Lin Yutang wrote in "The Wind and the Crane": "If you don't fight, you will fight."If you don't fight, the people of the world will not fight with it. This sentence profoundly reveals a truth: the weak always like to huddle together for warmth, while the strong naturally like to walk alone. When a person lives a sober and transparent life, does not seek those things that do not belong to him, and does not compete for those meaningless things, life enters another realm.
I used to be afraid of being isolated and out of place, but it wasn't until later that I realized that being social means being ordinary. Because everyone thinks the same, once this group of people has different opinions, they will be treated as outliers. So, it's more important to be busy being good than being busy being gregarious!
We should learn to think independently and have the courage to express our opinions and ideas. Only in this way can we truly become a person with thoughts and personalities. At the same time, we must also learn to respect the different views and choices of others, and not to judge others lightly.
In conclusion, don't give up your uniqueness in order to cater to others. Only by insisting on being yourself can you walk out of a path of your own.
1.It's not uncommon for friends to get separated. Sometimes, it's not that friendships are gone, it's just that on the way to growth, we get to the point where we go our separate ways. When the circles are different, there is no need to force them to fit in. In fact, it is impossible to resist the dissipation of friendship in life, and it is also beautiful to meet again after a while. When we do what we love, we don't feel lonely. And others will also be attracted to our passion for life. Rather than being gregarious with low quality, it is better to be alone with high quality.
3.Enrich your life and fill yourself with hobbies. Whether married or unmarried, we should do our best to preserve our own personal time and lifestyle. Because that is the spiritual corner that makes us feel presence, and people's hobbies will accompany us for a lifetime. If you want to be what kind of person you want to be, along this line of thought, it will be easier to find your own hobby. Potted plants, paintings, playing ......These hobbies can make us no longer afraid of loneliness and enjoy lonely time.
4.The circles are different, and they don't have to be forced. Socialization can be divided into two categories: one is socializing that provides emotional value, and the other is socializing that provides exchange value. If we emphasize emotions in the circle of exchange, we are forcing ourselves that no one will be happy. Consumption outlook, values, and outlook on life all determine our social circle. If you want to emphasize exchange value, then focus on improving yourself!Different circles do different things, so they will always be happy.