The dangers of letting children live in school too early Parents need to think carefully!
I won't let my child live in school if he dies because of it"...The danger of keeping your child in school too early is greater than you think!
Early in the morning, the neighbors' mothers get together to discuss the topic of their children's living in school. As one of these mothers, I was very curious about their attitude towards their children's living in school.
One mother is a strong supporter of the idea of a child living in school because she believes that allowing children to be independent from an early age can help them get rid of it"Little princess"with"The Little Prince"of the identity. To prove her point, she cites the example of a relative's son.
The relative's son, she mentioned, started out as a primary school student and was very poor at self-care and dependent on his parents for almost everything.
Everything changed when he was sent to a boarding school.
Not only did the child learn to be independent, but he was also willing to help his parents with some household chores when he returned home.
Other parents oppose this idea, arguing that sending their children to school when they need parental care can lead to a lack of love and alienation from their parents.
After listening to the heated discussions, I summarized some points. Mothers who are in favor of their children's early school are mainly optimistic about the benefits that boarding schools will bring to their children, it seems"Tiger Mom"Type.
Most of the parents who oppose their children's early school are"Caring mothers", they fear that this will lead to a lack of love in the child.
These moms and dads are often arguing"Differing opinions", and in the end it was difficult to reach a consensus. The boarding school battle has always been a hot topic in education.
Bai Yansong, a famous host, also expressed his views on letting children live in schools. He said:"No matter how difficult it is, I won't let my child live in school.
Nowadays, parents are extra concerned about the education of their children"Zealous"Babies as young as a few months old attend early education classes, and children who have just learned to walk are sent to full-time nurseries and even boarding schools at the beginning of primary school.
Parents are commendable for attaching importance to their children's education, but children are not cold machines that can be sent in at any time"factory"Remodel.
Children are emotionally rich and passionate individuals who need to grow up in a loving environment. Taking children away from their families and parents too early, forcing them to become independent and mature too quickly, can do great harm to children.
Parents should not be satisfied with their children being more independent and mature in boarding school.
Sending your child to boarding school too early is potentially more harmful than you might think.
Effects on children's social skills.
Some parents may think that integrating their children into group life from an early age will improve their social skills.
In fact, children who are sent to boarding school too early tend to show more social difficulties in interpersonal interactions.
Some children find it difficult to cooperate with others and prefer to be alone;Some children lack self-confidence and appear shy when communicating with others.
A child's growth, like a baby's growth, requires a certain routine and environment. When children need family warmth, parents send their children to school to live, which will undoubtedly disrupt the normal growth trajectory of children.
Allowing children to develop social skills when their basic needs – especially for love – are not being met is undoubtedly harmful and unconvincing.
Implications for parent-child relationships.
For children, especially younger children, the best place to learn is at home, and the best tutors are parents.
Some parents reverse the order. In order to make their children independent, or to make their lives easier, they send their children to boarding schools prematurely and start boarding life.
Leaving home and school life too early can not only have an impact on the child, but also damage the relationship between the child and the parent, which is often extreme.
Some children are sent to boarding school and gradually distance themselves from their parents. They may complain that their parents decided to send them to boarding school because they didn't love them.
The grievances and helplessness of the boarding school experience can deepen the child's heart towards his parents"Resentment"。
The second group of children may become too dependent on their parents when they return home due to a lack of care at school. They may become attached to their parents and feel extremely insecure when they leave home.
Their personalities can also change, becoming incomprehensible and even petty with their parents. After a child leaves home and lives in school prematurely, the relationship with his parents is extreme, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of the child.
Impact on children's mental health.
Some parents may think that today's children are like flowers in a greenhouse, and if they are allowed to live in school earlier, they will grow faster.
Although boarding students may seem independent and not dependent on their parents, they may have some mental health issues to a greater or lesser extent.
When children are young, no matter how experienced the teachers are and how superior the teaching environment is, they cannot be compared with their parents.
Children who live in school too early are often lacking in love, and this absence of childhood can affect them for the rest of their lives.
Some left-behind children may be precocious and precocious, shifting the need for parental care to the opposite sex. There are also children who may have low self-esteem and lack self-confidence, believing that they were abandoned by their parents and sent to school.
Conclusion. Whatever the reason parents are considering sending their child to boarding school, think twice before doing so.
Parents should not only think about feeding their children, nor should they ignore that children need not only material satisfaction, but also the warmth and irreplaceable love of their parents.