Many parents want to create a good family relationship for their children, so that they can grow up healthy and happy in a friendly environment, and when they encounter problems, they will also communicate with him to make their feelings between each other deeper. Although communication can promote parent-child communication, some parents use inappropriate language in communication with their children, which will not only make the parent-child relationship difficult to maintain, but also affect the development of children's personality in the future. If parents often say these 4 sentences when communicating with their children, they must correct them as soon as possible.
Ask the child to listen to the parents
The child is young, whether it is learning Xi or playing, he has little experience, and there are some obvious mistakes, but the child will continue. Parents are experienced, so it can be seen that their children cannot make mistakes again and again. Parents use their own experience to teach their children how to do it, and after a few times, the children have to do it in their own way, but the result is wrong again, or even repeated mistakes, and the mistakes are in the same place. The "small universe" of the home is about to explode, and it is indispensable to scold the child. Then they force the child to listen to him, and then the child doesn't want to do that, and wants to do it his own way. Just like when the child learns to eat by himself, the parent gives the child the vegetables, the child resolutely does not eat, insists on sandwiching himself, even if the clip is still the original piece, but in the child's heart, it is done by himself, he will have a sense of achievement, and what others help is always the result of others.
If you cry again, I'll throw you out
It is said that crying children are the most difficult to coax, once the child cries, some parents can't coax well, so some parents use threatening language violence to "attack" the child, and then cry, they will throw you out, which will destroy the child's sense of security, and will produce unprecedented fear, will think that parents do not love themselves.
Always trust and support your child
This is also a principled requirement for parents, because no matter what age children grow up, they will always want their dearest people to understand their minds. Therefore, when they speak, we should communicate in a trusting tone, rather than denying what the children want to express at every turn. Only when children slowly accumulate a sense of trust, can they be more confident on the road to growth and can handle the relationship between parents and children more freely.
Learn to communicate with your child in their shoes
Empathy is very important because it allows parents to fully understand their children's thoughts, and at the same time, they can understand their parents' thoughts and thoughts. After all, on many things, because parents and children have different perspectives, it is inevitable that there will be different opinions. At this time, the two parties can not only understand each other's ideas, but also find a more suitable solution in the process of communication. "Language is a sharp double-edged sword", so parents must choose the appropriate way to communicate with their children, so as to avoid hurting family affection with this double-edged sword.
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