After I got married, I quit my job as an editor and concentrated on my husband and children at home. Although Xiao Ming doesn't like children very much, he still supports me very much. We've had a happy year, and we've had only a handful of fights.
Until one day, I couldn't stand it anymore. "Xiao Ming, I want a divorce. I plucked up the courage to say to him.
Xiao Ming was surprised, and he asked me why. I told him that there were too many trivial problems in life to accumulate and I really couldn't bear it, so it was better to separate. Xiao Ming was silent, and then said that if this was my decision, he would respect it.
A week later, we went to the Civil Affairs Bureau to prepare for the divorce procedures. The two of them were silent for the time they waited. I looked at his familiar side face, and an inexplicable reluctance rose in my heart. At this point the staff called our names and I stood up.
This is your divorce agreement, please sign it here. "The staff put the divorce certificate in front of us.
Xiao Ming didn't look at me, and directly signed his name. It's my turn, I picked up the pen, but my hand was shaking.
Xiaohong, do you sign it?Xiao Ming asked puzzled.
I took a deep breath: "Xiao Ming, let's think about it again, don't worry about divorce." ”
Xiao Ming's eyes widened: "Didn't you say you wanted a divorce?"Why did you change your mind again?”
I didn't know how to explain it, but I said, "Just let me be crazy." We'll go back and talk about it. ”
Xiao Ming shook his head helplessly and said to the staff that we will not be divorced today. We apologized to the Civil Affairs Bureau and left there.
At the same time, Xiao Ming moved back to his parents' house.
Back again?His father said, "Didn't you say you were going to get married last time, why did you get divorced so soon?"”
Hey, the story goes on. Xiao Ming said with a frown.
How can you divorce casually for such a big thing as getting married?"This little red is also unreliable, tossing people back and forth." ”
Two days later, I couldn't help but dial Xiao Ming's number.
Hello?Little Red?There was surprise in his voice.
Xiao Ming, let's come out and talk. I plucked up the courage to say.
All right. He didn't hesitate and agreed directly.
We made an appointment to meet at the café. Xiao Ming came early and was already waiting for me in his seat. He was wearing my favorite blue shirt and his hair was a little unkempt and he probably hadn't had time to comb it when he woke up. My heart beats hard at the sight of him.
How are you?I tried to make my tone light.
It's okay, my parents have been nagging non-stop these days, and it's a little annoying. He laughs.
I nodded: "I'm not used to living alone either, I don't Xi feel empty." ”
yes, suddenly became single, not very adaptable. I've forgotten what it was like to be single. ”
Yes, yes, so do I. ”
We chatted a little bit more about our daily lives, like old friends. I secretly looked at him, watching him frown, scratch his head, and cross his legs, I actually knew all those small movements, but at this moment I felt that they were all new.
I nodded, and he continued: "Divorce is too hurtful for both parties and will leave a lot of regrets. Why don't we give each other another chance and repair this relationship?”
I took a deep breath and whispered, "I agree, let's try again." ”
Xiao Ming's eyes lit up, and he held my hand excitedly: "Great!."I promise that I will listen to you more and will not let you be wronged again. ”
I squeezed his hand and nodded. And just like that, we lived together again.
At first, life seemed back on track, and we would spend time communicating, dating, and finding ways to please each other. But it didn't take long for some small stumbling blocks to appear again: Xiao Ming is grinning, and I am more serious. What used to be a place to tolerate each other has become more sensitive.
In this way, the frequency of quarrels is getting higher and higher, and sometimes a trivial thing can be noisy until the face is red and the neck is thick. Every time Xiao Ming apologizes afterwards, but the problem still exists. Finally, one day, I couldn't bear it anymore and broke down and cried.
Please, Xiao Ming, let's get a divorce. I really can't stand it anymore. ”
Xiao Ming was stunned, and his face became ugly. But finally, he nodded and said, "Well, since you're in such pain, let's get a divorce." ”
So, we came to the Civil Affairs Bureau again to prepare for the divorce. My heart is like ashes, and I don't look at Xiao Ming. Bits and pieces of the past churned in my mind, and I was sad, but knew that this was the only way out.
Hello, is there anything I can do to help you?The staff asked with a smile.
Let's get a divorce. Xiao Ming said.
Xiao Ming and I were stunned when we heard this. It's true that we canceled halfway last time, but we didn't expect it to be so impactful.
So, we have to wait another month for a divorce?Xiao Ming asked in disbelief.
Yes. Within 30 days of the registration of the divorce, if either party repents, the divorce process must be restarted. The staff patiently explained.
My heart sank. That meant we had to live together for another month, which was a bit of a pins and needles for me.
Xiao Ming was also helpless, he said to me: "It seems that we can only hold out for another month." I'm going to leave it to you for this time. ”
I nodded reluctantly. On the way home, the two were silent. How hard it is going to be this month, I thought to myself.
Unexpectedly, there was a subtle change in our relationship during the time we were forced to live together.
One day, Xiao Ming said to me: "Actually, I'm doing well these days, but I'm not in a hurry to get a divorce." We might see this as an opportunity to mend the relationship”
I thought about it and nodded, "Maybe." We really get along these days. This time of cohabitation has allowed me to see some bright spots in our relationship. ”
Yes, it allows us to focus on the positive. "We can take this opportunity to find out the root cause of the problems in the past and find ways to solve them." What do you say?”
I nodded again, "Okay, let's give it a try." ”
So, we began to discuss the past in earnest. Xiao Ming admits that he was not meticulous enough to be considerate of my thoughts;I also reflected on myself being too sensitive and harsh. We finally reached a consensus on some issues and set a more reasonable standard of life.
Relationship improvement goes both ways. After realizing his shortcomings, Xiao Ming became more patient and considerate;My emotions were relieved as a result. For a while, the idea of divorce was put behind us and replaced by anticipation for the future.