If yes, love is a kind of business, then trading with someone who is not suitable for you is tantamount to giving the best cards in your hand to someone else.
It's like liking a married man and engaging in a relationship with each other that is not blessed and approved, which is to plunge their lives into an abyss that they can't climb out of.
Because, a married man loves you, not really for you, but for these reasons.
First, it's cool and skinny, and it's not real to you.
A reader asked me in the background:
is like a married man who is a few years older than himself, the two have been together for several years, and the other party promised to divorce and marry him, but he did not fulfill his promise, I don't know why.
Readers are sincerely advised not to wait any longer and to satisfy each other's selfishness with their own youth.
To put it bluntly, such a man loves no one but himself, so he will be irresponsible for his marriage and do things that betray it;
At the same time, he is not sincere with his readers, he just wants to enjoy the blessings of the people, and does not really want to disrupt the current state of harmony and make family life uncomfortable.
A cool and skinny man will never be attracted to any woman, no matter who he is with, he has his own purpose.
What's more, if a man can betray even his own wife, and this mutual affection is not worth mentioning in the years, how can you expect to treat you as an exception?
The second is that marriage is boring and wants to find excitement outside of marriage.
One night, I was taking a taxi home, and the driver knew my profession and offered to talk to me. He said that he and his wife have been together for five or six years, because they have been together for too long, and those interesting feelings have lost their meaning under the ravages of time.
He doesn't go home right away after he finishes his work, he chooses to sit in a nearby hotel because the hotel owner's wife is a woman with high emotional intelligence, and she feels comfortable chatting together.
Sometimes, I feel sorry for my wife, but in reality, I still can't control my behavior and spend more time with her.
Running a marriage is like eating vegetables, if you eat cabbage and tofu every day, it is inevitable that you will become addicted when you eat braised pork occasionally.
A married man will find another woman, nothing more than being bored with his wife at home, although he can't completely give up marriage, but he still can't refuse the different fresh feelings that other women bring to him.
3. Emotions cannot be self-disciplined, and the use of emotions is not exclusive.
Some people are, in essence, a person who cannot control themselves.
Clearly know that there are some things that you can't do after getting married, because you have lower requirements and a lower sense of morality, or when the opportunity is ripe, do something you can't do.
People who are emotionally undisciplined don't have the boundaries they should follow.
No woman would feel safe with a man like that.
The most classic image is Qu Lianjie in "Ode to Joy", who likes to fool around with other women in his marriage to his wife.