Marriage is a solid harbor of love, and how many people work hard in love to make the ship of marriage close at hand, so that they can board the common shore of happiness.
However, the gradual proximity of two hearts does not mean that you can definitely get married.
Because marriage is never as simple as two people falling in love with each other, married life occupies 2 3 of life, and all kinds of trials contained in the days need to be taken into account, and only when two people are together have these signs, it means that they can get married.
First, when you encounter a problem, discuss the solution.
When two people have differences together, the best way to deal with them is never one person who has the final say, but to respect each other's feelings, be measured, measured, so that the relationship can be relaxed for a long time, so that a person's heart is not aggrieved.
For example, one of my readers, Xu Ming, has been with his girlfriend Li Fang for two years. In the beginning, their relationship was shaky. They both have some selfish thoughts, just want to meet their own needs, and are unwilling to listen to each other's feelings and thoughts.
Later, in the process of getting along, I learned what love is. When thinking about problems, I no longer simply put myself in my own position and perspective, but I have learned to respect the feelings of the other person.
Now they have begun to talk about marriage issues, talk about such a big life event as buying a house, and they will also discuss and deal with it, and reach a consensus to implement it.
When two people can get married, they must realize that marriage is a matter for two people, not just satisfying one person's feelings, and being willing to discuss and solve things is the secret to maintaining a long-term relationship.
Second, after the fight, it is necessary to ** rank.
When two people are together, it is not terrible to quarrel, what is terrible is that they don't know how to deal with it after a quarrel, and there is no way to bring back the relationship that must have cooled down back to life, so it is easy to cause a relationship to get colder and colder until it collapses.
If such a problem is not solved, even if you get married, it will make the hearts of two people more and more cold because of the same thing.
Really smart people don't get married until they settle an argument because an argument can ruin a relationship.
When two people know how to cherish each other, after a quarrel, one party is willing to take the initiative to back down, and the other party can also understand the other party's concession and is willing to take the initiative to walk down the steps handed by the other party, so as to continuously add points to a relationship.
There is no winner when two people quarrel, and if you really can't tell the difference between winning and losing, your feelings will be left out in the cold.
Instead of losing, figure out what's most important in a relationship
True love requires understanding and compromise, and only when two people are willing to take a step back from each other can the value of the relationship be realized and get along better.
Plan for the future and be willing to be together.
When I watched the TV series "Return", I was moved by the hero and heroine, and there was a scene that impressed me very much, in a very warmly furnished small house, the hero stood behind the heroine and hugged her, and gently said into her ear: I want you to give me many children.
The two began to imagine the future, and decided to get married after graduation and settle down after marriageWhatever the name of the child is born, there is a beautiful vision.
Of course, when two people want to get married, they can't just think about these things about the continuation of love, but also think about the actual life in the future, just like a classmate of mine, he wants to marry his girlfriend, seriously think about the work of the two people, divide the best scope of solution, and thus start a vigorous engagement ceremony.
Two people can really come together, no matter what problems they encounter, they will not dislike it, and go down with the person in front of them, which is the most useful psychology suitable for marriage, because it proves that each other is looking forward to being with each other.