My name is Tiffany and I'm from the United States. He received a good education since he was a child, his family was wealthy, and he came to China to become a foreign teacher after graduating from university.
In China, I met a man who caught my heart, his name was Cai Xiaohua, and he was a security guard at my school. After my constant pursuit, he finally agreed to be with me, and finally got married, formed a happy family, and gave birth to a lovely mixed-race baby.
But our love story is not all smooth sailing, and there are many ups and downs.
After coming to China from the United States, I fell in love with China. Although everything here is very different from the United States, the Chinese are very kind and simple, and the city is constantly developing.
One day, I was going to work at the school as usual, and suddenly I saw a security guard at the school gate with a sunny smile on his face, which immediately touched my heart.
I found myself falling in love with the security guard, and this feeling came to pass, as I later learned, in Chinese parlance, love at first sight.
And he is my future husband Cai Xiaohua, a native of rural Henan.
I'd never met him before, so I thought the school had just recruited him.
In our America, if you like someone, you have to say it. But my Chinese was not good at that time, and besides, Chinese people are very shy and very conservative in the way they express their emotions, and if I were like an American, I would probably scare him.
Besides, I don't know much about Xiaohua, what if he already has a girlfriend, what if he is already married?
So I could only pass him silently when I went to work every day, and then say to him in Chinese: "Hello." ”
Every time, he would smile brightly and say to me warmly, "Hello." ”
Finally, one day, I mustered up the courage and was ready to take the initiative to strike up a conversation. But there is always a bit of strategy to pick up a conversation, so I came up with a solution, which is to learn Chinese as a reason.
And Xiaohua was very enthusiastic, and he agreed to teach me English.
In this process, the two of us are like children playing games, and every day you draw and I guess.
He kept his promise very much, and after he promised me, although he was only a beginner Chinese, he couldn't understand English, and he didn't know how to teach others to learn XiChinese, but he racked his brains to find a way.
Later, he found an old newspaper, and every day he would circle the Chinese characters on it one by one, and then keep making gestures to explain it to me.
No matter how much I asked him, he would be very patient, over and over again. At the time, I didn't understand much, but I was very happy to be with him every day.
I can also see that he is a very responsible and good man.
At that time, I Xiaohua just regarded me as a friend. However, the distance between us was narrowed little by little, and the relationship heated up rapidly.
My feelings for him are getting deeper and deeper, and the two of them are also very tacit. He didn't understand what I was saying, but with a few gestures, he understood it immediately.
So the two of us had nothing to say, and I decided to confess and show my love for him.
One day I found him, and I wanted to say it, but after all, he was a girl, and he was a little shy. When he saw that I was about to speak, he thought I was in trouble.
When I saw him like this, I plucked up the courage and said the phrase "I love you".
When he heard it, he was stunned at first. I could see that my words had taken him aback, and it was hard for him to accept for a moment, so I thought he didn't like me.
Later, I learned that for Chinese, marriage sometimes requires the right family and a kind of responsibility. They will take into account the financial situation and whether they can take care of each other.
Xiaohua comes from a poor rural village in China and is a very simple Chinese youth.
At that time, he came to work in a big city like Guangzhou, and his thinking was very simple: to find a job and work hard to earn money safely, and then improve the life of his family.
For him, he never considered falling in love when the economic conditions were not met. I never thought about falling in love with a foreign girl like me.
Moreover, considering my financial situation, he had some inferiority complex in his heart. Because in his opinion, he is just an ordinary university security guard, with no financial ability and no social status, and his education is not high, just a junior high school graduate.
So he doesn't feel worthy of me.
But none of this is a problem in my opinion, and I like him and that's enough.
And he thinks like this, which also makes me feel that he is a responsible man, and in the face of feelings, he thinks more of responsibility, which undoubtedly gives me a sense of security.
He didn't say yes, and when I went to work later, I couldn't see him at the school gate. When I went to the school to ask, I found out that he had asked for a month's leave from the unit and went to Yunnan to visit relatives.
At that time, he wanted me to calm down, after all, feelings are not child's play, they need to be carefully considered.
He thought that when he came back after a while, we could just be close friends as usual.
But he did so, but he didn't let me back down. On the contrary, my feelings for him grew day by day, and I did not bother him, but waited for him to come back at school.
Every day when I think about him, I write all my thoughts into a diary, day after day, and when a month later, he returns.
I showed him my diary, and I wanted him to understand that my love for him was not a whim, but a genuine love.
After reading my diary, although he couldn't fully understand it, he was deeply moved, so he accepted my confession.
The two of us finally came together.
In the days of dating, we were very happy and sweet. Usually, we go to the park together and eat at a restaurant.
With him by my side, I am very happy. After all, I am far away in China, and my hometown is thousands of miles away, and it is he who makes me feel the warmth of home.
Something interesting happened during this time.
I remember one time, when we went to a Western restaurant for dinner, I dressed up carefully, wearing high heels and a cheongsam unique to China.
And he was dressed very ordinarily, even wearing only a pair of slippers.
When we walked into the high-end western restaurant, many people pointed at us, because we were dressed too differently, and he felt very sorry. But in my opinion, that's his honest side, and I don't care about that.
What others think is their right and freedom, but it can't affect our feelings.
However, the relationship between us is very good, but after all, the life background is very different, and the cultural difference is very large.
Therefore, there will also be a lot of friction, the most common being eating. I usually only eat Western food such as sandwiches, and I Xi am not very accustomed to Chinese food.
