Xi Murong once said: "A hesitation, a betrayal, and an accident are enough to make love wither." ”
In middle age, once some men break through the bottom line of loyalty, it is easy to lead to the collapse of the relationship, and it is difficult to continue even if the relationship is good.
For middle-aged men, they find it difficult to endure a dull life, and once they meet attractive women, they are likely to have whimsical ideas.
In this case, they may temporarily ignore their responsibilities in the marriage and devote themselves to novelty, and if they are unable to restrain themselves, they may fall into an affair.
In fact, many men who betray basically fail to stick to the bottom line and like to maintain a vague relationship with the opposite sex, which eventually leads to the relationship crossing the line.
However, no matter how smart such a man is, it is difficult to hide it for a long time, and once an extramarital relationship occurs, it will always leave traces.
For example, their way of speaking and behaving around you will be different, just pay attention to it and you can find the clues.
Therefore, whether a middle-aged man has ever "stolen someone" may be able to draw conclusions by observing three details, which is clear at a glance.
1. No longer coax you with heart and be indifferent to you
If a man truly loves you, he will come back with a special enthusiasm and involuntarily please you and make you happier.
However, once a man betrays him, he may come home indifferent to you, not caring about you at all, and even bothering to offer condolences when you are in trouble, with an unusually cold attitude.
For middle-aged men, they may behave more ruthlessly and ignore you completely once they no longer love you.
They don't care if your life is doing well, they turn a blind eye to you, always avoid you, and don't want to spend time with you.
Even if you take the initiative to talk to him and want to communicate with him, he has no interest, is indifferent to you, and has a cold attitude.
Usually, the man who has had an extramarital affair no longer has much space left in his heart for his original partner, but he is unwilling to take responsibility and has to continue to live with you so as not to lose more property in the future.
Therefore, the betrayed man is very selfish, and although they have the truth of betrayal, they have never thought about marriage, and their family responsibilities have long been gone.
If a middle-aged man behaves so ruthlessly, it is actually because he no longer loves you, he already has other women, and he will only dislike you even more.
When he still loves you, he will take care of you in every way and please you with all his heart. And once there is a betrayal, there is no longer the slightest enthusiasm for you, and even irritation towards you, and this indifference will make you feel painful.
Therefore, once a woman notices these abnormalities in a middle-aged man, she should not tolerate it and must take measures to avoid being hurt in her relationship.
2. Always avoid you at home and no longer be intimate
We know that when a man is truly in love with a woman, he craves intimate contact at all times and behaves extremely affectionately.
As long as he is with you, he will definitely hold your hand, hug you, and can't wait to kiss you, hoping to be more intimate with you.
However, when a man starts to avoid your body and always hides at home, it means that there is no place for you in his heart.
For middle-aged men, they may no longer be interested in you at all after the betrayal, and they may become bored with you at home and no longer want to be intimate with you.
Therefore, once a woman notices this abnormality in a middle-aged man, she should be vigilant, he must have a problem.
Because even in middle age, a weakened relationship is not a reason to refuse physical contact, as long as there is still you in his heart, he will definitely remain close to you.
Only if a middle-aged man no longer loves you and has feelings outside of marriage will refuse to have any intimate behavior with you.
On the one hand, their feelings have shifted, and they have become particularly indifferent to you with other women in mind.
On the other hand, when they return home, they no longer have enough energy to face you, so they will deliberately avoid being intimate with you.
This requires careful observation by women, and if a middle-aged man refuses to have physical contact with you and is tired of your body, then it can be determined that he has betrayed.
At this time, women should think about themselves early and not waste time on such unworthy men so as not to be hurt more in the future.
3. I have become very stingy with you and will never dedicate myself to you anymore
If a middle-aged man betrays, he will definitely become very stingy with you, no longer pay for you, and even account for a penny.
Probably, they will be very generous to their lover, giving gifts or sending red envelopes frequently, and often taking her out to play.
However, when you return home, you may behave very stingy, not only do you not care about your life, but even the most basic living expenses will not be given to you anymore.
Such a man, from the beginning of his betrayal, will never pay for you again, and will not spend a dime on you.
Even if you take the initiative to ask him, he will turn a blind eye, either blaming you for being a loser or making excuses for refusing to give you money.
Therefore, once a woman finds that a middle-aged man no longer cares about your life, no longer spends money for you, and has no sense of responsibility for the family, she should understand that he must have other women outside.
At this time, there is no need for you to humbly pursue his love, once you see his true colors, you should leave decisively, it is not worth wasting any more time.
Many times, women should not set limits on themselves, if a man no longer loves you, you should actively change to make yourself independent, live a more dignified life, and avoid falling into emotional troubles.
Sanmao once said: "If what you give me is the same as what you give to others, then I don't want it." ”
In marriage, if you find that the man is unable to give you special love, cannot be responsible for you, and cannot take on the responsibilities of the family, then there is no need to keep it.
By middle age, everyone is an adult, and there is no need to struggle for the rest of your life for someone who doesn't deserve it.
Betrayal is the most intolerable thing in marriage, as long as a man breaks the bottom line of loyalty, you should think about yourself early and not blindly continue to consume.
To sum up, to judge whether a middle-aged man has ever "stolen someone", you only need to observe these three details, which are clear at a glance:
When he returns, he will no longer coax you, and he will not care about you;I'm always avoiding you at home and don't want to be intimate with you anymore;Become very stingy with you and never pay for you anymore.
Once a woman discovers that a middle-aged man has these abnormalities, she should be vigilant, and it is best to stop the loss in time for the man who no longer loves you.
Once a man betrays you, if the relationship can't continue, it's better to leave decisively, don't bind yourself for such a scumbag, it's pointless.