My parents taught me from a young age that I should not have a conflict with anyone over anything, and if such a thing happened, I would definitely be reprimanded. This style of education has led to me being constantly attacked as an adult without knowing how to fight back, and my inner child has been seriously injured. I wonder how this phenomenon can be improved
From now on, cultivate your autonomy and try to express your true feelings and thoughts whenever you encounter a conflict event or situation. Any ability is acquired by accumulating experience gradually.
Your parents, probably out of love and protection for you, told you not to get into conflict with anyone, as it could be harmful. However, this type of education may have had a negative impact on you, as you may have lost the ability to protect yourself and defend yourself in the face of conflict.
It is recommended that you start trying to learn how to deal with and deal with conflict Xi. Specifically, you can take the following steps:
1.Xi to express your feelings and thoughts. Learn to be brave enough to say "no hitting," describe the desired change, and provide as much evidence as possible to support your opinion. Expressing oneself may not change the situation immediately, but it is a huge win for oneself to start expressing oneself.
2.Xi communication skills. If you encounter conflict or emotion, communicate with a smile, nice words, and soft voice, and pay attention to your intonation, body language, facial expressions, and cuddling.
3.Develop autonomy. Decide your own actions and decisions independently, and no longer be subject to the strict education of your parents.
4.Xi strategies for coping with conflict. For example, when faced with bullying, be brave enough to resist, but also use reason rather than violence to solve the problem.
Finally, if you find yourself unable to cope with conflict or feeling confused and helpless, consider seeking help from a professional psychologist who can provide more professional advice and support.