Deng Yuanyi's wife remarried: she was remarried because she was abused, her husband said goodbye calmly, and her son complained with his heart.
During the Eastern Han Dynasty, there was a man named Deng Yuanyi in Nankang County, and his father Deng Bokao served as a scholar in the court. Deng Yuanyi returned to his hometown after something, leaving his wife to serve his in-laws in the capital. Mrs. Deng was very respectful and filial to her mother-in-law, but for some reason, Mother Deng hated her very much. Deng's mother often locked Deng's wife in the house and refused to give her food. As a result, Deng's wife is getting thinner and thinner. Although she was exhausted by Mother Deng every day, Mrs. Deng still had no complaints in her heart.
Deng Bo Kao was surprised by his daughter-in-law's physical condition, and secretly asked his grandson Deng Lang, who was a few years old, about the reason. Deng Lang replied: "My mother is not actually sick, but she is so hungry that her body is so weak. When Deng Bo Kao heard this, he cried sadly and said: "I didn't expect the relationship between their mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to be so bad." After Deng Yuanyi learned the truth from his father, he divorced his wife under pressure from Deng's mother. Soon after his wife returned to her parents' home, she remarried Ying Huazhong.
After Ying Huazhong was promoted to a master craftsman, Ying's wife often traveled in a carriage assigned by the imperial court. Once, Deng Yuanyi saw his ex-wife in the carriage on the road, and said to the people around him: "This person is my ex-wife, she was not divorced because she made a mistake, but because my mother was too strict with her." The fortune teller said that her face was originally very noble. It was fulfilled today.
Deng Yuanyi's son, Deng Lang, was awarded the position of Lang official by the imperial court at this time. His mother wrote to him, he never replied, he sent him clothes, and he would burn them with his own hands. For her son's rebellious behavior, the mother did not take it to heart. Once, the mother wanted to see her son, so she found a reason through her in-law Li family and invited Deng Lang to the Li family.
When Deng Lang saw his mother, he didn't speak, but bowed to his mother twice with tears in his eyes, and then turned around and walked out the door. My mother understood what Deng Lang meant, so she caught up with Deng Lang and said, "When I was in your Deng family, I was almost starved to death by my mother-in-law. I was abandoned by your Deng family, what mistake did I make that you treat your biological mother like this. Since then, my mother has cut off contact with the Deng family.
Comment: From the perspective of today's values, the story in this article is not a good story, reflecting the oppression of women by feudal ethics. The synopsis of the whole story is that during the Eastern Han Dynasty, a woman who was abused by her mother-in-law remarried someone else under the arrangement of her father-in-law, and the husband could understand his wife's distress, but the son who made a fuss was bent on severing the mother-son relationship with his mother. The content of the story is actually not of much discussion value, although the feudal society requires women to follow three virtues and four virtues, but the shackles of this feudal ethics have only become exaggerated when Cheng Zhu Lixue of the Southern Song Dynasty determined that it was one of the main positions of Confucianism.
In the previous Han and Tang dynasties, women were still relatively free to remarry. Women in the Han and Tang dynasties were not only able to remarry, but also took the initiative to divorce their husbands. Emperor Wu of the Han Dynasty's biological mother, the Queen Mother, Wei Qing's wife Princess Pingyang, Princess Taiping, all had the experience of divorce and remarriage. In Dunhuang, there has been unearthed a template of an ancient divorce agreement, that is, the "Book of Releasing Wife", at the end of which "to resolve grievances and release knots, more hateful, one parting and two wide, each life is happy", it seems to be very warm.
Original text: Later Han Nankang Deng Yuanyi, his father Uncle Kao, shot for Shang Shu. Yuan Yi returned to the village, and his wife stayed with his aunt, and he was very cautious. I hate it, claustrophobic empty room, save his diet, dew, sleepy, and have no complaints. Shi Bo asked strangely, Yuan Yi Zilang, a few years old at the time, said: "My mother is not sick, but she is hungry." Bo Kao sobbed and said: "Why do you mean that my aunt is in trouble!.""Repatriated home, and married Hua Zhong's wife.
Zhong Wei will be a master craftsman, his wife took the car out, Yuan Yi watched it on the side of the road, and said: "This is my old wife, there is no other one, the wife of the family is really cool, and she is expensive." "His son Lang, when he was a lang, his mother and books, did not answer, and his clothes were burned. Mother doesn't mind. The mother wants to see it, and even the in-laws Li Shitang, which makes people ask Lang with other words. Lang Zhi, see the mother, and then weep, because of the rise. The mother said: "I have died a few times." I have been forsaken by thy family, what sin have I sinned, yes?So he refused.
Statement: "Sou Shen Ji" is the Eastern Jin Dynasty historian Gan Bao (?—336 A.D.), in terms of the age of creation, there is also a history of nearly 1,700 years, during which Chinese myths and stories are also a process of continuous evolution and completion, and the characters described will inevitably deviate from the current mainstream image. Therefore, this article is mainly based on the reading notes made in the original text of Sou Shen Ji, mainly based on the translation of the original text and the addition of brain holes. Due to the limited level of personal knowledge, the translation of some words is inevitably not accurate enough, and the understanding of some of the characters in the text is not too comprehensive in the records outside of "Sou Shen Ji".