United StatesPhilosophyHome William James once said: ".HumanityThe most earnest expectation is to crave the approval of others. "In life, everyone craves recognition and wants someone to appreciate them. Therefore, I want to open up social networking and accumulateConnectionsThe best way to do this is to compliment others. As I walked, I realized that I could express praise sincerely and appropriatelyConduct things for peopleThe most top-notch emotional intelligence. When we can't accept the excellence of others in comparison, we are easily defeated by jealousy and fall into the cycle of "jealousy". However, jealousy only shackles our development and hinders our cooperation with others. Only by truly appreciating and praising others can we get more opportunities and happiness in social interactions.
Jealousy is usHumanityThe darkest side of it is our judgment of our own abilities and values. But uncontrolled jealousy can make us narrow-minded and negative. DoubanSomeone repliedHumanityThe darkest thing is "not seeing others better than yourself". This jealousy can deprive us of the opportunity to know ourselves, to see our own shortcomings, and to appreciate the good in others. For example, some people will be jealous of Gu Ailing's outstanding performance in the Winter Olympics, and they will be critical of her in-laws' choice and her excellence, and behind it is the "jealousy" of a group of people. However, everyone has their own light, and everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses. When we find that others are better than ourselves, we might as well stop and think, why are others good?Look at the gap between yourself and others, and then work hard to improve yourself.
Everyone wants to be the best, but there are people outside the sky, and we will always meet people who are better than ourselves. In the face of the strong, what we have to do is not jealousy and hatred, but to see the wise and think together, and catch up. Appreciating the good in others and recognizing the good in others will not hinder our own growth. On the contrary, this recognition is a sober cognition, a remarkable pattern. When we see the strengths of others, we can recognize our own shortcomings more clearly, and then humbly ask for advice to improve ourselves. Gradually narrowing the gap between yourself and others is an ability to cultivate oneself. Just as Wang Meng invited Ahn Hyun-so to coach in China, she was able to find excellence in her competitors and give high appreciation and evaluation, so she achieved good results in this Winter Olympics.
Boasting is an ability that requires skill and wisdom. Cai Kangyongonce said: "When someone scolds you, and you scold him back, this is called a quarrel." When others praise you, you give you a compliment, which is called socializing. "It's not hard to praise people, but it's not so easy to praise people. Praising people requires us to overcome the mentality of "too lazy to praise" and not be stingy with our praise. At the same time, we must focus on the real merits of the other party, not perfunctory, and not hypocritical. The most important point is that praising people requires treating people with care, observing and thinking. Only in this way can the words we speak truly warm each other's hearts.
Not only does complimenting others feel happy and affirmed, but it also improves our own interpersonal and social skills. Complimenting people is a positive emotional transmission that can open the heart and bring people closer together. When we compliment others, they feel that we care and respect, and thus are more willing to cooperate and communicate with us. Compliments also help us build a good reputation and image, because they convey a positive and friendly attitude. At work, boasting about people can also create more opportunities and benefits. For example, when you compliment a colleague on a job well done, they will remember your liking and may help you solve a problem or recommend you for a better job opportunity in the future.
Praise is an ability to make a difference and change our lives. When we learn to praise, we will open the door to a wonderful interpersonal and developmental path. As human beings, we need to appreciate and be appreciated, we need to be praised and praised. Only when we discover the good in others and praise them sincerely can we appreciate the power of praise and make our lives more joyful and satisfying. So, please step out of the shadow of jealousy and learn to appreciate and praise others!