"Caigen Tan" has a saying: Fu Mo is blessed with few things, and disaster is not bad from many hearts.
In life, there are too many disturbances, too many grievances and grievances, all of which stem from a person who is too nosy.
If you like to meddle in things, you will provoke right and wrong, and if you accumulate too much right and wrong, it will cause grievances.
In the end, others are not happy, and they are also bad, everyone is torturing and tossing each other in the quagmire, and no one can get any benefits, but they make a commotion.
I often hear the old man say: "Everyone sweeps the snow in front of the door, and don't care about the frost on the tiles of others." ”
Be a man, don't meddle in things, do things, and don't point fingers.
Everyone has their own life, everyone has their own character, just be yourself, don't be a life coach, so as not to harm others and yourself.
Be nosy and be yourself
If the other party has wisdom and knows how to behave, he will naturally choose to be humble and ask you for advice, and then start acting on his own.
As the saying goes, it is better to give them fish. If you blindly meddle in your affairs and always think about helping others to the end, you will only end up in the embarrassing situation of "it is easy to invite God and difficult to send God".
There are always some people who like to take advantage of you and can't feed them, and they always don't think about your enthusiasm, and even only give you an inch.
At this time, you must learn to be less nosy, to curb the overflow of your own Virgin heart, and to stop your own zealous.
Be nosy, respect the fate of others, as the so-called see him rise a tall building, see him feast guests, and see his building collapse. The ups and downs of fate are always fixed, and they fall naturally, or they rise artificially, and they are just natural laws.
There is a sentence in The Long Goodbye:
"Meddling with other people's business will only cause you to get fishy. ”
You have to understand that other people's idle things are endless and endless.
If you blindly manage it, you will eventually be entangled, and at this time, no matter how much time and energy you have, you will be powerless to parry.
Instead of being nosy, it is better to be yourself, focus on yourself, improve yourself, and accept yourself.
Then, read more books, go out for a walk, see more scenery, and open your eyes more, which will make you feel comfortable and live a happy life.
Zheng Banqiao wrote in "Gift to the Father and Son":
"Read more ancient books to open your eyes, and be less nosy to nourish your spirit. ”
Life is to be yourself, cherish the moment, live yourself, and enjoy your interests, so that you can improve yourself and strengthen yourself.
Because everyone's energy is limited, if you always want to change others, then you will only exhaust yourself.
Only by focusing on oneself with limited energy, keeping an appropriate distance from other people's relationships, not intrusive, boundary, and principled.
In this way, it is good for yourself and good for everyone.
Don't be nosy and be independent
The Song Dynasty poet Chen Yu wrote in "Bitter Yin":
"Regardless of the month before the trial, the plum blossoms are paid independently. ”
As the so-called honey of yours and arsenic of the other, in life, you must know how to compare your heart with your heart, and you must know how to look at the problem from a different angle.
Only in this way can we truly do what we do not want to do to ourselves, do not do to others, and let ourselves be less nosy and less idle.
Seeing through human nature and understanding people's hearts, we will not pay whatever it takes to get our Lady's heart warm.
You have to believe that blindly being kind will only make people take it for granted in the end, let yourself stick to it, and get into trouble with "Shengmien, fighting Mi Hatred".
Instead of meddling in things and making people feel cheap, it is better to invest the same effort, energy, and time in yourself, so that you can accumulate more resources for yourself, create greater value, and ultimately promote yourself to independence.
In life, only oneself will not betray oneself and will not fail oneself.
Only oneself is the most trustworthy and worthy of management in this life.
Focus on yourself, don't judge others, live yourself, and don't meddle in your own affairs, just like Carnegie wrote in "The Weakness of Human Nature".
"Socrates said that he knew nothing of himself, and that my wisdom was nowhere near as good as Socrates, so I would never judge anyone, but focus on doing my own thing. This has proven to be effective. ”
In everything you do, you must maintain a degree, especially when you become more and more mature, you should become more and more cautious.
Then, with your own brilliance and residual heat, you will shine on yourself and others who are worthy, and also warm yourself and others who are worthy.
I like what is said in "Spring Song": "If there is nothing to worry about, it is a good time in the world." ”
When a person lives more and more transparently and maturely, he will return to a calm inner world.
Then, have a normal heart, have no obstacles, and live freely.
Regardless of idleness, cross the future
In life, take care of yourself and don't cross others.
To be a person and do things, we must learn to compare our hearts with our hearts, and we must have a clear conscience.
You don't owe others, learn to be kind to yourself, keep a distance from everything, and have a sense of proportion.
Only in this way can we cherish the present, enjoy the present, and live the present.
Meet the Unknown Self" wrote:
"There are only three things in the world, other people's business, my business, and God's business. ”
When other people's affairs, even if they are close to their relatives, can't be managed, there is no need to care.
God's affairs, I have no possibility, and I don't have the ability to take care of it.
Therefore, only one's own affairs can be managed by oneself, and now it can be said that only by managing oneself and doing oneself well can one take its own path.
For the rest of your life, take care of yourself in order to cross the future.
Don't probe, don't exceed the rules, don't cross the line, have a sense of boundary, have a sense of proportion, know how to advance and retreat, and understand right and wrong.
Life is short, don't waste your precious time and energy, you have people you really love, and people who really love you.
Therefore, put precious energy, thoughts, sincerity, and time on worthy people, be less nosy, ignore idle things, self-healing, and have a great future.
In this way, grasp the limited time, cherish the beauty of the moment, and live a graceful life.