Life is a long practice, and different periods will face different pressures: the pressure of exams when you are a student, the pressure of work when you go to work, the pressure of raising children when you start a family, ,..These are all necessary lessons in life.
When you are so stressed that you are about to collapse, don't tell others, and don't feel wronged, no one will feel sorry for you.
Be like Yu Hua said: in the dead of night, take out your heart, sew and mend it yourself, and then wake up from sleep, and you are full of confidence. No matter if no one cares about you, or if your skills are not as good as others, you have to try to calm down and do what you have to do, instead of letting your worries and anxieties ruin your little enthusiasm and concentration.
This sentence gives a solution when faced with great stress.
1 Learn to self-decompress
When you're stressed to the point of breaking down, don't talk to others.
Why don't you tell others, because no one will feel sorry for you, and there will never be such a thing as empathy in this world. Talking may relieve your stress temporarily, but it won't solve the underlying problem.
Maybe one day, the secret you poured out will grow wings and become a knife that someone has a heart to hurt you, and this knife is still handed over by you personally.
When encountering pressure, it is useless for others to say more, and you have to figure it out for yourself after all.
In Li Ruiqiu's book "Open the Mind", a kind of expressive writing is introduced, which can reduce anxiety and stress to a large extent.
According to the book, this kind of writing is written for oneself, as long as you record the thoughts in your heart. Write down the things that you are worried about, the things that are anxious, and the things that are worrying about you, even if you simply list the problems one by one, can be effective.
I know this personally. When I was young, I used writing to vent my Xi, often emotional at the beginning, writing and writing, with the catharsis of emotions, emotions will slowly calm down, and finally write to calm down and reason returns.
The process of writing is actually a process of self-thinking and combing, in this process, you will understand your true thoughts, know the root of the problem, and how to avoid it in the future.
I didn't expect to see this method in Mr. Li Ruiqiu's book many years later, of course, the method in the book is more comprehensive and detailed.
Everyone should have their own way of relieving stress, find what suits you, and you will never break down.
2 Accept yourself as you really are
No matter if no one cares, or if your skills are not as good as others, you have to try to calm down.
Be quiet and accept who you really are.
Don't care about the eyes of others, no one cares, no matter if you are in the market, it is just a reflection of your value in the eyes of others. What does it have to do with you in the eyes of others?
It takes courage to admit that skills are not as good as others, to have the courage to accept your own shortcomings, to accept your ordinariness and even mediocrity.
Deng Yaping, a perennial winning general, played very well in one game, played very steadily, and had good skills, but in the end he still lost.
Instead of dwelling on the pain of defeat, she accepted the fact as quickly as she could, and then tackled the next game with a relaxed mindset.
As a professional athlete, if you want to play well, you must accept your current state and not be too obsessed with winning or losing.
Montaigne once said: ".The greatest thing in the world is that a person knows how to be his own master.
Recognize yourself, accept everything you have calmly and calmly, and then you can achieve a better self by learning hard and Xi and constantly growing.
3. Keep learning and Xi to strengthen yourself
Wang Xiaobo said: "All human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence. ”
The pressure that can make us feel on the verge of collapse must be that we are not strong enough, or not as strong as we would like to be.
Wang Baoqiang, who has been practicing martial arts in Shaolin Temple for six years, suffered a lot when he first entered the showbiz.
He was a martial artist at the beginning, playing a man who fled the famine, but was kicked to the ground by the person chasing behind him, and even the person turned into the ditch with a basket. The other party was wearing big scalp shoes, and he kicked on his waist, and he was in pain and couldn't get up.
The assistant director was also dissatisfied: "The response is too slow, who found this person, what are you looking for a fool for?""It took three straight shots, and I was kicked three times before I finally passed.
When filming "Bus Detective", Wang Baoqiang was the protagonist's stand-in, falling straight down from a ladder more than two meters high, and filming two in a row.
On weekdays, Wang Baoqiang practiced signing and was ridiculed by his roommates.
When he couldn't get a job from Wu Ti, he worked at a construction site.
In this way, step by step, Wang Baoqiang finally became a dazzling star in the entertainment industry with his ruthlessness, and also let those who denied him see his strength.
Constantly learning Xi and constantly strengthening ourselves can give us more confidence in the face of unexpected events and uncertainties in the future.
4 Write at the end
We are all ordinary members of the crowd, and it is normal for us to encounter stress and setbacks. And what we can do is to deal with it according to these three methods.
When we cross the ditches and bumps of life, and look back, the mountain that made us feel more pressured back then has become a step that helps us to make the scenery more beautiful.