As the saying goes:
Leave a line in everything, and see each other in the future. ”
I think so. Life is a trial, and this trial is not in the mountains, but around us, reflected in the world.
When we were young, we were reckless, didn't understand the rules, and were often sharp.
After seeing more and understanding more, I gradually woke up and began to change.
Those who have truly become mature are able to leave room for their own lives, and can be virtuous in their words, attentive in their work, and in their lives.
In this way, it is the way to behave in the world, and only then can we understand the wisdom of life.
Speak in Germany
Writer Li Shanglong once said:
No matter how good a friend is, he can't stand your excessive straightforwardness. Turn a corner when you speak, don't take your unbridled mouth as an atmosphere, it's just naïve.
In life, there are always some people who say jokes that are out of proportion because they have a good relationship with others.
I thought I was very humorous, but I didn't know that the other party was embarrassed and even sad.
In fact, being straightforward does not mean that you are open-mouthed, and you can only see each other in the future if you don't talk enough.
At the same time, speaking and staying German is also a way to show character, make people feel comfortable, and let each other get along well.
You know, the power of words is immense, and they are heart-warming medicine when it comes to comforting othersWhen sarcastic is sarcastic, it is a sharp blade that hurts others.
Zeng Guofan once said:
If you don't speak rashly, you will enter the foundation of virtue.
The most precious thing in a person is self-cultivation, and the things that can embody self-cultivation are words and deeds.
Sometimes, painstakingly managed relationships are ruined by quarrels;Sometimes, one's low emotional intelligence can be embarrassing.
When making decisions for others, calm down and empathizeWhen making jokes about others, think about whether it's appropriate.
The ancients said: Good words are warm in three winters, and bad words are hurtful and cold in June. ”
Truly cultivated people are able to be cautious in their words and deeds, grasp the proportions of their words, and guard each other's boundaries.
As the saying goes, "spit out the truth after drinking", the language that can best expose a person's character, the language that best reflects a person's emotional intelligence, and the language that can hone a person the most.
Therefore, speaking with virtue is to save face for others, and it is also to accumulate merit for yourself, and not to leave disaster for yourself in the future.
Be mindful of what you do
A netizen on Zhihu asked: "What are the characteristics of unreliable people?".”
One of the high praisers replied: "While procrastinating and waiting, and naively waiting for a good result." ”
If you think about it, there is no shortage of smart people in this world, and there is no shortage of serious competitors around us.
What is really lacking is someone who can be persistent, down-to-earth, and reliable.
In life, I believe everyone has met such a person:
The mouth is good, but the hand is perfunctory;They don't care about doing things, they shirk their responsibilities when they encounter problems, and in the final analysis, they can't do one thing except for being able to speak well.
There is a saying: There is nothing difficult in the world, only afraid of those who have a heart. ”
Maybe some questions are simple, but you think too complicated;Maybe some things aren't hard to do, but you don't pay attention to them.
Instead of using some crooked brains to find shortcuts, it is better to use your own strength to conquer people's hearts.
In other words, the reason why we like reliable people is because they can take things seriously and treat people responsibly.
A sentence that I agree with:
Reliable, easy to say, complicated to fall;It sounds like a feeling, but it's a principle to do. ”
Reliable people are often more likely to gain the trust and support of others.
Because they can do what they say they will do, and they will do their best to fulfill the promises they have made.
Therefore, on the one hand, it is complicated for others and yourself, and on the other hand, it is to be able to find more details, win more opportunities for yourself, and make your life path wider and wider.
When you work hard and live seriously, life will naturally treat you well.
Be a man and leave a way
Fu Lei's Family Letter" says:
Don't be upright, but be forgiving.
Indeed, no one is capable of making mistakes unless he is a saint or a sage, and everyone will make mistakes sometimes.
If you blindly pick on other people's thorns, others will also hold on to your own mistakes.
As the saying goes, "kill a thousand enemies, lose eight hundred".
Don't do things absolutely, don't narrow the road, don't force people into a desperate situation, just leave room for yourself, and the road of life will go more smoothly.
The Tao Te Ching says:
Therefore, those who can live long and long in heaven and earth can live forever because they do not generate by themselves.
It means that the reason why heaven and earth can exist for a long time is because they do not exist for themselves, but to better serve human beings, and more importantly, they can accommodate the vastness of all things.
The same is true of us, where no one can live alone without society.
Only by helping others and tolerating others can we live in harmony with them and ultimately achieve a win-win situation for each other.
The Little Window Chronicle says:
"In everything, leave an inexhaustible meaning, then the machine is round;All words, leaving an inexhaustible meaning will go far. ”
Speaking and staying virtuous is to accumulate blessings for oneself;Paying attention to things is to reassure yourself and others;Being a man and leaving a way for us to go far away.
In the second half of life, I hope we can all leave some room for ourselves, be more tolerant of others, be comfortable with ourselves, and be kind to others.