Interpretation of the characters of "Do You Know If You Should Be Green, Fat, Red and Thin" Issue 125: Is it bad for girls to be powerful? Today, Xiaoxian'er gives you the answer.
In the original work, Minglan killed the Yu family in all directions, which shocked Zhu Manniang. After returning home, he was grounded by Mrs. Sheng and punished for copying Buddhist scriptures.
The reason is -Too flamboyant
Compared to Mrs. Yu and Yu Yanran, they are like flowers in a greenhouse, Minglan is so cool and capable, but she was punished by Mrs. Sheng, and Fang's mother gave a standard answer.
One of the standard answers, if a girl has a good life, she can be like a greenhouse flower, without combat power.
When Zhu Manniang took a pair of children to Yu's mansion, Mrs. Yu lay on the bed with less breath and more breath. Yanran could only cry.
Seeing Minglan coming, Mrs. Yu gasped and said, "You will be like my own granddaughter, go..."Go and give my incompetent girl a back! ”
Old Madam Yu has no combat effectiveness like this, but her life is too good.
Mrs. Yu was born in a Confucian family in Shandong, with gentle parents and strict family rules.
Husband Yu Ge is always his father's protégé, Yu Ge was appreciated by his teacher and married to him when he was poor, so he was very grateful, and he loved Mrs. Yu all his life.
Even after Yu Ge's career went smoothly, he did not change his husband and wife's feelings, and he and his wife were single-mindedly white-headed.
Therefore, Mrs. Yu, who had never seen a concubine, had zero combat effectiveness, even if she admonished her daughter-in-law, she had to ask Elder Yu Ge to come out in person.
Yu Yanran was brought up by Mrs. Yu, so her personality is soft.
Although there was a discordant episode in the marriage, after she was married to Dali by Yu Gelao, the husband and wife were harmonious and beautiful, and the in-laws were kind.
These two women are really surprisingly lucky. Therefore, they don't need to be strong themselves, let alone use means, to live happily.
Standard answer 2: The power of girls should be hidden in their hearts and not be domineering.
If you want to say that the typical representative of "domineering exposure" is Mrs. Wang.
First of all: in the face of her husband Sheng Hong, she didn't know how to be petty, and she used her mother's power to deter her.
At the beginning, when Sheng Hong and Kang Haifeng went to the Wang family at the same time to propose marriage, Wang and his sister fell in love with Kang Haifeng, who was born in a family.
However, Mrs. Wang loved her eldest daughter even more, so she let her younger daughter marry Sheng Hong. also persuaded her: "The Sheng family has a simple population, and the mother-in-law is not a relative, so she will not use the shelf to entertain her daughter-in-law, her husband-in-law is a motivated person, but if you have some help, you will have a good life in the future, as long as you are a daughter-in-law." ”
After the Wang family got married, as her mother said, life was smooth, her husband Sheng Hongsheng was handsome, and she was motivated, and her mother-in-law, Mrs. Sheng, would never take Qiao to her.
When she was just newly married, she and Sheng Hong were also a loving couple.
But after a long time, the Wang family always interfered in Sheng Hong's officialdom, and also took the benefits of others to force Sheng Hong to do this and that.
Sheng Hong didn't obey a little, so she moved out of her parents' house to shock Sheng Hong, and poked Sheng Hong's heart: "If there is no my mother's family, I can have you today." ”
As a result, Wang's mean and rude appearance took root in Sheng Hong's heart.
Secondly, in the face of concubines, the Wang family is even more frenzied.
Wang's title to Aunt Lin is "cheap maid", and he scolded Mo Lan even more "cheap|."Life is a".
At the beginning, when Aunt Lin had a big belly and wanted to enter the mansion as a concubine, the Wang family made a big fuss, and even felt that Mrs. Sheng deliberately gave the girl next to Sheng Hong as a concubine.
Aunt Xiang used to be Wang's personal maid, and the two of them were as good as sisters. Since the Wang family opened her face to Aunt Xiang, she has exhausted her friendship with Aunt Xiang's master and servant. is still in terms of food and clothing, and repeatedly criticizes Aunt Xiang's mother and son.
In the back house of the Sheng Mansion, the maids and mothers-in-law who have a good face dare to give Aunt Xiang's mother and son a look.
Again, facing the cousin-in-law in the next room, she also shook her face.
After Wang and Sheng Hong got married, they only returned a few times.
Although the Sheng family's big house is a businessman's family, it is extremely well-behaved, and Sheng Wei and his wife pity the weak and have a good reputation in Youyang.
But the Wang family felt that she was a young lady from the official family, and the Sheng family's big house was a businessman's family, so she threw Sheng Wei's wife Li a few times.
This made Li's heart uncomfortable, and the image of Wang's eyes above the top was deeply imprinted in the hearts of the people in the Sheng family's big house.
In the end, I treated my mother-in-law, Mrs. Sheng, and ignored it.
Wang's mother Liu once persuaded her: "Mother-in-law's food, clothing, and housing are all taken care of by herself, and you don't have to worry about Zhang Luo, which is a big unfilial piety;
Madam, you have a hundred reasons from the master, and you don't have a mouth for this alone. No matter how cold the old lady is and doesn't like others to disturb you, you always have to do your best to be polite and filial. ”
So, every time Wang's domineering is exposed, it makes people know that she is not a generous and kind woman.
Therefore, as long as Aunt Lin has red eyes in front of Sheng Hong, Sheng Hong will become a righteous person, either giving Aunt Lin a shop in the grange, or reprimanding the Wang family.
