Children can speak sentences from about one year old, and this skill will stay with people for the rest of their lives. But how to speak well, make others listen to it comfortably, and be able to express one's own opinions, so that others can listen to them, this is a skill that we need to learn well.
The host, Kang Hui, defines speaking in the preface of the book. The so-called ability to speak is that the person who speaks can meet the expectations of the obedient person to a greater extent. How to meet the expectations of obedient people, this requires a lot of insight.
You can learn a lot of speaking skills from this book, so let me lead you through two speaking skills.
1.Just say what others want to know.
Sometimes you talk about things that you are interested in, and others are just perfunctory. People who know how to express themselves will first say what the other person wants to hear and want to know, and then then what the other person can listen to, and then say what they want to say.
There is also a trick in this, which is to leave suspense appropriately when it comes to critical moments. People are naturally curious, and once they have doubts, they have to find out. However, you should also pay attention to being appropriate, you can't always leave suspense, you must solve the suspense at the right time, and satisfy the curiosity of the other party, so that the other party can have a better impression of you.
For example, if you want to introduce a book to your classmates, you can say why the book is so popular, but after reading it, you realize that it is not the book that is interesting, but the author's experience. If this classmate has heard of this book, maybe your words will catch her attention. You take the opportunity to talk about the author's experience what's so special, after solving the mystery, she may want to take a good look at the book.
2.Storytelling.
TV commercials are all about storytelling, and a good story is a good piece of publicity. If you talk about big things as soon as you come up, many people will find it annoying and can't listen to it. But if you express it differently, first tell the other party a story, use the story as a foreshadowing, and then extend your own views or truths from the story, then it will be easy to attract the other party, make the other party's emotions change, and even deeply touch their hearts.
Here's another trick, which is that the story should be something new around us. This kind of story is more meaningful and more likely to resonate with the audience.
For example, our parents, co-workers, friends, neighbors, etc., this is more immersive than telling stories about strangers.
Learn a little bit of the skill of speaking well every day, and one day you will find that change is quietly happening. So, let's start with this book.