As the saying goes, "If a husband and wife do not send a funeral, the funeral will suffer". What does that mean?What do you say?
We all know that birth, old age, sickness and death are the fate that no one can escape. Whether it is an emperor or a commoner, they will have to face such a day in the end. When people leave, they have to settle in the ground, which is a tradition that we have been in China for thousands of years. Funeral culture is also part of our culture.
However, everyone is quite afraid of death. After all, no one knows what it will be like after death. Therefore, some customs and sayings about funerals have been handed down. Among them, there is such a sentence: "If the husband and wife do not send the funeral, the funeral will suffer." What does that mean?In other words, if the husband or wife of the family is gone, it is better for the other spouse not to go to the funeral. Why?There's something to say here.
1. There is no blood relationship between husband and wife
The most important thing for us Chinese is blood relationship. When it comes to funerals, relatives who are usually related by blood usually go there. Although the relationship between husband and wife is deep, in the final analysis, there is still no blood relationship. Therefore, according to traditional customs, there is no funeral between husband and wife.
2. Emotional vulnerability and pain
Couples are the most intimate partners. When the other half is gone, the pain is indescribable. At this time, if you still have to go to the funeral and see the person you used to know the most well lying there, the emotional impact is great. Therefore, in order to avoid this emotional pain, there is no funeral between husband and wife.
3. Physical considerations
We all know that attending a funeral is a physical job. And because of the deep relationship between husband and wife, when the other half is gone, the grief is indescribable. If you have to go to a funeral, not only will you be physically overwhelmed, but you may also fall ill due to excessive grief. Therefore, for the sake of physical health, husbands and wives do not send funerals to each other.
4. Local customs and legends
China is a vast country, and each place has its own customs and legends. Some customs and sayings about funerals are also varied. In some places, there is a saying that if a husband and wife are buried, it will bring bad luck or even bad luck. Therefore, in order to avoid these unnecessary troubles and customs that plague many places, there is a saying that "husbands and wives do not send funerals".
In general, although the saying "husband and wife will suffer if they do not send a funeral and send a funeral" has no scientific basis, it also has a certain truth from the perspective of emotion, culture, and customs. Nowadays, funerals are not so restrictive and exquisite, but in some places, these traditional customs are still preserved and passed on.