The relationship between the sexes is actually not so pure, and in the process of getting along with the opposite sex, there is an identity called "spare tire". That is, when there is no definite relationship and no commitment, one party plays the role of "provider", hoping that in the near future, a romantic relationship can be established. "Spare tire" means not the first choice, it means being hanged, used, and used as a tool.
Many people don't know that they have been treated as a "spare tire", but they are actually very recognizable.
If he uses you as a spare tire, then he will not be willing to open up about your relationship. Even if they do a lot of things that only couples do, he will not give you the identity of a partner. You will not appear in the circle of friends, will not take you to meet friends, will not reveal your existence to your family. The relationship between you and him seems to be the only one you are struggling to support, when your social circle thinks that you are with him, but no one else in his social circle seems to know what your relationship is like except you.
He only wants to take from you, but he rarely gives for you. Just like every holiday, it is always you who take the initiative to give him gifts, prepare surprises and romantic rituals for him;He will tell you directly what he wants and let you give it to him. But he rarely gives you back, most of the time you are giving, and when you take the initiative to ask the other party for something, he may refuse you outright. This unequal relationship shows that you are "used as a spare tire" by the other party.
He enjoys your goodness, but he doesn't have a relationship with you. Whether it is a boy or a girl, this is an act of cultivating a "spare tire". They want both the material things and benefits you give for them, and the emotions you provide. The occasional response he gives you is taken by you as proof that he loves you, but in fact it is the best proof that he hangs on you. Their purpose is to "eat what is in the bowl and look at what is in the pot." They are selfish, they only care about their feelings, they only want more benefits;Once you're out of use, that's when they leave you.