Wen Qianyun.
Sometimes, our perceptions can deceive us.
When we quarrel with our partners, we tend to speak very absolutely, extremely, as if only in this way can we be superior to each other and make each other realize our mistakes.
Maybe the source of the quarrel is that when the other party cooks, they put the coriander that you don't like to eat, and then you say, "Why do you put coriander for me, I don't eat coriander, don't you know?".It's not the first day you know me, and you don't remember how many times I've said it.
Maybe the source of the quarrel is because you tell the other person to do something, but the other person forgets and doesn't do it. You come back and see that he has been sitting on the sofa looking at his phone, and you are angry, "Look at your phone every day, you can live with your phone."
In this way, because of a little thing, I kept arguing, arguing, arguing, and finally rising to "You will never love me, do you regard me as your predecessor, I have no status in your heart at all, and you never care about my feelings,..
In this process, there are many details, and in the eyes of others, they are all things that cannot be smaller, so why bother so much.
But as the parties, if we only stop at the final conclusion: "He doesn't care about my feelings, he will never love me, he will never care about me, he doesn't have me in his heart." ”
This point of view will linger in our minds for a long time, and we are very likely to stray into the victim's state of mind, and it will be difficult to get out, and the contradictions cannot be resolved.
In some couples, the man is less talkative, and only the wife is left to talk non-stop.
In the face of this situation, I believe that for the vast majority of women, the cold treatment of the husband who does not speak and responds when quarreling is the most maddening to us.
We have a stomach full of grievances to say, and our hearts are full of endless pain and resentment, and instead of understanding our situation, he does not even give us the attention we deserve.
His silence makes us feel left out and rejected, and this feeling only exacerbates our anger value.
When women face men's silence, the subtext seems to women to be just this: Why don't you answer my question?Do you not exist in front of me like a transparent person?What exactly are you hiding?Do you think that silence will solve the problem?
However, the reason men choose to remain silent is to avoid further deterioration of the situation.
They don't know how to express themselves, and they are afraid that a single word will cause more trouble, so they simply choose to remain silent.
They are tired of this state of affairs and do not want to say more, say more and say more wrongly, and say more wrongly, and if they don't say it, they don't say it at all.
In life, if you have an argument with your partner, don't rush to lose your temper, stop for a second and think about it, do you want to pursue right and wrong, or pursue happiness?
If he does something wrong, he is wrong, and everyone will do something wrong sometimes, and we have to allow trial and error.
Day by day, there are so many things, how can you remember everything, how can you not make mistakes in everything.
If he doesn't want to say it, don't say it, allow silence.
Silence does not mean escape.
Silence is a kind of strength and a kind of wisdom.
You can better listen to the voices of others and feel their emotions;It is also possible to think more deeply and make more informed decisions.
Silence can sometimes express a person's inner world better than words.
When we meet someone who is reluctant to speak, we should respect their choice and give them enough space and time to process their emotions.
Learn to relax your emotions, which are a reaction within us that can influence our thinking, behavior, and decision-making.
When we are in a high-pressure state for a long time, it is easy to lead to bad emotions such as physical and mental exhaustion, anxiety and depression.
Relaxation can help us relieve stress in our lives, which in turn fosters intimacy with each other.
When we are in a negative emotional state, it is easy to misunderstand and be hostile towards others, which can lead to strained intimate relationships.
And when we learn to relax our emotions, we become more tolerant and understanding of others, which will help us build a more harmonious relationship as a couple.
Life is all about relaxation.
Don't be in a hurry to talk and do things, think more about each other's benefits, don't remember each other's shortcomings, and don't have resentment.
If you value each other and have a sense of tolerance, then all the frictions in life will not become the fuse.
If you lose your temper, but don't go to your heart, it's over, and if you can't change it, you can accommodate it.
He and she are the beloved person you choose yourself, since you are the person you decided first, you will not regret your original choice, and accompany each other to old age.
You are not perfect, so is he, since you have fate together, cherish this fate and live a good life.
end.Hello everyone, I'm Qianyun, thank you for reading, I'm glad to meet you in my text, and meet a better self together. May your family be happy and sweet as honey.
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