He likes to eat Chinese food, especially noodles.
So every time I went out to eat, it became a problem to find a suitable restaurant, and I quarreled a few times because of this.
These were small things, but one time he left me.
At that time, I had some physical problems, and after my parents found out, in order for me to accept a better ** and take better care of me, they asked me to temporarily return to the United States to recuperate.
But what they don't know is that I can still get a good ** in China, and here, I am no longer alone, with Xiaohua by my side, he will also do his best to take care of me.
But after I told him this, a few days later, he actually submitted his resignation and went back to his hometown.
He left this time, not because he was troublesome, but because he, like my parents, thought that I could only get better ** if I returned to the United States, so he wanted to force me to go back in this way.
When he did this, his heart was also painful.
There is a Chinese lyric: Choose to let go for love. Isn't a good Chinese man like this the best person to stay with for a lifetime?
So after a month, I gave him a ** and told him about my very important decision.
I hope to marry him, start a family, have a healthy and lovely baby, and join hands for the rest of my life.
It may seem to others that we are not a good fit for each other, and some people may even be surprised. But love knows no borders, as long as I love him, why can't we be together?
So marrying him and growing old together is my greatest wish.
And Xiaohua is also very brave this time, he is no longer inferior, and is ready to face the ups and downs in the coming days with me.
So I'm going to introduce him to my parents.
Although Xiaohua was a little apprehensive in his heart, in Chinese, after all, this time he was going to see his future "father-in-law and mother-in-law", and he must be a little worried.
For example, will my parents dislike his conditions, will they oppose what is going on between us?
But his worries were unwarranted, because I had already told my parents about me and him.
They said: As long as I like it, it's good to find a Chinese son-in-law.
And in the process of our relationship with my parents, I can see that my parents like Xiaohua very much.
My mom also told me that he now knows why I chose to be with Xiaohua because he is really handsome.
I was extremely happy with the support of my parents, which showed that our marriage was halfway through, and Xiaohua did not immediately agree to my request to get married.
He was going to let me go to his hometown first, then meet his family, and then let me decide.
A few days later, when I got off the plane, Xiaohua walked into the flower shop for the first time and waited for me at the airport to buy a bouquet of flowers.
I could tell he was very excited and nervous.
And I couldn't help but get nervous, because my Chinese was not good, and I didn't know what to say or do when I met his parents. Will his parents like me.
Xiao Hua on the side also kept comforting me, although it was very bumpy along the way, I calmed down.
As long as he holds my hand, what else is there to worry about?
Unexpectedly, as soon as I arrived in their village, it immediately caused a sensation.
Later, Xiaohua told me that to their poor mountain village, I was like a fairy falling from the sky.
After all, in their village, there are not many daughters-in-law from other places, but I am a beautiful girl from the United States, which is a rare thing.
So the whole village gathered around the entrance of the village and looked at the two of us.
But I was no different from them, and it made me very uneasy that they were looking around me like this.
When Xiaohua saw me like this, he took me back to the city, and we went to the mall and ate. He wanted me to calm down, and he tentatively asked me what I was thinking.
Although I was apprehensive in my heart, it was only because too many people were watching. And I want to marry him, but it hasn't changed, and I don't mind his family conditions.
got my affirmative answer, and Xiao Hua's heart also relaxed.
Later, we went to Xiaohua's house, and I met his father, and I also saw his sister, and his lovely little nephew. The family was very welcoming to me and I had a very pleasant trip.
Now that both parents are willing, it is logical to get married, but Xiaohua has been delayed in proposing to me, which makes me anxious.
Although there is no such tradition in China, in the United States, marriage proposals are sometimes even more important than weddings.
But Mu Ne's Xiaohua just couldn't see my thoughts, even if he took me to buy a wedding ring, he still couldn't remember it, so I could only keep hinting at him, but fortunately, Xiaohua's "elm head" finally opened up.
And he was very romantic, took me to a sunflower field, and then got down on one knee and proposed to me.
I was speechless with excitement. Finally, after so much, we are about to enter the palace of marriage.
In order to commemorate this happy and sweet one, when I went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to get a marriage certificate, I put on my favorite Chinese white cheongsam.
And Xiaohua let us get more blessings and chose to hold a wedding in his hometown that combines Chinese and Western. This wedding was special and lively.
On that day, the village was even more lively than the Chinese New Year, and several people from the village came to witness our wedding.
Outside, firecrackers rang out non-stop, and people gathered around the courtyard, eating wedding feasts and sending blessings.
During this period, there were many parts of our wedding, which were local Xi, such as picking up money from the basin. They told me that this meant that I would be the "head of the family" in the future, and that Xiaohua would do his best to take care of me.
There are also worshipping heaven and earth, giving tea to Xiaohua's elders and recognizing relatives, etc.
Since it is a combination of Chinese and Western, it is indispensable to exchange rings.
Although my parents could not come to China at that time, they also sent us deep blessings through ***.
Everything seems perfect to me, all happy.
After that, it was indeed like what I said at the wedding, I was the "head of the family", and Xiaohua was very good to me. Although after getting married, Xiaohua was not able to buy a house, and when I got married, I didn't ask for a bride price. But it doesn't have any impact on our lives.
And the birth of our adorable mixed-race baby also brought us more joy.
My wish came true, and it was perfect.
After this, I believe that our family will continue to live happily ever after.
And Xiaohua and I will be like the vows we made at our wedding: hold the hand of the son and grow old with the son, and support each other to finish this life.