There is a very interesting phenomenon: when a man cheats, the wife will be sad and angry, thinking that the husband does not love him anymore, otherwise why would he betray himself and betray the marriage;And the lover will think that he is true love with him, and he loves himself, so he is willing to violate morality to be with himself for the sake of love.
Whether it is a wife or a lover, it seems that the "love" of a man is the standard that can measure everything, and the betrayal of a man is regarded as an action he pays for love. Betrayal because of "not love", and break through the moral shackles because of "love". But is it really because of "love" that a man cheats?
I don't think so. A man's betrayal of marriage cannot rise to the level of love, but it is the evil side of human nature that is at work. People have a greedy and selfish side, but some people have a conscience and a moral bottom line, while some people don't. If you ask the man who betrayed his marriage what he thinks, it is not surprising that he must have one thing in common - he feels that his marriage is unhappy, emphasizes his contribution in the marriage, and blames his wife at the same time.
It's no wonder that the lover thinks that he is the true love, after all, his marriage is not happy, and some men are willing to want nothing for their lover, just to divorce and be with their lover. But is this "love"?Not necessarily, it's just to satisfy your own emotional value. If you really love her, how can you bear to let her be shackled by a "third party" and "a junior who destroys other people's families"?He didn't think about whether he could bring a good life and future to the other party, but he was just emotional, in order to pursue that bit of joy and excitement.
When a man can't get the emotional value he pursues in his lover, he will feel unworthy and want to turn back. So he knelt down in front of his wife and confessed his mistakes, wept and pleaded, and begged for his wife's forgiveness. Is this loving wife?Neither is it. Even if he really returns to the family and cuts off contact with his lover, he may use private chat software to contact his lover or others in private, like good luck, basically his wife will not notice. He wants to turn back because, on the one hand, he can't get what he wants from his lover, and on the other hand, he has benefits.
In the marriage relationship, in addition to love and responsibility, there are also inextricable interests that maintain the relationship between the two, and the husband and wife are the community of interests. A man can live without love, but he will not give up his interests easily. So extramarital affairs often take the form of an affair when it is not discovered: a man respects his wife at home, or a husband and wife are affectionate, and he is out with his lover. If you are discovered, you can even put yourself in that "dilemma" position, and say to your wife that because you can't bear to hurt you, you have wronged yourself and your beloved woman secretly;Tell your lover that you love you the most, but you have a responsibility for your children, and you can't live up to your wife's dedication.
To put it simply, he wants the joy that his lover brings to him, but he is reluctant to have an entangled interest relationship with his wife in marriage. He may have love for his wife and lover, but he loves himself even more.