I remember very well that after my child learned to eat by himself, he didn't like to be fed by others, and he would say, "I want to eat it myself!" And when he just learned to dress himself, he didn't like the help of others, he would say, "I want to dress myself!" ”
It is not difficult to see that children are unwilling to rely on others after learning a thing, and are willing to do things on their own, which is the formation stage of children's initial sense of responsibility.
In real life, there are many parents who arrange and replace their children too much, especially when they are raised by the next generation, the children are very dependent, and many things that should be done by themselves are done by the parents, and the children become clothes to reach out and eat to open their mouths. Over time, the phenomenon of poor self-care ability has formed.
Therefore, if you want to cultivate your child's self-reliance, you should not do everything for your child, but let your child do it by himself.
1. Let your child find the answer to the question on his own
When a child asks a question, it is common practice for adults to tell him the answer immediately, which is simple and convenient. But by doing this often, when the child grows up, he will not think about the problem and will always hope that others will provide ready-made answers. This directly hinders the child's autonomy in intellectual labor.
The right thing to do is to give clues to the answer when the child has a question, and then encourage the child to find the answer on his own based on the clues. After a few times, the child will gradually learn to think about how to solve the problem first, rather than relying on others.
2. Create more practical opportunities for children
As a parent, in daily life, we should create more opportunities for children to practice, such as being a role model, let children imitate, in addition, take the initiative to teach children some housework within their ability, through praise and praise, let children gradually enjoy the sense of achievement obtained by self-reliance, and slowly children will understand the truth of self-reliance.
3. Stimulate children's fighting spirit
After the child completes a task independently, parents should consciously praise the child in a targeted manner, which can arouse the child's high morale and self-esteem, so as to generate the confidence that "what others can do, I can also do, and what others can't do, I also have to find ways to complete".
Parents encourage their children's fighting spirit, and the children will take further actions, which will help the children to get rid of the Xi of dependence psychologically and behaviorally. Gradually, children will learn to defend their self-esteem and sense of honor with practical actions.
In fact, the so-called education is to start from the details, so that children can avoid mistakes and reduce the probability of going the wrong way. In fact, the most important thing isIt is necessary to focus on the cultivation of character and character。Therefore, it is very important to cultivate children's good behavior Xi in time for children's growthCultivate excellent character Xi,Having a confident and optimistic attitude, learning to control their emotions, and reasonably resolving negative emotions in life are the skills that children should learn Xi.
There are no bad children in this world, only parents who can't teach, and parents put more effort into growing upGive the right guidance and raise excellent childrenIt's actually quite easy.
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