SimAuntieShe is a 58-year-old woman who has spent a good time with her first husbandMarried life。However, after the tragic death of her husband, SimAuntieLonely for 4 years. Introduced by a friend, she was with aWidowedThe male Lao Lin met and began to date. Despite the age difference, the relationship between the two gradually deepened, so they decided to remarry. SimAuntieMoved into Lao Lin's home, while his own house was rented out. At first, they respected and loved each other, and in the face of the difficulties brought about by remarriage, they tolerated and accommodated each other, actively communicated and solved problems, and lived a harmonious and sweet life. When the children got married, they thought they could start enjoying a good life. However, the contradictions between them have quietly arisen.
SimAuntieOne of the conflicts with Lao Lin is about taking care of her mother-in-law who has had a stroke. For some time after getting married, SimAuntieTry your best to take on the obligations of your wife, and try your best to make Lao Lin feel the warmth and ease of the family. But later, Lao Lin became more and more indifferent, and a qualitative change occurred in his remarried life. He suddenly offered to take his mother-in-law, who had suffered a stroke, to his home to take care of him, and XinAuntiePsychologically, such an arrangement is not recognized. She believes that Lao Lin's motive for doing this is not simple, and Lao Lin's two brothers have better conditions, but they do not make the same request. Although the other brothers were willing to pay for a nanny to take care of their mother-in-law, Lao Lin insisted on XinAuntiepersonally cared for it, which made XinAuntieFeeling unacceptable, estrangement began to create between them.
Another issue that led to the escalation of the conflict was about the arrangement of caring for the grandchildren. SimAuntiethinks that since they have become husband and wife, Lao Lin's grandson should also be regarded as his grandson, and it is also appropriate to bring grandchildren. However, Lao Lin insisted on letting XinAuntieEvery day he goes to his son's house to take care of his grandson and does housework in the evenings. For XinAuntieThe distance to her son's house is long, and she can't drive, so the traffic is very inconvenient, and she needs to change buses many times. In the face of Lao Lin's request, XinAuntieI find it unacceptable. Although Lao Lin to his years of confrontation with XinAuntieThe care and care for the reason, ask XinAuntieListen to his arrangement, but SingAuntieStand your ground. They quarreled about it for almost half a year, XinAuntiefelt that such a life was meaningless, so they finally decided to divorce Lao Lin and ended their remarriage life.
SimAuntieThe story sheds light on the dilemmas and challenges faced by remarried couples. Remarriage itself is a road full of thorns, which requires the joint efforts and tolerance of both husband and wife. In SimAuntieIn the story of Lao Lin, we see the importance of mutual respect and love between husband and wife, as well as communication and understanding. The two worked together to run a businessMarriageand support and care for each other after marriage. However, over time, the conflict between them deepened, which eventually led to a divorce.
Remarried couples need to accommodate and understand each other in their common life, and cannot force each other's satisfaction for their own interests. In SimAuntieIn the case of Lao Lin, Lao Lin's selfishness and narrow-mindedness became the cause of the escalation of the contradictionCritical。He puts his own needs firstHusband and wife relationshipThe importance of the importance on top of the sinAuntieA series of unreasonable demands were made, which eventually led to their divorce. SimAuntieIn the face of difficulties, he stuck to his bottom line and did not succumb to Lao Lin's pressure. In remarriage, both parties should communicate sincerely and negotiate together to solve the problem. It's sustainmentHusband and wife relationshipofCritical。SimAuntieHe Lao Lin tried his best to communicate and explain when faced with contradictions and problems, but the two sides were too tough on each other's positions and did not reach a consensus. Their lack of effective communication skills and problem-solving skills leads to conflicts that cannot be properly resolved, which ultimately affects themMarriageRelationship.
In remarriage, the couple should agree on the distribution of family roles and responsibilities. SimAuntieThe conflict with Lao Lin mainly stems from their disagreement about taking care of their mother-in-law and taking care of their grandson. This is a common problem, and couples need to be clear about their roles after remarriage, and make a reasonable distribution in terms of the division of household chores, taking care of the family, etc. Both parties need to negotiate together to achieve:Family membersconsensus and satisfaction.
Remarried couples need to have some understanding and acceptance of each other's past and family background. SimAuntieThe age difference and family background with Lao Lin have become one of the reasons for their conflict. Couples should have a certain understanding and acceptance of each other before remarrying, including understanding and respect for each other's families. Through understanding and respect, both parties can better adapt to each other's family environment and living Xi.
Finally, remarried couples need to maintain their independence and personal space. Remarriage is not about filling an emptiness or finding a new one to fall back on, but about building a healthy, balanced, and mutually respectful partnership. SimAuntiePart of the reason why their remarried life with Lao Lin was short and unhappy was that they relied too much on each other's existence and lost their independence and personal space. Remarried couples need to maintain their interests and social circles, not rely too much on each other, and provide enough space and respect for each other.
All in all, remarried life is both an opportunity and a challenge. Husbands and wives should work together to accommodate and understand each other, and maintain communication and problem-solving skills in the face of difficulties and conflicts. In addition, couples need to build independence and personal space for each other, maintain self and respect for each other. Only in this way can remarried couples live happily and harmoniously.