Standard answer 3: It is not easy to be a woman, but it is hidden in your heart.
In the original book, the powerful women from beginning to end are Mama Kong and Mrs. He.
The old lady who is sober in the world, although she is a master of house fighting, when she was young, she was also like the Wang family, domineering and exposed, pretending to be fierce on her face, and not allowing her husband to take concubines.
also gained a reputation of "good jealousy".
Mama Kong is also a hard-working person. Originally, the person who entered the palace was Mama Kong's half-sister.
However, her stepmother was afraid that her daughter would be guilty of entering the palace, so she should replace her daughter with Mama Kong, who was already engaged.
After Mama Kong entered the palace, from being bullied to the people respected by officials and dignitaries, I am afraid that only she knows the bitterness behind it.
And Mama Kong's younger sister married people, stole people, poisoned her concubine's mother-in-law, was divorced, and became infamous for the rest of her life.
Her stepmother went bankrupt for her daughter and eventually collapsed and died.
Does Mama Kong hate, of course she hates. But what can she do, she can only endure. Hide the power in your heart and use it at critical moments.
In order to make her best friend Mrs. Sheng angry, she took the opportunity of teaching Silan in Sheng's house to give Sheng Hong a good meal.
A cycle pattern when Sheng Hong and Aunt Lin get along, every time Aunt Lin first cries about her humble pity, and then Sheng Hong feels sorry for her, and then Aunt Lin becomes more pitiful and afraid of her future, crying endlessly, and then Sheng Hong soft-heartedly allows her to do this and that.
Then, Mama Kong said in one sentence: "If Aunt Lin has the same family background and dowry as Mrs., will she be small with Sheng Hong?" ”
Aunt Lin has always felt that Mama Kong was found by Mrs. Sheng to educate her, but in fact, she is not.
In the original book, when Mrs. Sheng whispered to Mama Kong, Mrs. Sheng said: "You are actually willing to come, I didn't dare to invite you." ”
It can be seen that the arrival of Mama Kong was not invited by Mrs. Sheng, but although Mama Kong said that she wanted to take this opportunity to escape from those dignitaries in the capital. In fact, I want to straighten out the family style for my girlfriends!
It just so happened that Silan made a mistake, and Aunt Lin bumped into her again.
So, Hua Lan worshiped Mama Kong like a god: "Mama Kong doesn't even speak loudly on weekdays, she is the most kind and kind, but she can punish people, but she is the way, and the people who are stunned have nothing to say, and the listeners are convinced." ”
And although Mrs. He does not have a wonderful life like Mama Kong, she is in the back house of He's mansion, and she is very prosperous.
Mrs. He's background is not as prominent as Mrs. Sheng's, even if she is married to a side branch of the He family in Baishitan, she is also high.
Mrs. He is also a greedy flower, but Mrs. He uses her own way to put Mrs. He's control of the obedience closely, there is no concubine in the family, and several aunts have long been gone, and the couple is becoming more and more beautiful.
can win among her husband and many aunts, and Mrs. He's hands are naturally stained with human life. From what Mrs. Sheng said to Minglan , it can also be verified:
I couldn't get used to her approach in the early years, but now it seems that there is no way! She often said, 'If others want me to die, I can want others to die, God and God', and you listen to it! ”
But such an old lady He who dared to kill people turned out to have black hair, plump body, ruddy complexion, and vertical and horizontal lines on her face, but she mostly had laugh lines, and she smiled when she saw people, and she was cheerful and enthusiastic.
Although she was only two years younger than Mrs. Sheng, she looked like she was ten years younger.
In this regard, Fang's mother explained: "If you just pretend to be good, but your heart is vicious and despicable, not only will you hurt the vagina, but you will also be tired and panicked for the rest of your life; Take a good look at this old lady, she is the real skill! Live happily, never get angry in your heart, no one can survive her! ”
It can be seen that the strength of a woman should be used on the blade, not domineering, and hidden in the heart.
From ancient times to the present, the requirements for women are higher than those of men.
is like Wang's sister Aunt Kang, although she is very bad, she wants to live a better life when she marries Kang Haifeng. However, Kang Haifeng is not a man that women can rely on.
During the period of worrying about his father, Ding gave birth to several children, and his career was hopeless.
Kang Haifeng didn't think about how to return to his career, but hid in the back of the Kang family and gave birth to a child. But he has no business mind, and the family's expenses all depend on Aunt Kang's dowry.
So, Aunt Kang killed Kang Haifeng's concubine and children in the back house of Kang Mansion in retaliation.
Although Aunt Kang is hateful, Kang Haifeng is the initiator.
Old Lady Sheng once said to Minglan with unprecedented indifference and solemnity: "You have to remember that when you really reach that situation, you will live and die; If you pity others, you will die! ”
A woman wants to be "powerful", and she must hide "powerful" in her heart.
This sentence has always been remembered by Minglan .
Even if Minglan was pampered and loved by Gu Tingye after she got married, she still looked harmless to humans and animals, but she could use her own way to block Xiao Qin's attack.
Even if Xiao Qin's family was anxious about Gu Tingcan's marriage, he reminded Minglan to merge the mansion more than once, and Minglan also prevaricated on the grounds of "breaking ground and building a house and repairing a mansion, this is not a trivial matter.
Angry, Xiao Qin stomped his feet.
Therefore, if a woman wants to live a comfortable life, she must know how to hide her clumsiness and avoid showing her edge!
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