On one side is the man's aunt, and on the other side is the nephew and daughter-in-law, the two who came out of the courtroom hugged each other, and since then, there may be no intersection.
Another case was mediated, and the goal of closing the case at the end of the year was one step closer. ”
It's a pity that the two divorced. ”
During the pre-trial mediation, the man and woman were quite emotional and blamed each other for their faults. After drawing an end to the marriage, the woman walked out of the courtroom crying and hugging the man's family, waving goodbye to the man with red eyes, as if helpless, reluctant, and goodbye.
As the saying goes, I am good at dancing when you are good at stroking the piano, and at the end of the song, people are centrifuged. As the person who once loved and understood the most, between husband and wife, it is the sweetest when it is close, and it is the most painful when it is broken. What is really sad is that the marriage that should have been happy has dissolved due to poor management.
Why do you get divorced?
Why do you get divorced?It is nothing more than discord between husband and wife, unclear property relationship, conflict of family concepts between the two parties, and parent-child relationship. Therefore, when facing the parties to a divorce dispute, it is first necessary to control the emotions of both parties and promote a stable situation for both parties, so as to lay a solid foundation for the smooth development of mediation. As a legal worker, I hope to bring you some help in mediation through the following summary.
1. Understand the reasons for the discord between husband and wife, and strive to save the marital relationship. In divorce disputes, discord between husband and wife is a common reason. The relationship between husband and wife is a complex relationship, the most intimate and therefore the most prone to conflict. In family life, the parties to the divorce often have conflicts over various trivial matters, and eventually run out of patience, look at each other and get tired of each other, and embark on the road of divorce. The undertaker needs to have an in-depth understanding of the situation of both parties, explain and analyze the reasoning to both parties, grasp the key point that the husband and wife need to understand each other and run in with each other if they want to have a long-term relationship, and guide both parties to express their contradictions and clarify their demands. When necessary, relatives, friends or colleagues of both parties can be invited to assist in mediation, grasp the key point that the relationship between husband and wife is also a family and social relationship, and strive to achieve twice the result with half the effort.
2. Clarify the property relationship between husband and wife and ease the tension in the marital relationship. Under the premise of continuous social and economic development, the consumption level has risen, and some low-income families are facing heavy economic pressure. In the family life of the younger generation of couples, the burden of housing loans, car loans, child support, and parental support is heavier, among which the real estate problem is particularly prominent, and the seeds of "disagreement" may be planted in the process of buying a house and registering property rights, leaving hidden dangers for the conflict between husband and wife. After understanding the above situation, the undertaker shall explain the specific content of the woman's request to the man and seek the man's opinion;At the same time, after explaining the man's opinions to the woman, actively promote communication between the two parties, clarify the property relationship, and try to alleviate the conflict between the two parties. If they have a resolute attitude towards divorce and are truly unable to mediate, they should inform both parties to sign a voluntary divorce agreement and then agree to divorce.
3. Persuade both sides of the big family relationship to avoid "losing big because of small things". The husband and wife grew up in different family environments, and family concepts and so on are also different. In modern marital relations, parents interfere too much in their children's marital relationship, which is an important fuse that leads to conflicts between husband and wife. However, the attitude of both husband and wife to blindly maintain restraint towards their parents and hope that the other party can understand will often bury and intensify the conflict. In the face of this situation, the undertaker needs to invite both parents to be present and explain to both parents that giving full respect to their children is the premise of maintaining a good relationship, so that both parents can bless as much as possible, interfere less, care more, and do not listen. Couples should also be reminded to strengthen communication with their parents and explain their attitudes;Husbands and wives should also strengthen communication and take responsibility.
4. Balance the parent-child relationship and the relationship between husband and wife, and avoid an imbalance in the family's center of gravity. The relationship between husband and wife is an important foundation for maintaining a stable and harmonious family relationship, and a harmonious relationship between husband and wife can lead to a stable family relationship and a healthy parent-child relationship. But in real life, after many couples have children, the focus of family life has shifted to the parent-child relationship, the time spent alone by husband and wife has been repeatedly compressed, the communication between the two parties has gradually decreased, and even because of too much emphasis on children, they ignore each other, and often blame each other for a little thing about their children. In the long run, it is difficult to return, which eventually leads to the breakdown of the relationship between husband and wife. Such a family environment does not actually create a good parent-child relationship. As the undertaker, we should grasp the key point that a good relationship between husband and wife is an important cornerstone of marriage and family relations, and urge both husband and wife to strengthen communication, trust each other, not blame each other, give each other some time and space, and create a good family atmosphere of mutual affection.
Marriage Message
Two strangers, from acquaintance to love, walked into the marriage hall hand in hand, made a touching vow, and gave birth to the crystallization of love, which is the fate of the previous life. But in the end, he chose to divorce for various reasons, and even turned against him, which fully illustrates the complexity of married life. The law is rational and can give a clean ending to a marriage that is unreasonable and chaotic, but it cannot heal the scars caused by the breakdown of the marriage, let alone soothe the injured hearts of children. Therefore, we must be the ferrymen of our own marriage, strengthen communication within the family, properly handle family conflicts in a timely manner, tide over the bitterness of life, and achieve a happy marriage.
Author: Yang Ting, Yangxin County People's Court.
Comics: Li Shuang.
Editor: Zou Jia.
Editor-in-charge: Cai Jitao.
Review: Deng Zhaoling.