Author: Wen Qiusheng.
01, opening.
Interacting with people is like looking in a mirror. Friends are like you in the mirror, and as the relationship grows and the relationship deepens, the similarities between the two parties will become more and more apparent. Choosing who to get along with is an autonomous act. People with high emotional intelligence rarely choose to associate with those with low emotional intelligence because they know that it will affect their life and development. In this article, we'll take a look at four types of people who should not socialize and how people with high emotional intelligence can avoid these relationships.
02. A family that loves to eat and drink, and is not self-motivated.
In interpersonal interactions, we need to carefully choose who we have deep friendships with. If the other person can't give you a positive influence, and you have been indulging in a negative life trajectory, associating with them can be a drag on you. Be cautious when making friends, as the way your friends live and work can have a profound impact on you. If your friends are the kind of people who spend their days studying, eating, drinking, and having fun, living a decadent life, and their days are getting worse and worse, and they only brag about it without making real progress, then associating with them is bound to slow down the pace of your life. Therefore, avoid visiting families who are not motivated and indulge in low-level pleasures, as such an environment can inadvertently affect your values and attitude towards life. On the contrary, by socializing with families full of positive energy, you will be inspired to be more self-disciplined and determined to work positively.
03. A family with a habit of cleanliness disturbs others.
Some people like to keep their home spotlessly tidy, seeing it as a quiet "hideaway" in which they can get a certain sense of **. However, people with cleanliness habits are usually reluctant to let outsiders disturb their clean environment. If you visit such a family rashly, not only will you not surprise the other person, but you will cause them a lot of trouble. Especially if you go with an ignorant child and make a mess in someone's house, it may cause the other party to be dissatisfied and angry. Even for a normal visit, pay special attention to hygiene, because in such a home, you may feel very restrained and do everything carefully. People with high emotional intelligence will avoid visiting homes with cleanliness habits, and even if they have contacts, they will choose to meet in a public place with a better environment to maintain a relaxed atmosphere and better communication. When getting along with people, learn to think from the other person's point of view, understand their personality, hobbies and Xi, and avoid doing things that make the other person hate, which is a manifestation of high emotional intelligence.
04. A family with a bad family relationship and a bad atmosphere.
People with high emotional intelligence will not actively choose to associate with people who have a bad family relationship and a bad atmosphere, because it is easy to make themselves unhappy and easily get involved in right and wrong. In "One Life", although Zhou Shengchen's family is prosperous and wealthy, it is full of complex interpersonal relationships. Relatives fight openly and secretly, and cousins even follow to see jokes. Although the family is glamorous on the surface, the internal relationship is intricate. Although everyone is living a decent life, they lack honesty and purity in their hearts. When Jaeyi came to this family, although everyone smiled and entertained her on the surface, they secretly had their own ghosts, and they were all trying to get her to leave as soon as possible. As a result, it is easy to get miserable when you associate with someone who has a bad family relationship, and you can also get involved in some awkward situations. People with high emotional intelligence will avoid frequent visits to other people's homes, because it is easy to get caught up in other people's rights and wrongs and bring unnecessary troubles. Moreover, even during family visits, it is important to keep your own position and not comment on other people's family affairs to avoid falling into right and wrong.
05, Wen Qiusheng's message.
Life is a long journey, and walking alone always seems a little lonely. When choosing friends, know how to choose friends and make friends. As Liu Yu said in "Send You a Bullet": "Some people are destined to be cancer in your life, while some people are just a sneeze." "Friends who are not conducive to their positive energy are better to maintain a moderate level of detachment. Respect the other person's way of life, try to make yourself better, and strive positively. Don't go to places where you are unmotivated, have a habit of cleanliness, and have complicated family relationships. In other people's families, don't cause trouble to the other person, but don't ask too much about family matters. Cultivate high emotional intelligence, be empathetic, know how to advance and retreat, and get along with the people around you calmly.