the book, yes"Self-insurance", "one-to-one", "community".The analysis of the three key instinctive personalities is very interesting and super easy to read.
By sharing stories, the author interprets the three personalities in simple terms, helping us to understand the instinctive character, learn to reflect and live, no longer have internal friction, and build an intimate relationship!
After reading it, I found that I am a "one-on-one person", let's test you and see what kind of personality you are
1.Self-insuring people
Down-to-earth and steady, matter-oriented, and supportive
They pursue personal independence, pay attention to a skill, be practical and reliable, and always put things into practice.
They often have survival anxiety and like to save money and belongings, and they can feel safe and secure when they have electricity in their mobile phones and money in their cards.
They eliminate waste, budget wisely, spend money where it counts, pursue high cost performance, and are committed to meeting real needs.
They don't like change, they generally have fixed Xi, and spend their lives striving for stable happiness.
They are self-preserving people, doers who nourish in things, recharge in solitude, and pay in work.
Self-insurance people need to pay attention to:Resistance to change will make self-preserving people lose more attempts and possibilities, so flexibility and adaptability are the best lessons for their growth.
How to love "self-preservation"?Respect space, respect plan, respect Xi, respect items, do everything in moderation, do things seriously, do what you say, and report in advance.
2.One-on-one type person
Love first, selfless and pure, advocating freedom
Where the people and things they like, the energy and state are there. There are clear likes and dislikes, those who like them like it, and those who hate it are very annoying.
There is always a restless passion in their lives, and the life at the end of the day makes them feel bored and bored.
They love and live to the fullest, seeking deep intimacy.
They are typical "convulsive bipolar ** masters", if they have divine help when they feel it, and they are half-dead when they don't feel it.
They have an energy of confrontation and challenge, advocating freedom, often rebellious, and also like to break the routine and challenge difficulties. Frustrated as soon as you feel constrained.
They are the most important of the three instinctive personalities, and they also value emotions the most, and many legendary stories full of love and hatred come from one-on-one people.
One-to-one people need to pay attention to:Although it is easy to have an epiphany and inspiration, it is important not to take the open state as the norm, because if there is a lack of down-to-earth long-term accumulation, these creations and inspirations are difficult to replicate.
How to love "one-to-one people"?Preference, the company of important moments, the full expression of love, the creation of surprises and romantic moods, empathy, willingness, giving everything they have, pondering with heart, and continuous attention.
3.Social peopleField-oriented, adaptable, enthusiastic and cheerfulThey can't stay at home, they like to go out to participate in various group activities, the more people there are, the more excited they are, and there is always a busy social scene.
They have a long-term vision, aim at various resources, network contacts, and like to organize groups to do things together.
They are very good at talking, good at observing the crowd, the environment, and the atmosphere, and always know what to say on what occasions, and the proportions of words and deeds are in place.
They are like a warm spring breeze, warm, comfortable, and give people a sense of intimacy.
They care deeply about their reputation, position, and role in the team.
Social people need to pay attention to:It is easy to over-pursue face and fame, which requires self-awareness.
How do you love a "social person"?Sensible, decent and measured, maintain social image, take into account the overall situation, be flexible, do not bother small things, support big things, willing to share, and gregarious.
Seeing this, do you know what your instinctive personality is?
In the book, the author also shares the three personalities of people, how to play to their strengths in the workplace and go to the next level, how to grow each other in the parent-child relationship, and how to love ...... correctly in intimate relationshipsHelp you learn to love yourself, love others, love the world!