There are two children in the family, a kindergarten and a primary school student who has just transferred to another school. And this elementary school student encountered what I had been fearing but didn't happen, she was isolated and targeted by her classmates, and she fought back badly.
When I heard the teacher's feedback, I immediately asked the child and bought a lot of books on this subject, and the most amazing thing for me was this "Bad Guy in a Fairy Tale": The First Anti-Bullying Cognitive Book for Children".
That's when I realized that this was bullying.
The teachers just thought that she was overreacting (yelling and pushing others) and asked me to find a way to communicate with her, but the underlying reason was actually that she didn't get along well with her classmates and was targeted.
After determining the reason, the teacher and I quickly talked to both parties and made adjustments, and her excesses immediately disappeared, and the relationship with other classmates eased.
Although I have always asked her before that she gets along with her classmates at schoolHow did anyone bully her?But she said no every time.
After this incident, I realized that it was possible that she did not realize that she was being bullied, but just felt very uncomfortable, but did not know how to talk about it and vent it.
Compared to books that contain a lot of theories and coping methods, this picture book can better explain to her what bullying is, how to identify and deal with it.
Books that children can read are the most suitable. And the style of painting is very good-looking, the colors are gorgeous, the lines are bright and sharp, and there is an indescribable taste.
The Baddies in Fairy Tales: The First Anti-Bullying Cognitive Book for Kids" explains the various types and manifestations of bullying and how to deal with them through 14 villains from fairy tales.
For example, "Little Red Riding Hood", "Cinderella" and "Rapunzel", these are very familiar fairy tales, and most children have heard them.
The villains of "Cinderella" are definitely stepmothers and stepsisters, and what I didn't expect was the author's point of view. She pointed out that this was a "team-fighting badass" and that it was group bullying. Small groups are almost the norm in school, but rejecting, encouraging, and bullying others through small groups is something that we as nurturers should try to avoid.
The book also gives ways to deal with it, such as not being alone with them, and trying to stay with adults, which will make them afraid to move. They tend to hurt you with words and nicknames, and the more you talk to them, the more you cheer them up. Ignoring is the best attack.
100 Families Help Program "The "Bad Guys" in Fairy Tales: The First Anti-Bullying Cognitive Book for Children", I hope that every child can read this book, and the flowers will always be bathed in the wind and rain, so that they know the freshness after the rain.