Wang Jing's film "Ten Thousand Arrows Through the Heart" has a history of eight years since its release, and it is still considered one of the classics of domestic films. The film's artistic level surpasses the original**, and it vividly shows the challenging life of an ordinary woman, Li Baoli, as well as the society, marriage, and current life situation she has experienced.
Li Baoli is a tough and unpopular person, the elderly and children in the family don't like her, but she has a very good girlfriend, that is, Xiaojing, the rich lady's best friend.
No matter whether Li Baoli is at the peak or low period of her life, there are always a few people who are consistent with her and willing to lend a hand.
As the saying goes, people and things gather like each other, and people are divided into groups. Li Baoli, a dusty face who works the streets, and Xiaojing, a rich wife who frequents beauty salons and dresses up dazzlingly, how did they establish a deep friendship in life for many years?
1 A deep friendship built from a young age.
In the original book, the friendship between Baoli and Xiaojing is described in this way, although Wan Xiaojing does not particularly respect Li Baoli, but since elementary school, she has been a close friend with Li Baoli, which makes Wan Xiaojing sometimes confused. He used to say to her, "You're such a smart kid!"Once, when asked about Li Baoli, Li Baoli seemed a little smug, she explained that maybe it was because you may not be very smart, but she felt that I was more clumsy than you, which made you feel a kind of wisdom in front of her.
Although this is just a joke, it also reveals that in Baoli's eyes, Xiaojing has a superior mentality from childhood to adulthood. First of all, whether it is in her mother's family or her mother-in-law's family, Xiaojing's family background is far better than Baoli's. She is a very filial daughter. Secondly, Xiaojing completed high school, while Baoli graduated from elementary school and has a high level of education.
Xiaojing has had a strong sense of superiority since she was a child, which makes her especially important in front of Baoli. But in her married life, she plays another ill-fated role, her husband is outside in charge of various household chores, and the pain she has experienced can only be confided in Pauli.
The most significant advantage of Polly is that her husband is always obedient. After marriage, Ma Xuewu behaved groveling in front of Li Baoli, and the decision-making power in the family was completely in the hands of Baoli.
Once, Wan Xiaojing laughed at Ma Xuewu and said to Baoli: "Your Baoli covers the sky with one hand, you should find a suitable reason to explain?"
Ma Xuewu said that there is no need for any logic in our room. She is a very humane woman, she is so gentle and kind in front of others, but in her own heart, she has a powerful force. Paulie is indeed a truth. It makes sense to listen to her, but if it's not reasonable, listen to her.
Therefore, Xiaojing's greatest envy of Baoli is her ability to teach her husband, and she always keeps learning from Baoli Xi experience, hoping that she can teach her some skills to better attract her husband. However, she often complains that she has not done enough, and if she does too much, it will affect her husband. Li Baoli always smugly declared that only through Xi practice in bed could her husband become obedient.
Obviously, Ma Xuewu was willing to bow his head in front of his wife before he was promoted to office director, and his later promotion was as depicted in the movie.
Baoli and Xiaojing have a deep understanding of each other, one of them because of the comfort of the living environment, and the other because of the positive attitude of her husband, who often shares each other's thoughts, which makes the friendship between the two deepen.
2 Personalities complement each other.
Wan Xiaojing's character reveals a kind of weakness, her husband not only raised women outside, but also gave birth to a child for her. She had wanted to make a fuss, but she was worried that he would cut off her finances. She had also considered dividing her property through divorce, but was worried that she might not be able to make money if her husband transferred it.
Therefore, she decided to relax her mind and as long as she did not choose to divorce, her funds would still be sufficient.
I need to pay for food, nutrition, babysitting, beauty, fitness, theater, movies, tea, and clubbing every month.
Li Baoli's situation is different, her infidelity towards her husband Ma Xuewu eventually leads to his disgrace and a bleak future. After that, Ma Xuewu chose to jump into the river to end his life because of disappointment, and although Li Baoli's heart was like a knife, she was not willing to give up easily.
Li Baoli said that after a few days as a cadre, she really regarded herself as a person. I know that his officials are officials, but they are not officials, they are people among officials. He doesn't even value his own life, what does he really value such a person?He's going to move our family to the countryside and live there, so that they can be well fed and clothed. I'm going to tell you that in this room, his presence makes everything better. He said, I was laid off, but he still has to do it, this is a responsibility, not I have the final say. I hope that Ma Xuewu on that dog day can take a closer look underground, and even though I am unemployed, I still have the ability to feed the whole family and let them go out so that I will not lose my dignity.
Although Li Baoli's emotional intelligence is not very high, she is a very backbone woman. After the death of her husband, she took her son, daughter and two younger sisters to start a difficult business. In order to support her family, she chose to give up an easy position as a salesperson and instead work like a man to carry a flat burden.
