In a challenging life, we often feel physically and mentally tired, so we might as well try to meet the problems brought by life with a casual mentality and try to maintain inner peace. Casual fate is not only a relaxed and open-minded way of life, but also a quiet and meditative spiritual realm, but also a thoughtful way of dealing with the world. This does not mean passively accepting the teasing of fate or doing nothing, but hopes that we will follow the laws of nature while examining the successes and failures in life with a calm heart.
On the road of life, we often meet people who have different views and misbehave in the same way. However, trying to change others can be so hard that it can sometimes lead us into endless entanglements and troubles. Therefore, changing others is not an easy path.
First, the effort to change the perceptions and behaviors of others can be beyond imagination. We need to be patient and enthusiastic to actively persuade, guide and even forcibly change the trajectory of others. However, even such efforts may not be able to achieve the desired results. Because everyone has their own unique mindset and values, they may not be immediately receptive to our ideas and suggestions.
Second, changing the thoughts and behaviors of others can trigger conflict and contradictions. We want to help others change, but it can cause them to become resistant and drift away from us. In the long run, it is possible to intensify the contradictions and cause irreparable damage.
Furthermore, trying to change the perceptions and behaviors of others can lead to self-doubt and criticism. When we find that our efforts have not changed the situation, but have increased strife and conflict, we may begin to doubt our own ability and worth. We may ask ourselves if we lack intelligence, attractiveness, persuasiveness, etc., and fall into a spiral of self-questioning and self-denial.
In that case, how do we deal with those who disagree and behave differently?In fact, we can start by changing ourselves and learning to accept and tolerate others. In this way, we can avoid self-consumption and make ourselves more tolerant and stable.
First, we can try to understand the other person's ideas and behaviors from the other person's point of view. Each individual has their own unique upbringing and social background, and these factors will inevitably influence their thinking and practice. If you can put yourself in the other person's shoes and try to understand their way of thinking, you may be able to find the reason.
Second, we should respect the independence and autonomy of others. While we can disagree with others, we must respect their right to express their opinions. We can try to treat them with peace and tolerance, rather than rushing to change.