Yu Hua said: "When people interact with each other, they must talk less, refrain from expressing themselves, be calm and gentle, and don't show off if you don't feel inferior." Don't babble and talk endlessly just to get resonance. ”
In these noisy times, silence is becoming more and more rare. Yu Hua once said that people should talk less and maintain restraint and gentleness in their interactions with others.
At first glance, it may seem unpleasant, but after a closer look, you find that it contains a deep insight into interpersonal relationships.
When we interact with people, we inevitably want to show ourselves and gain empathy. But true resonance is often not obtained by chatter and tirades.
Sometimes, a look and a movement are enough to convey inner emotions. That kind of unintentional truth is far worth a thousand words.
How many times, after we talk endlessly, what we feel is not the recognition of the other party, but the emptiness and remorse in our hearts.
How many times, those words blurted out without thinking, with impulsiveness and hurt, like a double-edged sword, hurt both the other party and themselves.
This is especially true when talking to family and friends. At first, the small talk may be harmonious, but as the topic deepens and the emotions become intense, it is easy to slide into the abyss of quarrels.
This is especially true when interacting with outsiders, at first, you may be able to maintain a certain distance and proportion, but as time passes, the line of defense is gradually broken, and the truth continues to pour out, until in the end you regret it.
But that's not to say we should close ourselves off and not communicate with the outside world. On the contrary, true communication is based on deep understanding and respect.
Smart people know how to speak at the right time, and they know how to be silent at the right time.
Their words are short and powerful, and they are able to reach the hearts of people. Their silence is full of power, making people feel deep thoughts and emotional precipitation.
Chatter is not a trait to be proud of. On the contrary, it tends to expose the emptiness and restlessness within a person.
They try to gain the attention and approval of others by constantly speaking, but it often backfires. In the eyes of most people, such a person is not only offensive, but may also be seen as a person with no secrets and no depth.
In this fast-paced, high-efficiency society, perhaps, our enthusiasm and sincerity may be seen as superfluous or frivolous. But that doesn't mean we should give up our true selves.
Instead, learn to express your emotions and opinions at the right time and in the right way. Not only will this reduce misunderstandings and conflicts, but it will also make our relationships healthier and stronger.
In short, refraining from expression does not mean that we become silent puppets or indifferent bystanders.
Rather, it is a kind of wisdom, a kind of cultivation, a deep understanding of human relationships.
Learn to listen, learn to understand, learn to find strength in silence and beauty in language. In this noisy world, to find the beauty in the silence.