Xiao Jing tried to use her resources to help her, but she firmly refused her request on the grounds of lack of cultural cultivation and not wanting to cause trouble to Xiao Jing. Her father was an ordinary worker, and in order to make a living, he opened a small supermarket in the city. She resolutely refused to accept financial assistance from others, nor did she provide any opportunity to help others, and carried the heavy burdens of life on her weak shoulders alone.
For Xiaojing, Li Baoli did not cause her any trouble, and never sought her help, and the communication between them was only spiritual. She's the kind of person who doesn't get distracted from the outside world. Li Baoli shows Xiaojing's appreciation, determination, and perseverance, which are traits that she longs to have but cannot achieve, so she is more inclined to approach Li Baoli.
3. Learn from the strengths of others to make up for your own shortcomings.
Of course, in Wan Xiaojing's body, there are also traits that Li Baoli admires.
Xiaojing has a wide range of insight and experience, and she is more prudent in her actions than Li Baoli, often advising her.
Before Ma Xuewu didn't cheat, Li Baoli was always giving orders at home, and Xiaojing often warned her to be careful.
Wan Xiaojing mentioned that Ma Xuewu has been a director of the factory for one to two years, and when talking to him, you better be polite than get angry every time. He's a man with a lot of personality. You need to give him some face.
Although Li Baoli didn't change her irascible personality right away, she accepted it deep down, but she moved relatively slowly.
She and Xiaojing have visited the teahouse twice, but their moods are completely different. For the first time, when Li Baoli found out that her husband had other women, she invited Xiaojing out to chat. The two went to drink tea together, but Li Baoli had an argument with someone in the teahouse, saying: "Do you dare to sell such tea for 18 yuan a cup?"“
The service staff in charge of serving the tea is not an energy-saving lamp, but verbally says, we have always been like this, if you can't afford it, don't come to drink.
Li Baoli asked, what is this content about?The service staff said that this is authentic Chinese. Li Baoli was so angry that she almost smashed the teacup.
Wan Xiaojing grabbed her hand tightly and told her that she invited her to come for tea to relax with her, why did you have a conflict with her?Wan Xiaojing is a woman with ideas, she said, just talk about me!She's just a servant doing manual labor, and you have to keep your identity. Wan Xiaojing said I'm with her, don't talk to me, and she doesn't know who you're talking to. After hearing these words, Li Baoli decided not to continue.
After Ma Xuewu ended his life, Li Baoli, who was a flat dan, went to Xiaojing's date place. There, she has realized that her personality was not so good in the past, and she has become more amiable.
When Li Baoli arrived at the teahouse, she quickly handed the flat shoulder to the welcome lady, and told her, girl, find a place to put me, so that the tea guests would not mistakenly think that I was here to fight.
The welcome lady picked up the flat pole and looked at Li Baoli and smiled happily. The young lady said, I am not a flat burden. Li Baoli asked, what are you laughing at?I said, I'm the first, of course I'm the first!The young lady told me that you were the first one when you came into my room to drink tea, and that you were also a woman. Li Baoli reminded me to make sure my identity is clear, and don't forget to offer me a discount the next time I come back.
Now Li Baoli is no longer as calculating as before, she has shown unprecedented meticulousness and humor, and has also learned to be tolerant and generous. In her opinion, a person can only be happier if he knows how to appreciate others, rather than being hurt by others. Behind this is not only the realization after her personal experience, but also Xiaojing's many persuasions out of kindness.
4 On the importance of friends.
Some have complained that their wealthy family and friends are too pragmatic to associate with them. In fact, this is just a superficial phenomenon. We need to look at this situation from two perspectives: on the one hand, there are those who value power and despise those who are below themselves;On the other hand, there are also those who blindly follow the powerful, and they like to befriend the powerful, and this behavior is called accumulating contacts.
In a person's life, we meet countless people who are unable to devote their energy to unrelated people, so there are very few friends who can really build a strong bond unless you are attractive to them.
The attraction between Li Baoli and Wan Xiaojing encompasses aspects such as spiritual resonance and appreciation, mutual financial support, and resource sharing. Although Xiaojing's financial situation is better, since Baoli has never received financial assistance, the friendship between them can be maintained for a long time and sincerely.
On the other hand, if Baoli often wants to ask her for financial help because she has a friend like Xiaojing, then the relationship will eventually become a poverty alleviation relationship, because the inequality on the spiritual level will lead to the deterioration of friendship.
Li Bai once wrote such a poem: In life, true understanding is the most precious, why use money and gold.
Friendship is not something that can be measured by money or mutual use, it is more of a high degree of spiritual fit, and it is the person who walks with us on the long and lonely journey of life. Friendship can keep people away from troubles, away from pain, and away from emptiness and loneliness. In a person's life, it is difficult to find a true confidant, and sincere friendship is undoubtedly a lifelong treasure.
Ten Thousand Arrows Through the Heart: I hope you can also have a building that is willing to roll down the windows for you.