Caigen Tan" once said:
Fu Mo is blessed with few things, and disaster is not bad with many hearts. ”
Many of the distractions in life come from a nosy heart.
Other people's affairs, whether bad or good, do not need us to act as life coaches.
When dealing with others, you should always have a line of boundaries that you can care about, but you can't be overly intrusive.
Be less nosy, keep the scale, know the proportion, and don't cross the line, so that you can be comfortable.
Nosy, no
Seen such a movie.
Women have been abandoned three times by men, slapped four times, beaten to the hospital, and finally kicked out of their homes.
When the man comes again, the girlfriend is worried that the woman will be hurt again, so she turns the man away, and warns him not to provoke the woman again.
was originally well-intentioned, but it was said by a woman to be nosy and thankless.
Maybe we all want to take care of it out of good intentions, but most of the results are unsatisfactory, and the other party may not necessarily appreciate it, and it is very likely that they will hold grudges.
It's best not to worry about things that have nothing to do with you, otherwise you will be bored.
There is a lady in the community, who is retired, can't be idle, and always likes to take care of some extraneous affairs.
There is a family whose son is in his thirties, and she has no partner, so she worries about marriage for others.
She has the daughter of a relative's family, and she plans to match the two when she is married.
She showed the young man's ** to the girl, but the girl politely refused.
The eldest lady didn't care and insisted that she go on a blind date:
People's education, family, and height are all very good. ”
The girl couldn't help it, so she had to go reluctantly.
As a result, when they went on a blind date, the two only looked at their mobile phones, and they couldn't answer a few words, and the girl left halfway through the meal.
As a result, the eldest lady did not please both ends, but provoked the two families to avoid her like a plague god.
This is typically thankless.
Many times, there is nothing wrong with wishing others well, but since others have not asked or asked for help, why bother pestering people endlessly.
There is a sentence in The Long Goodbye:
Meddling in other people's affairs will only cause you to get fishy. ”
Being nosy is a kind of maturity
When I was a child, I was always "helpful" to manage the world, but when I grew up, I realized that not everything could be managed.
If you are too enthusiastic and want to help with everything, you will often end up with "good intentions are not rewarded".
As the saying goes: "People have a warm heart, and they solicit a lot of right and wrong." ”
Everyone Wants to Be Someone Else" tells such a story.
There is a hard-working maid who is energetic every day.
She is not satisfied with just doing her own work, she wants to do something beneficial for everyone in the family.
So, she entered her master's room without permission, and according to her own knowledge of neatness, she made a thorough tidying up of the desk.
However, when the owner returned home, he found that the tidy desk was neat, but he couldn't find it when he tried to find something, so he was very dissatisfied with the maid.
There's nothing wrong with helping others, but it's important to think twice.
Smart people understand the truth that being a man has a ruler and is more valuable.
A truly wise man who never meddles with things.
Don't let what you think is "helping others" hurt you in the end.
Being nosy and putting yourself in the right position is not only a respect for others, but also a kind of protection for yourself.
Focus on yourself and live yourself
The days can go by more and more smoothly
Zen Master Huikai wrote a well-known poem:
There are flowers in spring, there are moons in autumn, cool breeze in summer, and snow in winter.
Don't worry about idle things, it is a good time in the world.
Many troubles in life are just because I manage too much of my affairs and pay too little attention to myself.
You must know that relationships do not warm up due to overzealousness, but rather fade due to overly interfering.
Truly mature people know how to keep their hearts and deny themselves.
Gossip, don't talk;Nosy, don't care.
Someone else's life, their own way of life.
For others, always keep a little distance and attention, but don't be too intrusive.
Not being nosy is not not not helping and not caring, but having principles and a bottom line.
Even if it is to help others, we must learn to think carefully, not act recklessly, and not cross the line.
The most important thing for a truly smart person is to take care of himself first and take care of his own life.
Focus more on yourself when you use the energy to manage other people's affairs.
You will find that the world will suddenly open up and many things will be solved.
Zheng Banqiao once said:
Read more ancient books to open your eyes and be less nosy and nourish your spirit.
True wise people rarely discuss the rights and wrongs of others, but focus on improving their own cognitive cultivation.
Maintaining boundaries with others is a form of respect, not intruding into the lives of others, and fulfilling one's own life.
Focusing on one's own development is a kind of responsibility;Not participating in the irrelevant right and wrong is also cherishing the limited life.
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